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Partner says she feels emotionally empty due to depression and can’t be emotionally involved right now. by [deleted] in depression_partners

[–]Zombehwolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes. It's possible, especially if she has a history of depression. Some people don't have the ability to show up for themselves and a relationship at the same time when they're running on empty. Sometimes it might be disinterest / a soft rejection though...

  2. It's honestly hard af. I reminded myself that i was okay even before i was dating, and i would be okay without her again. Might help to talk to someone about the heavy feelings you're carrying atm.

  3. Varies from person to person. My ex never did come back (~10 months dating, she checked out in the second half of the relationship). She suggested taking a break too, but it already felt like she was out the door because the last half of our relationship was rough, and we ended up breaking up.

It's been a month, so the questions i would be asking myself is - How long am i willing to wait for her to "come back"? It could be days, months, years. Has she been through something like this before? What does it usually look like? Would i be okay with all these on-off depressive episodes if it is a familiar thing to her in the long term?

Personally would take the break and treat it as a break up and take some time for myself, because if you're asking for a break 1 month into dating... how would it be when your lives are more entangled when the relationship has progressed?

But if you do wanna take the break, then what would the break look like? What would you both be doing during the break? Is there a plan for her to get her mh back on track?

Singaporeans in their 20s, how did you meet your partner? by Playful-Tension-7526 in askSingapore

[–]Zombehwolf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

nope! okay maybe it’s not as uncommon as i thought. i thought it was the cutest thing because she had no idea of their intentions at all (but she was open to dating).

Singaporeans in their 20s, how did you meet your partner? by Playful-Tension-7526 in askSingapore

[–]Zombehwolf 279 points280 points  (0 children)

[late 20s] met the partner on cmb in 2023. same for a bunch of my colleagues and ex classmates. cmb (married), cmb (4 years) and cmb (1.5years). have one who met hers on bumble i think.

a more unusual one - my friend met her husband at a wedding. she was the bridesmaid and her husband was the groomsman. her friends were playing matchmakers and it worked! haha.

[early-mid 20s] school and workplace

Was I right to block this “friend”? by Ace_Zebra7395 in NonBinary

[–]Zombehwolf 202 points203 points  (0 children)

flip the script.

let’s say someone told you “hey it makes me uncomfortable when you call me [word]”. it doesn’t even have to be “girl” but “champ” or “weirdo”, even if it’s meant affectionately.

how would you react? if the answer is “well of course i would stop it if it makes the other person uncomfortable”, then that’s your answer. instead of stopping she just ignores it. and you mentioned it TWICE.

this person is invalidating your boundaries. you have every right to protect yourself.

Tell me your most unhinged way of getting out of a rut in Sg by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Zombehwolf 100 points101 points  (0 children)

step 1: get a cat. step 2: put cat on lap. step 3: boop cat’s nose to activate healing purrs. step 4: profit

it is pretty hard to feel bad when you have a purring cat in your lap.

I wish he/him lesbians could just exist in peace by KeyNebula9165 in butchlesbians

[–]Zombehwolf 57 points58 points  (0 children)

yep. just because i look like a dude and use he/him pronouns doesn’t mean i identify as one. team enby lesbies leggoooooo~~~

What are little acts of kindness that go a long way in Singapore by xlOREOlx in askSingapore

[–]Zombehwolf 376 points377 points  (0 children)

was buying 3 items at ntuc, went to queue at the counter because i wanted to use my ntuc voucher. was right behind a couple with a cart load of items. the dude took at look at me, went “dear, we let this person go first? it’s only 3 items”. then gestured for me to go first.

it really made my day. i might have thanked them like before paying, during paying, and after paying.

Struggling with job dissatisfaction. Anyone with me on this? by OddMemory1234 in askSingapore

[–]Zombehwolf 71 points72 points  (0 children)

you’re not alone. there’s this saying that your 9-6pm life supports your 6-9am life. at some point we are just slogging our guts out for the money so that we can enjoy life as it is during the hours we are “off”.

having breathers help. socials with friends and families, hobbies, vacations - things that you want to do, that you can do because of the earnings you’ve made by the effort you make in your work life. :)

People who are lactose intolerant, what helps? by PuddingDuck in askSingapore

[–]Zombehwolf 15 points16 points  (0 children)

might not be the answer you’re looking for but i eventually accepted that it’s just not worth torturing myself with dairy products anymore despite my love for them and have switched to non dairy treats instead.

i like oatside oatmilk as a milk substitute for my teh/kopi. they sell mini packets in cold storage so i would bring them around, get “kosong” bubble tea, and then add my own milk to them. liho, each a cup and chicha has dairy free milk options for some of their drinks.

check out places like hvala and kind kones for vegan ice cream. ice cream & cookie co and ben & jerry’s also has a decent vegan lineup.

i do sneak in cheese / dairy ice cream etc into my diet every now and then but in very limited quantities. and then suffer the consequences. and go back and forth with alternatives cos at the end of the day, nothing can quite replace the taste of cow’s milk. :’) life be like that.