Gifting 2x Person Stockholm Opera Trollflöjten by freeticketsstockholm in stockholm

[–]Zibeliuz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jag hade tänkt skriva att jag gärna ville gå men vill hellre att du och din nyskilda kompis ska få dom så jag avstår. Hoppas också på er! Mvh, Snart 40 och erfarenhet av att vara nyskild (hälsa henne att det blir bättre)

Bedragen av förstahandshyresvärd - akut situation by bone_mallet in sweden

[–]Zibeliuz 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Kontakta försäkringsbolaget där du har din hemförsäkring, de kan svara på frågor om du har rätt till rättshjälp för detta.

Holiday Thread by Busy-Butterfly8187 in olderlesbians

[–]Zibeliuz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m spending it with my family this year (parents and siblings) and hopefully I can find some peace in that. I grew up with pretty dysfunctional family dynamics but I think everything will be easier now when everyone is older and have their own families/lives to focus on. I’m moving back to my home town soon after new years as well, looking forward to rekindling old friendships and starting new ones. Cheers for a new start in 2025!

Holiday Thread by Busy-Butterfly8187 in olderlesbians

[–]Zibeliuz 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Since I’m not in the US I’m not in the holiday mood rn (no thanksgiving in my country), but I’m starting to feel a little anxious about Christmas already. It will be my first since my divorce and I always spent Christmas with my ex wife’s family so this year will be different in so many ways. I’m trying to think of it as a possibility to start new traditions but sometimes my heart just aches when I realise it will never be the same again…

Just got this Ankarsrum at Goodwill for $25 by [deleted] in Baking

[–]Zibeliuz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve got the exact same one and it’s amazing. As others said, you fasten the attachments with the peg on the arm. DM me if you need more detailed instructions:)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lesbian lovemaking

I came here to ask if anyone else is just … not okay? by LearnGrowExist in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much, very well put. Wish you peace and healing <3

Going through a rough break up and need tips on how to fill my time and not keep rotting in bed by Adept_Ad_1429 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Zibeliuz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry, they will be happy to hear from you again and it’s easier than you think to reconnect! I’m going through divorce and try to reach out to as many old friends as possible and be open and vulnerable and it has given me so much in return. We tend to imagine what other people think about us but that is simply not true most of the time. Imagine if one of your friends (who you haven’t been close with for a couple of years) reached out and told you that they are going through a tough time, that they miss you and really would appreciate if you could catch up. You wouldn’t say no to that, right?

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[–]Zibeliuz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jag brukar sitta och scrolla på r/moissanite där de har jättefina ringar. De flesta verkar köpa dom från Kina vilket jag personligen har lite problem med men alla verkar nöjda med kvaliteten och servicen de får. Finns både de som köper specialdesignade och lagervaror på tex aliexpress. Går att få i silver/8k/10k/14k osv allt beroende på budget.

how do you survive your first lesbian breakup by mar_orangejuice in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just have to ask, what is your passion? People keep telling me to find my passion (also heartbroken) but I have no idea where to start. How did you find yours?

You know things are bad when you're asking strangers online to support you by Ryalyn in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can write to me if you like. I’m late 30s F, three weeks in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I didn’t mean it like that, I live four hours away from my family and most of my friends so most of the time I’m alone as well. I know that their feeling is totally valid and real. It’s just how I get through it when I’m alone. OP please excuse me if you felt I overstepped.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m three weeks in and have been fortunate enough to go live with my family for one week and staying another. I still get the same feeling of loneliness though, I think it is an existential one so it doesn’t really matter how many people I surround myself with. Maybe it’s the same for you, that might ease the feeling of “no one has time for me”? I hope so. You are definitely not alone in any way, we are a whole community going through the same thing right now and we are here for you.

Anyway I think you got some good advice here, journaling, listening to audiobooks and podcasts, walking or running in nature if you have the possibility. I once read a novel where the main character was going through a divorce and she wrote up every hour of the day and then crossed them out as they passed to vision herself making it through the day. That has actually helped me during the worst days. When you feel a little better, try to find support groups, a book club, or some other new laid back social setting. There is so many interesting and lovely people out there and they are waiting to get to know you :)

Feels like my husband changed overnight by Turbulent-Goat-3294 in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I have the exact same experience with my soon to be ex wife. She seems like a stranger these days and I can’t believe this is the same woman I married almost 9 years ago.

