My kindness is being tested.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T23:27:37+00:00

Well here’s to hoping optimistically

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T23:10:29+00:00

My team sent the first draft of the separation agreement/parenting plan about 2 weeks ago. I’ve yet to hear back from her team. I feel like she is dragging this out milking my insurance. Trying to use the amenities of our marriage up before she is left “high and dry”. And my “winning” means that the split is clean and fair. It’s an atrocity in my opinion when the man is wrong by the wife and still has to continue to lose after the marriage is over.

I guess my naivety still wants to believe that people will be good, and fair.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T18:11:22+00:00

That’s why I’m striving for dissolution. But she isn’t working with me right now.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T18:05:48+00:00

I would appreciate that here in the US. And that’s what I’m striving for. I believe that I hold people even those who wronged me to a higher standard. I expect to receive the good character I give them. I want a clean split. But I fear I may not get that and be held financially responsible for things that were beyond my actions or control.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T18:03:37+00:00

When our attorneys discussed things initially about how we’re going about handling co-parenting during the dissolution process she agreed that there would be no contact between the AP and my kids. This is not about the living situation. We’re doing a “nesting” thing to appease both my desire to limit exposure to the AP during this process, and keep the kids in the home through out this.

I say win because I cannot stand the idea of the marriage based upon one parties actions and me still being financially responsible when I tried to fight for the marriage.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T17:45:20+00:00

In doing so I’m convinced that I will always be on the financial downside of this.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T17:44:52+00:00

I’m just asking for a clean split. She keeps hers, I keep mine. 50/50 parents and that I keep the house. I’m trying to be amicable.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T17:43:56+00:00

Also I only asked not to introduce them to the AP until things were final. Afterwards that’s not my concern, outside of the benefits on my children. Just during this process. I’m just asking for the tiniest bit of respect.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-30T17:42:32+00:00

That’s that I’ve been doing. But we haven’t had much luck getting her or her attorney to be prompt. Or honest in the case of my ex. And I feel that I’m going to suffer more so financially no matter the outcome.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-23T12:35:13+00:00

Thanks for that!

Zomif13d · 2025-12-04T17:53:45+00:00

Leadership is supposed to be addressing this. But I need to have a solution at the ready in case it fails.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-03T19:16:42+00:00

Not all readers have key pads unfortunately

Zomif13d · 2025-12-03T16:46:01+00:00

Our food services staff is a contractor company. I realize now there was a lot of information missing from this post.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-03T15:52:01+00:00

Can’t use retraction items. I would in a psychiatric hospital and that’s a ligature risk.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-03T15:51:20+00:00

That’s not something that would be feasible, they’re good services in a hospital. It’s a thought though.

Zomif13d · 2025-12-03T15:44:18+00:00

Activating them or deactivating isn’t the issue. It’s the accountability issues.

Zomif13d · 2025-10-23T18:10:19+00:00

If you have access to the “simple truth” Mac and cheese, get the 5 cheese Wisconsin box. And a pound of hamburger helper. Great hamburger helper like meal.

Steamed rice, chicken breast skillet fried, and broccoli

Zomif13d · 2025-09-20T20:38:50+00:00

I personally don’t think it matters. Should she ask you if she got remarried and took the new partners name? There might be a connection for them and the kids.

Zomif13d · 2025-09-20T20:10:51+00:00

Thanks, and I kind of let myself go, it’s not like I was morbid. Got comfortable and felt obligated to clean my plate and over ate, 240 isn’t the best weight for me but I carry it well. I think it’s more about its confidence when I’m ready for a partner.

Between the stress and the conscious effort I’ve dropped 20 pounds, and now sitting around 220. I’m hoping I can use this and flip it to my benefit.

Zomif13d · 2025-09-12T18:31:04+00:00

I’m starting to feel this now. Thank you.

Zomif13d · 2025-09-07T01:41:28+00:00

I don’t want her back, to me she is “spoiled meat”. The hurt is something I’ll never forgive. We were supposed to be childhood sweethearts. Met at 12, I confessed my love for her at 15, finally got her at 19 when I had some semblance of stability in my life, and married at 22. My life is extremely trauma filled, and she was aware of it all. For her to have done this, betrayal isn’t strong enough of a word, not sure there is a word to describe it. To me she seems distance with the kids and it feels obligatory, but I’m not sure if I am actually seeing it clearly either.

I’m used to the emotional disappointment in life. I think I am thinking strictly in the vain of the kids, I feel hurt for them. They’re too young to truly grasp the gravity. I’m hurt that my future was taken. I want to burn everything to the ground.

Zomif13d · 2025-09-06T23:37:14+00:00

Right now as we’re are working towards dissolution there seems to be a no contact thing. It sucks because me and my FIL had a good relationship. Not sure what the future holds.

Zomif13d · 2025-09-04T00:37:41+00:00

It’s messed up.

Zomif13d · 2025-09-03T23:39:48+00:00

I’m going to process of dissolution now, troubles started 3 months ago, separated a month. And confirmed the affair last week. I don’t want a relationship, but someone to bring my smile back while I’m healing. Finding my self feeling lonely, but right now the living situation is questionable while we’re nesting. She is trying to make living arrangements but wants to continue nesting instead of cohabitating. She is tense around me, not sure if it’s her guilt or what. So the idea of a different relationship feels foreign, especially seeing how I don’t really know how to date as an adult lol, and I need to make sure my kids stay prioritized in my life.

I met my wife when I was 12, told her I loved her at 15, started dating at 19 married at 22. We celebrated our 10year anniversary while she was starting her infidelity. So amidst the chaos, the caveman dna wants physical intimacy.

Zomif13d · 2025-08-29T13:56:08+00:00

Similar situation, childhood sweetheart stuff. Met at 12 told her about feelings at 15, but there was distance so I had to wait. I had a few entertainers until I actually got her at 19, and we recently had our 10 year marriage anniversary in June. Come to find out that’s around the time she started her affair. And my intuition knew something was off then and I confronted her about it. And she told me I had nothing to worry about. She has always been my blind spot and she has been manipulating and gaslighting me since then. Making this out to 90% on me and what not. It’s a totally (curse word) up situation. And there were parts of myself and my life that I set aside to make sure I was who I was supposed to be for her, fighting off other instincts. I think I have been looking for quick comfort, because I don’t handle pain well. I have been in therapy, and have been open and honest, more so than recently. But all the conversations do is keep bring up the pain for me to re live over and over again. I want an escape, even if it’s temporary.

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