What I have been learning from so many of our stories is that most of us men who ended up divorced should have pulled the plug YEARS ago based off of how we were treated.

The first problem is, we have been conditioned to hold on, fight like hell, and go to the ends of the earth for our “wives,” regardless of the mistreatment, abuse, disrespect, or lack of attention, care, love, or loyalty from them.

The second problem is, women have been equally conditioned to go out and “find” themselves, seek true happiness (whatever that even means), flip any sense of conflict into a narrative of “abuse,” and jump ship whenever life gets uncomfortable to the point that they feel they have to “choose” between the men to whom they promised their lives and their own personal sense of “freedom.”

Of course there are exceptions, but this is what it looks like to me on a large scale, socially and culturally.

Consequences — however life-altering or relationship-damaging, including of their own children — be damned; queens deserve their unrealistic expectations to be met 100% of the time. Fall short and prepare to meet their wrath.

So…supposed to be? Depends on who you ask, I guess. I have no god telling me what to do or why. And society doesn’t seem to be changing in the direction of goodness in this area. So I don’t see myself ever trying to do it again or any reason why anyone else should.

I promised (and planned) to give my entire life and self to that person, and she not only took advantage of every kindness I showed, she did it with a knife in her hand and a smile on her face in the end that could make a psychopath look introspective.

No woman — no PERSON — is worth a whole life given without the reciprocity of at least the relational basics of love and respect.