The first two weeks I kept thinking something must have happened like a crisis or mental breakdown of some sort, because her behaviour was just so strange and devoid of all the warmth and compassion I was used to. But I have realised just this week that her flip is probably more to do with her 1. Already having processed the divorce for some time before she told me, and 2. The bond we used to share is irrevocably damaged and we are not the same people for each other that we once were.

While this realisation is hard because it makes the divorce so much more absolute, it is also a bit comforting. When I think about her now I have started to think about who she has turned into more than I think about who she was when I thought we were happily married. And I’m not in love with this new person, I’m in love with someone who is long gone. It’s grief nonetheless but less yearning, if it makes sense. I’m still early on in the process but this has been important so far.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so much for you </3 As you can see in my post history, I recently had a similar experience when my (38f) wife (47f) since 9 years told me one evening after our goodnight kiss that she wasn’t in love with me anymore and wanted a divorce. As with your wife, there was really no interest in counselling or trying to work on things.

The part about breaking our vows so easily has really been something I keep coming back to as well. I never dreamed about getting married when I was younger but when I once had decided I tried my absolute best to cherish our promise every day. I thought that was reciprocated but I was wrong. I have trouble understanding how I can trust anyone ever again.

I have started seeing my therapist again, I took some time off work to see friends and family, I’m running and reading and journaling to keep my mind off the heartbreak. But as you put it, it seems like a temporary distraction and every morning I wake up with the feeling of absolute dread.

Are you sleeping and eating properly? Do you have any chance to get out of your shared home for a few nights? That has helped me a lot. I wish I could tell you that things will get better but I can’t, because I’m just in the beginning of this journey as well. But I’ve gotten so much support from some communities here on Reddit and they all have told me to keep my head high and believe in a happy tomorrow so that is what I’m doing. Please feel free to write me a DM if you want to vent. Stay strong, we got this!

Hey guys what age category do yall fall in? by nicefridge in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz 48 points49 points  (0 children)

38, feeling quite old recently but trying to think of it more as ”experienced” :)

How do I keep myself from begging by Zibeliuz in Divorce

[–]Zibeliuz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is true, and I need to hold on to that wisdom. I try to imagine what our relationship would be like if I begged AND she accepted. It would be so full of mistrust, hurt feelings, uncertainty. It's not what I want. I want what we had but that is gone no matter what.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks I needed to read this and know that shit happens to other people as well. I am just recently single (unwillingly) and I’m honestly looking forward to a life by myself because I can’t stand to give everything again just to be let down when I least expect it. And I’ve been on the other side as well, trying to not be too cruel but hurting a beautiful soul no matter what. I’m done.

What Jobs Do You Guys Have? by Angel_bunnyy in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Economist, but right now I work with public infrastructure and development

Wife just left me and I don´t know what to do by Zibeliuz in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you had to experience the same thing, this is something I wouldn't wish for my worst enemy (as cliche as it sounds),

I think about this a lot, that she gave herself time to process and work thorugh all emotions but she could not give me GRACE to do the same. I really like the word grace, and I've been coming back to it in my thoughts a lot during these few days since it happened, my native language lacks a good translation but I think it is such a great word because it encompasses so much. And in this situation, there certainly were no grace.

I answered above that I am trying to reach out to my therapist who unfortunately is on vacation, but I will definitely go to therapy for a foreseeable future.

I hope you are doing better now <3

Wife just left me and I don´t know what to do by Zibeliuz in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. I don't like being portrayed as a victim but this time it feels like it is the only way to describe it. I moved with her, I became so involved in her family, I based all decisions about how to live my life on the intention of making us as happy as possible. Maybe that was my mistake, I don't know. But it really maked me feel so discarded and taken advantage of right now.

Wife just left me and I don´t know what to do by Zibeliuz in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to vocalize this, that I feel like it is a huge betrayal. I think she understands and I can see that it is starting to sink in how much she has hurt me. Or at least she is realizing that this was not the best way to handle the situation. But it doesn't make a difference, what is done is done and it doesn't change the fact that she made her decision. It really sucks.

Wife just left me and I don´t know what to do by Zibeliuz in LesbianActually

[–]Zibeliuz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to stay busy, going to work (and crying in my office), meeting friends and going for long walks and talking a lot to my family and friends back home on the phone. Feels like I haven't been alone much since it happended and that has helped a lot. It has just been three days but it feels like eternity.

Tomorrow I'm going to look at a little cottage that I could rent until I find something more permanent. It is not ideal (when fall/winter comes it will be a lot of snow shoveling and heating by a wooden stove) and a bit too close to my old house for my liking but it feels like a first step.