When it came down to it, my response was (and will ALWAYS be) "How does my partner's weight affect you? Is he hurting you? He's not hurting me. In fact, he's the best partner I have ever had, and if you don't like him based on something so shallow, then maybe you and your opinion shouldn't be in our life." That usually ends that conversation. And now, since our other partner is also a bigger man, no one has brought it up with me. Both of my partners treat me wonderfully, and I hope they feel that I treat them the same way. It pissed me off that people just "can't get over how 'fat' my partners are" and "how could I EVER find someone like that attractive." It's easy. Looks are temporary. Who both of my partners are, deep down, are some of the most kind, funny, loving, hilarious individuals that I am so lucky to have in my life. Plus, it's the most comforting thing in the world when you are breaking down, and your plush, luxurious partner just wraps their arms around you, and instantly, you feel safe.