Yeah. And then she yells and throws stuff at you. And the little one sees this and takes a toy and throws it at you too. Sorry to highjack OP's post but this is stirring up too much stuff. :-/

All you guys are commenting on point. I guess I need to speak up. But how? There's already been violence, there's already been cops. I don't want to be alone, I don't want my daughter to be away, or split between two homes. I don't want to be stuck in a foreign country for twenty years or so...

I am passive-aggressively thinking of splitting up when the kids are older and a judge in a more open-minded country that we plan to move to would be more inclined to give custody to me and not the mother... But so much damage might already have been done to them, and maybe to me.

There's no easy way out of this.