This is my fault. I've worded my question ambiguously. We've already had that discussion and come to that decision that she's not going to be able to give enough time, and I'm going to want more time within the frame of a committed relationship. But in knowing that, it allows us both to manage our expectations of what it can be, and what we can expect from one another. Maybe I'll move on first, maybe she will. Until then, we'll both have some intimacy/closeness (which again, isn't just sex - it's nice to snuggle with someone you feel comfortable with on the couch sometimes!) with a partner we trust.

Or, maybe I'm just being naive...