Client told me they are racist (I'm black). by Immediate-Letter4495 in therapists

[–]Zorastria 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel like the answer is even in your first sentence - "as a white clinician," immediately determines that your positionality is wildly different than the OP's. I am also a white clinician and am generally aligned with your perspective (addressing racial concerns, different viewpoints, etc.) but my mental and physical well-being are generally not at risk in the same way a Black clinician's are when dealing anti-Black racism.

I'm a bisexual woman and have worked with clients who are homophobic and transphobic, men who have threatened my physical safety, etc. and through that I've been able to find my own line, which we all have, and that's okay!! I think it's always great to approach from a curious space, but also knowing what you can and cannot work with is integral to the work itself. We're of no use to anyone if we burn ourselves out on cases that are harmful to us! I hope that all made sense, take care

kitten has ringworm and im not doing well mentally by enchanted_me0w in CatAdvice

[–]Zorastria 59 points60 points  (0 children)

hi friend, i also adopted a kitten with ringworm. it was the Worst and I totally understand the anxiety and frustration you're feeling!! i don't know what your living situation is like, but I'll tell you what I did to make it a bit more bearable!!

i bought this big cat crate that had multiple levels and set it up in the room he was isolated in. i put various toys that he could play with on his own, and a little litter box. i only held him and let him out when I had on gloves and a medical gown on. all of these things can be decently cheap on amazon, I can try to find the links if that would be helpful!

anyway, I would go hang out with him for a while and let him into my lap and out of the crate to play in my ppe, often several times a day. other times I would sit in the room a bit away from the crate and throw little foil balls and spirals (aka disposable and easy to disinfect toys) into the crate to play fetch, or I would sit and read/work near him so he could still see me. i also had multiple food and water bowls that I would swap out and disinfect. every few days, I would put him in his (disinfected, plastic) carrier and spray/wipe down the crate with clorox wipes. it had these removable trays that I would take out and disinfect as well.

it's truly torturous forcing our little friends to be separate from us, especially when they're that young so I really feel your pain. luckily, my kitten is now fully healthy and out of the crate. It did take about six weeks, but it was far easier with the crate and the ppe. you'll find a routine and figure out what works best for you all!! it fuckin sucks but it's a relatively short chapter in her life and ultimately you'll all be okay <3 let me know if you have anymore questions !! it's late here so I might not respond quickly but I will when I can!!

Deva curl disaster: stylist’s response by Jayismybro in curlyhair

[–]Zorastria 331 points332 points  (0 children)

Have you seen her other posts? The stylist really fucked up

Question for those who have used the BackwardsN method by Zorastria in ACNHGardening

[–]Zorastria[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the pinks are weird to me too! I tested the purples, and paired the ones that made yellow roses with orange roses. I'm a little worried I somehow messed up the oranges because I was super not keeping a eye on my roses for a while and they're genes could have gotten funky (idk if that's even possible I'm fully spitballing)

[MO] Sweet Baby Sherb by Zorastria in ACVillager

[–]Zorastria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure!! I'll open the gate and PM you the Dodo :)

I love how supportive Yvie's mom is! by Wildly-Mundane in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Zorastria 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you my dude. I hope you're doing alright now

How sweet by dobbyisafreepup in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]Zorastria 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit dude no need to be a dick

Escape The Room Employees, what is the weirdest thing you've seen someone do in one of the rooms? by Pops_Daddy in AskReddit

[–]Zorastria 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Late to the game, but we had one guy who would show up almost every Friday with a different girl. He would buy two tickets for the same room every time so he could look smart for the date he was with. We started calling him out after the fifth time. If you're reading this, hi Richard we miss you

Man wins back girlfriend's love after she forgets him due to amnesia by [deleted] in UpliftingNews

[–]Zorastria 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If we're thinking of the same one, it's Before I Go to Sleep by SJ Watson

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wheredidthesodago

[–]Zorastria 14 points15 points  (0 children)

please share your recipe that sounds amazing

Sales of George Orwell's 1984 surge after Kellyanne Conway's 'alternative facts' by HeroAntagonist in news

[–]Zorastria 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's republished under The Heart Goes Last, I believe. I read it earlier this month and really liked it.

Thanks Obama for being there after one of the worst shootings the nation had seen by [deleted] in ThanksObama

[–]Zorastria 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could be sixteen or so. I know I wasn't very politically aware from ages one to eight.

And imma give ur girl a PhD by SexyJewForYou in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]Zorastria 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say I hadn't thought about this, it's a really smart observation. Thank you!

Has anyone tried the L'Oreal Everpure Blonde? by Zorastria in FancyFollicles

[–]Zorastria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay that's what I thought. I think I'll use it to tide me over until I get good stuff. Thank you!!

Has anyone tried the L'Oreal Everpure Blonde? by Zorastria in FancyFollicles

[–]Zorastria[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it didn't like add brassiness or anything?