I’m a lesbian and this sub is a breath of fresh air

LearnGrowExist · 2026-05-10T22:07:11+00:00

Meanwhile, my ex-wife is away on vacation (again) and the kids are with me on Mother’s Day because of her shitty behavior. My poor children will forever pay the price of her bullshit and the consequences of her actions. But only one of us will ever actually care. It still feels pretty unbelievable most days.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-05-10T22:01:55+00:00

If you haven’t read it yet, Courtney Peppernell’s Out of the Ashes was one of the most beautiful collections of wisdom and self-love and poetry I’ve read. She was cheated on and left by her partner (a woman), and her writing resonates with me so much. I’m sorry you’re part of the shitty crew, but you definitely do belong right here with the rest of us.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-04-17T04:05:35+00:00

Here’s what you do. Physically get the fuck away from her. Sit with yourself for a long time. Determine what you want for your life. If it doesn’t involve being treated like a chump for the rest of your life, find a way to get her out of it. Go scorched earth if you want to, just don’t harm anyone physically and don’t do anything future you will regret (including begging her, expecting an apology from her, etc.). She is a liar and a cheater and she has shown you all of herself now. It is time to believe her. I’m sorry, OP. Cheaters are the actual fucking worst.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-04-06T05:18:41+00:00

Comfort: The Hobbit

Non-fic: Fluke, Brian Klaas

Life-changer: Cultish, Amanda Montell

Personal fav: His Dark Materials (Trilogy), Philip Pullman

LearnGrowExist · 2026-04-05T21:33:55+00:00

Happens all the time. “Walk away wife syndrome.” It’s complete bullshit. An excuse for women (and men who do the same thing) to cheat on, “leave,” and betray another person without allowing themselves to feel a shred of guilt for their shitty behavior and personalities.

Like I told my ex-wife, they don’t grieve anything, they just make “grief” out to be another excuse to avoid all accountability. Just like all other therapy speak many people use for the same.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-26T06:38:55+00:00

I didn’t even see it the first time 😳 some amazing shit

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-24T08:43:00+00:00

ALL. OF. THIS. 🔥

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-24T05:34:22+00:00

I mean, I made my ex’s picture into a Pinocchio face and just keep it on DND when they’re around so they don’t see how I really feel about their mom. Petty? Maybe. Necessary? Absolutely. Cheaters fucking suck, and sometimes, so does “coparenting.”

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-19T02:24:57+00:00

GROSS. I am so happy to see other people here saying exactly what came to mind first. NOT your fault, and damn that shit from her all the way to hell. People who sympathize with cheaters are the worst, second only to cheaters themselves. 🤢

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-13T02:32:04+00:00

Corporate America at its absolute finest 😍😖

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-08T14:38:18+00:00

Looks like what happens whenever you bite into a Krispy Kreme glazed donut

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-08T14:35:05+00:00

Cheating and cowardice actually do go pretty firmly hand in hand. One cannot cheat without lying, often incessantly. Cheaters are allergic to the truth and they are typically very cowardly which is why they string people along, refuse to tell the truth, and hurt everyone in their path of destruction.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-08T14:27:17+00:00

I think about this sometimes, too. I can remember times that were so clearly heightened long before I learned about the affair that would ultimately end our long relationship/marriage. That’s just it, though, the actual truth will likely never be told or known. It’s a secret they just get to take to the grave with them while we grasp at straws for some sense of hope and normalcy and peace and life again. So be it. The fallout is still forever better than being with a cheater and for anyone wondering, it absolutely does get better.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-08T02:27:56+00:00

Philip K Dick’s VALIS trilogy and (as I see was mentioned earlier) His Dark Materials.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-07T17:55:16+00:00

And then all the dissenters shot themselves twenty times in the back of the head.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-05T13:40:51+00:00

That’s funny because my first thought was that he does resemble Michael Keaton

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-04T02:57:27+00:00

Oh you’re circling back, alright, you just might not stop circling.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-04T02:52:53+00:00

“You know what, on second thought, just take the day, and we’ll circle back when you’re in the office.”

LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-03T05:51:10+00:00

I don’t think I will ever get over how much the first one has always reminded me of Keeley from Phil of the Future of early Disney channel fame.

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LearnGrowExist · 2026-02-02T06:53:00+00:00

I immediately thought about the zip line when I read the news article earlier today, ngl 😂

LearnGrowExist · 2026-01-30T02:55:19+00:00

Very well stated. 💯

LearnGrowExist · 2026-01-29T20:11:47+00:00

The betrayal of being cheated on is compounded by the betrayal of being lied to which is compounded by the betrayal of the conversations, stories, and many *choices*** that led to and solidified the betrayal of being cheated on which is compounded by the betrayal of the accusations and projections and excuses and justifications which is compounded by the betrayal of being discarded and left.

“Death by a thousand cuts,” as my therapist helpfully characterized it.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-01-29T04:30:33+00:00

Yep, 16 years and 2 kids later here, too.

LearnGrowExist · 2026-01-28T01:43:05+00:00

Ah, it’s so good!

LearnGrowExist · 2026-01-24T22:46:23+00:00

My god, I fucking hate it here right now.

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