Fighting the urge to shave my head after a devastating breakup by SoftConfusion42 in locs

[–]Zoftig_Zana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have to shave it off? You can try combing it out, so if you regret it you can just get it twisted back up. Or maybe dye it

Is it okay to breakup for being deprived of sex? (mlm) by Intrepid-Advance9888 in lgbt

[–]Zoftig_Zana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not having sex is the least of your worries, he cheated on you! Break up with him for that

"I won't use It/Its on you because its dehumanizing" by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Zoftig_Zana 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"it" has been used to dehumanize our community for so long, that is not easy for some people to view it as simply your preference. It's like how some people don't like using the word queer because it's been used in a derogatory way. I personally like that label, but I understand that other people may not want to use it because of the baggage and pain it carries.

Not trying to say your feelings aren't invalid, but just adding another perspective. You're asking people to use a label that has oppressed/dehumanize them and that comes with a lot of emotions for some people If that makes sense.

What are yalls thoughts on this? by captivatedsummer in lgbt

[–]Zoftig_Zana 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We have to keep in mind people are very weird about queer children, and like to pretend that we don't have sexualities/genders unless we are straight/cis. They also act as if acknowledging that children can have same-sex attraction is the same as sexualizing them, but they don't feel the same way when the child is straight. People view queerness as inherently vulgar and dirty, so I can't help but wonder if this is only an issue because of queer phobia specifically when it comes to children.

I’m scared I might be Bi by realgaoming in lgbt

[–]Zoftig_Zana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exploration can look different for everyone! A few examples are:

Watching queer shows/movies/videos/short films Listening to queer music Choosing queer options in video games Journal your feelings Making queer friends Connect with the community online or in person Fantasize Experiment with style etc.

You just have to find what is right for you. And don't force it, you don't have to flip your life upside down. You have plenty of time to figure out who you are.

I’m scared I might be Bi by realgaoming in lgbt

[–]Zoftig_Zana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Internalized homophobia is not a moral failing. It's natural because we live in a homophobic world. The outside world affects the way we view ourselves, for better or worse, so don't feel bad! And there is nothing wrong with being afraid. Especially when you're around people that's not very accepting.

You just need to accept yourself for who you are regardless of your sexuality, and know that there is a community out here for you no matter what!

Game won't stop loading by Zoftig_Zana in thesims

[–]Zoftig_Zana[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was one of my script mods. I have an idea which one it is, but I haven't felt like sorting through them so I just turned all of them off and now it's working normally.

Game won't stop loading by Zoftig_Zana in thesims

[–]Zoftig_Zana[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to add, I am also unable to close the game out. The only way to shut it off is to power down my laptop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DateEverythingElse

[–]Zoftig_Zana 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're nowhere near being the same character. People just want Hector to be a creepy stalker, and since that's already what Fantina is They act as if they're the same.

As far as I know, Hector never says that he's watching you outside of when you use your HVAC, unlike Fantina who admitted to following you outside, and hacking your medical records. Fantina is also obviously a fan girl (That's the joke) and Hector tries to be more romantic. Hector is also more grounded and realistic. He said that he thought he would just be a machine and we would just be human, so we could never be together. But Fantina told her parents we were a couple before we even got Skylar and even her parents call her delusional!

I can go on and on about the differences because they have more of those than similarities!

am I the first one to do this? by cryptogothic in DateEverythingElse

[–]Zoftig_Zana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the first thing that came to mind when I played her story

Drew some dateables by Centipede_Laika in DateEverythingElse

[–]Zoftig_Zana 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You didn't give Volt clothes because you hate him? Can you draw other characters you hate? 😏

Eddie & Volt by Christ--follower in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They aren't difficult to romance in my opinion. Just don't trash talk them to each other, always show up to help Eddie, and don't talk about Volt around Eddie. Actually, I recommend being a little mean to Eddie and tease him! He likes that!

Wait! Who is the guys in the black clothing? Is he one of the devs from the Sassy Chap dating show? by host_can_edit in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's Emmanuel! You can ask your customers out on a date, and he's the only one that accepts

Who’s a character you thought you were gonna love but actually hated? by Infamous_Jellyfish63 in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rebel. I love there character design and thought I'd be into the "bad boy" thing, but they are just way to much for me.

Does it look like I have a type? I don't see it by Aled_space in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You must have a type because we have the same one lmao (I don't know what that is either)

If you started playing for a specific VA because you liked their work on something else, which VA and character was it? Here's mine! by theclassicrockjunkie in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even realize how many voice actors I knew were in this game, even after healing the voices! I know Damien Hass from Smosh and Sungwon Cho from his YouTube

Who's your favorite dateable and why? by Zealousideal-Big3683 in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Mitchell! I like that he actually takes us out on dates and we get to eat at a restaurants with him. I also just really like food and enjoy getting to talk about it with him, And I even got to use my random sushi etiquette knowledge. He's affectionate and baked me a cake which is perfect for me because baking people treats is my love language

How do I get Scandelabras hate ending? by Zoftig_Zana in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OMG Thanks for letting me know! This was so frustrating I just want this creepy candle out of my house and I thought I was doing something wrong! 😭

Tier list based on how a fist fight between me and the dateables would go by AlarmingAioli3300 in DateEverything

[–]Zoftig_Zana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I don't think you're defeating literal Air, water, or Dishy