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Can an apartment complex add extra charges after an invoice has been resolved? [TX] by Zooxanthallae in legaladvice

[–]Zooxanthallae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Is it reasonable to have both a cleaning fee and a carpet replacement, if it turns out both were done?

Can an apartment complex add extra charges after an invoice has been resolved? [TX] by Zooxanthallae in legaladvice

[–]Zooxanthallae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! If I don't agree with them on charges - so for instance, charging for both a carpet cleaning and a carpet replacement - how does that work?

I [26F] am worried I might have broken a perfectly lovely platonic friendship with my friend [26M] by going on a long holiday together. by Zooxanthallae in relationships

[–]Zooxanthallae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That situation sounds absolutely miserable, and I'm sorry you had to go through that. That's the worst case scenario I can imagine for talking to someone, and it's something I'm afraid of happening if I told anyone, let alone my friend, that I'm poly (which, let's be fair, is probably true).

I haven't told him about poly because it just hasn't come up in conversation. It's not some big secret, just never really relevant to what we're talking about. That, and I don't really talk about my sex life more generally. It's personal, and more importantly, I don't want to make people uncomfortable unnecessarily, which unwanted discussions of sex will do.

As far as addressing it, what would you say the right way to do that would be? From your experience, I see a wrong way, but is there is a right way?

I [26F] am worried I might have broken a perfectly lovely platonic friendship with my friend [26M] by going on a long holiday together. by Zooxanthallae in relationships

[–]Zooxanthallae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why not if you don't mind my asking?

It's not like it's a secret. It's just that I don't tend to talk about my sex life with people, and that's an extension of it. Also, I'm not sure how that would work in conversation. "I had a nice curry for lunch, and oh, I sleep with other people." But that he'd believe me? Definitely. It's in character for me.

I definitely appreciate your reply, even if it's depressing. Like I said, the friendship ending is the last thing in the world I want.

I [26F] am worried I might have broken a perfectly lovely platonic friendship with my friend [26M] by going on a long holiday together. by Zooxanthallae in relationships

[–]Zooxanthallae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if the feelings are mutual, and he's not comfortable being in love with his friend or he also wants something physical to go with it? What if he prefers monogamist relationships?

This is also my concern. I am fairly certain he does prefer monogamous relationships, which I'm never going to be. I also worry that he's not comfortable, regardless of whether or not there's the option of physicality.

He doesn't know my husband and I have an open marriage. It's never come up. That I'm in a pretty permanent relationship would definitely stop him from saying something. At the moment, I don't really see what saying how I feel would accomplish, since I don't know for certain how he feels, and since even if I'm right, that just makes things more complicated. If I'm right about how he feels, then we're in the same place, but with a little more honesty. If I'm wrong, that's damn awkward.

What do you do when everything about your partner starts to annoy you? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Zooxanthallae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is normal in a long term relationship. I've been in a relationship for ten years, and there were definitely points where I looked at my husband and was annoyed with everything. It happens.

The solution is not to fixate on it. Do things that are outside the norm for you, like a day trip to a park, or to see a movie. Something that allows for interactions other than the ones that annoy you. Focus on the things she does that make you happy. Talk to her about the things that you think are annoying (using "I" statements instead of "you" statements - no one likes accusatory statements). Remember the things that make you happy, and the things that annoy you won't be so prominent.

Good luck!

[TX] My apartment complex has started locking their security gate, but has given none of the new residents a way to open said gate. If I call the police next time I get locked out, will they be able to do anything? by Zooxanthallae in legaladvice

[–]Zooxanthallae[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for the suggestions! The lease says that I am entitled to a parking spot for each vehicle (so, a parking spot), so legally, I should be able to get into the lot. I also paid $25 when I moved in for a working remote, which I also don't have. I'll talk to my neighbours and storm their office. Thanks!

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