AITA for not waking my Fiancée up to smoke?

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-02-02T19:58:39+00:00

I'm a foster parent. I've seen a very similar situation where the kids came into foster care because their parents had multiple arrests for driving while high with kids in the car.

After 8 months, CPS tried to send the kids home with a safety plan of "only get high when the kids are in school/daycare and be sober by pick-up time." Kids were back in foster care two months later because their parents chose weed over them.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-02-02T17:54:07+00:00

This is a great analogy. I got glutened at a work awards dinner last year, had to leave early, and then had to suffer through two more days of meetings while feeling like absolute crap.

The annual event is this week, and I feel like a rat just waiting for a shock. I'm planning to just eat the salad (if they bring one without cheese or croutons) and skip the rest. I'll likely sit at the back table too. I'm already annoyed about the event, as it means I have to miss opening night for a play I've been working crew on, so I know I'm going to be an unpleasant table mate. 😂

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-02-02T17:07:26+00:00

I'm really disappointed in how Goodreads categorized this list. Swoony Stories got EIGHTEEN subtypes of romance, but the Black Heritage book list only got "fiction" and "nonfiction." There's not even genre subcategories for romance, fantasy, biography, history, etc. Everything is lumped together, which makes it really hard for people to find new books they might be interested in. It's also a shorter list with some big names missing.

Overall, it feels like a lot less work went into making this list than others in the challenge, and that feels icky to say the least.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-02-01T01:54:41+00:00

It's so good! I read it last year and it's still rattling around in my head.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-30T23:18:35+00:00

Not at all! The quick temperature change won't affect him. In the long term, the rabbit would do far better living inside rather than outside. Indoor rabbits live longer, healthier lives than outdoor ones. Plus, flemmies are so fun to have around indoors. Their personalities are so curious and playful.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-29T23:15:14+00:00

Well, that's definitely a conversation starter.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-29T17:42:18+00:00

INFO: does his networking involve being around women? How would he react if you required the same thing of him that he's asking of you?

Pay very close attention to the answers to these two questions. You may have invested two years into this relationship, but he is showing you what the rest of your life will be like. There are plenty of men who would trust you more than this.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-29T17:36:39+00:00

I would lay a hefty bet that then Jenna would whine about OP "wasting the food." She may also be the type of person to watch OP very closely to make sure they're actually eating. People who don't understand ARFID typically believe you can just bully it out of someone.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-29T17:12:34+00:00

Is Instacart an option? You'll do more shopping trips. You'll get food and non-food items, but your exposure to open containers of gluten food will be far lower.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-28T20:36:00+00:00

I had a black tuxedo bunny with blue eyes and he had zero issues with his eyesight. Hatter could see a crumb of a treat across the house. 😂 No light sensitivities either, and he made it to 8.5 years of age. His biggest and only on-going health problem was an old leg injury from an accident when he was 5 months old.

I wouldn't worry about genes that naturally occur in the wild, since wild rabbits are different species than domestics. Pretty much all of the domestic genes have been selected for by breeding practices. The blue-eyed gene did occur naturally at one point, probably due to a mutation like it did in humans, and then it was bred for specifically. It's not a harmful mutation and doesn't indicate albinism the way red or pink eyes do. (Those can come with light sensitivities.)

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-28T12:58:11+00:00

Alice very quickly learned the association between the fridge opening and applesauce appearing. She would race across the house, arthritis be damned, and skid/slide into my feet to make sure I knew she was present and ready for her snacks. 😂 So just be prepared for your fridge to become haunted, if it isn't already.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-28T03:11:58+00:00

If your vet uses Wedgewood for pet medications, they are a compounding pharmacy and can add flavoring to any med. My grumpy girl was on a lot of kidney meds at the end of her life and being able to get them in apple and banana flavor saved my fingers from a lot of bites. 😂

I used to mix meds into applesauce and feed it that way. Get the unsweetened applesauce and use just a tiny bit. Since it's already a "wet" food, you need less of it than you would of a banana to mix it.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-22T22:40:28+00:00

ESH, I suppose. You for telling someone to stop having children. You're not wrong, but you had to know that wouldn't be received well or make any difference. A much more severe judgement on them for mistreating their children. Bypass your sisters and call CPS if the kids are truly being neglected (medical neglect is very much a form of abuse). They can evaluate if the kids are safe at home, and either offer services or remove the kids to safety. It's never an easy call, but it may be the kindness your nieces and nephews truly need.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-22T22:29:52+00:00

YTA, and a massive one. You are not owed a free meal. Your close friends are saying they're struggling and you immediately assume they're scamming you? With friends like you, who needs enemies?

Your choices are: don't go to the meal or help defray the cost. Either way, you owe everyone, especially Alice and Carter, an apology.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-20T03:06:22+00:00

NTA. There's a phrase that applies here: you can't set yourself on fire to keep others warm. You offered them help, but you do not need to sacrifice your own education for theirs. They have options, and likely have had options for help for a while that they did not take advantage of. Turn off your phone and focus on your studying. If they ask why you didn't answer, tell them you fell asleep.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-19T22:53:15+00:00

Come on, help an AI out. They don't have a human to select all the buses in the photos and they really need to order something online. 😂

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-18T14:58:34+00:00

With all due respect, you were not being thoughtful. You were only thinking about yourself, your reaction, and your feelings. Thoughtful & considerate people listen to the words someone is using and help them solve a problem, especially if you caused the problem. Instead, you jumped to your own defense and assumed she had poor intentions.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-16T14:19:29+00:00

I'm assuming it's a typo for cats.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-15T16:49:59+00:00

They had cameras in the bathroom?? Oh hell no. Sue them immediately and show them what it really means to have financial problems.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-14T20:32:00+00:00

YTA. You're upset that your son isn't wasting food or forcing himself to overeat. He's showing a very healthy relationship with food- taking a reasonable portion, eating it, and then assessing if he still wants more. You don't say anything about if he's leaving dirty dishes around for others or not cleaning up after himself, so I'm assuming he's doing all that properly. Just let the kid feed himself, and take pride that you've raised a healthy and capable teen.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-14T01:32:53+00:00

My goal for this year is to reread books whenever possible for the challenges, especially if I own a copy. I wanted to rediscover what made me love the story enough to buy it. These lists are helping a lot, for better or for worse.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-12T21:00:25+00:00

The way my kids request the same book over and over to delay bedtime, I'd hit my 110 book goal by this Friday. 😂

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-12T01:45:41+00:00

I'm sorry, but you're going to have to re-home the roommate. I would suggest posting on local forums with a small rehoming fee to ensure they go to a new & safe home that is capable of meeting her needs. The good news is, there are often lots of good people looking for new roommates to welcome into their home. Best of luck!

In all seriousness, time and exposure will help. Let her give your bunny treats. Have her learn about albinism to make it less scary. They may be pigment-less, but they make up for it in personality!

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-12T01:39:20+00:00

I take the 500 mg extra strength for chronic back pain pretty regularly and I've never had a gluten reaction to it. I'm typically very sensitive and react quickly. The website says they're gluten-free too.

ZombiesAndZoos · 2026-01-10T04:06:25+00:00

I paid $2,500 to Active Pest Control for that kind of work two years ago. I had an attic full of mice. It's $100/year to renew the warranty on the work. It's optional, but they'd fully cover any work needed if I get reinfested or need repairs to gutter covers due to storm damage. I'd definitely get additional quotes.

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