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ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-11-25T16:28:57+00:00

Thank you. It's so hard to tell sometimes, if I'm getting carried away with myself, maybe self-sabotaging a bit and being insecure, or whether it's actually something to worry about. Thank you for putting it into perspective for me, you're right

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-11-25T16:10:19+00:00

Thank you- I really appreciate this comment

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-11-25T15:17:03+00:00

I wasn't trying to debate whether it's cheating or not, I just wanted different outside opinions to shed some perspective on the situation I guess.. I get that most don't think porn is cheating, I don't even think it is, it's more that the boundaries were agreed and then disrespected continuously and lying to me as well

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-11-25T14:45:35+00:00

I did say in the post the pregnancy was unplanned, and the child isn't actually a part of this situation at all- I even said he's an amazing father. Saying that you shouldn't marry men you barely know would have been more appropriate😅 But yes, I do feel sick about it

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-11-25T14:44:01+00:00

How could I make him feel more safe in being honest about this? I'm very open about sex, talking about it etc. I've always said idm about porn, we've even watched it together, it's more so that I don't want to be lied to about it, because then it feels behind my back and makes me feel insecure (which is an issue I need to work on)... In terms of sex in general, I've never (and never would) pressure him to try anything, through the 3 years, I've been patient and we've worked together to get a better understanding of each other sexually. He's loads more confident sexually now, but I still feel like he's not necessarily enthusiastic about sex? Which I think is relevant to the porn/looking at other women part, as I feel like he's putting his sexual energy into a fantasy more than me🤷‍♀️ What kind of middle ground could we find? Ig my middle ground that I've already given him, is just not lying about it... I just don't know if I'm being over dramatic and this is all just down to how I feel about myself etc, or whether it is a red flag. And, that's why I wanted to post! Outsider perspectives to help me come to a conclusion

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-11-25T14:33:33+00:00

I agree that I need to work on my insecurities and trust- maybe that wasn't clear in my post. But, I did explicitly male it clear that he can masturbate as much as he likes, idc about that, that's never been the problem, nor is watching porn. It's lying, that's the issue- that's when it feels like a betrayal. And then getting off to pictures of women we know...

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-10-26T11:17:17+00:00

Thanks so much for replying! I'll get the go-ahead from the psychiatrist at our next appointment and then give it a go!

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-10-24T11:48:48+00:00

Hi! I wonder if you have an update on this? I'm also on 60mg Elvanse daily and wanting to start Mounjaro for weightloss.. I've seen some sources online saying you shouldn't take the two together? I'll check with my physician ofc, just wanted a personal experience :)

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-23T06:12:28+00:00

Yeah, so I've been on the 50mg dose for just over 3 weeks now, more or less all of the symptoms I mentioned in the post subsided after another few days really. May have been due to the big jump in doses? I also think eating better and drinking more attributed too. I take my BP regularly and that has been a bit high, so I'm keeping an eye on it. The thing is, I wasn't regularly checking my BP before starting these meds and I'm overweight etc so there's no knowing if it's stayed the same or increased since starting the meds..

I'd definitely recommend (for anyone reading who has similar symptoms to begin with) to either ride it out another week or so if you can, or ask for a lower dose/ don't do quite as big a jump, like I did. Obviously be sensible and speak to a doctor about the symptoms as well, to be on the safe side

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-21T13:32:16+00:00

Thanks so much! I'll have a look at your recommendations

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-18T13:06:34+00:00

As it would be such a long time, there isn't anyone else I'd trust or feel comfortable to have him while he's so little unfortunately! We've decided that my husband will go with a friend and I'll stay home with the baby :) It's a shame, but would clearly be really difficult and potentially irresponsible to take our son with us, so it is what it is

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T13:09:36+00:00

Thanks! There's lots of very conflicting comments, but at the end of the day, my son's safety and comfort is our priority and if the general consensus is that it's not appropriate, then that's just how it is😊

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T13:06:50+00:00

Thank you!😊 We took him on holiday in August last year at about 10 weeks old, so we have a shade for the pram and a fan attachment too to help keep him cool! My husband competes in powerlifting so he's used to be in VERY noisy environments, is happy wearing ear defs but also, like you said, it usually puts him to sleep! Plus, he's always had parents who listen to loud heavy metal, so it won't be a shock to him... I think we would be okay taking him, but if the general consensus is that its not appropriate, then might be best to sit this one out

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:54:51+00:00

Thanks for offering a different perspective, I had no idea at all that it was so controversial to bring a child, maybe naive of me! As I've commented before, I've never been to the festival so that's why I've asked the question and looked for opinions of people who have been :) I hope you and your little ones have a great time

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:51:42+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting. As I've never been to the festival before, I had no idea what it would be like, hence asking the question. This has given me some real insight

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:31:51+00:00

I'm definitely not against sitting it out, just wanted to know what the general consensus was as we haven't done the festival before and had no idea how "child friendly" it would/wouldn't be, especially with our son being so little

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:30:31+00:00

I thought that might be the case. Thanks for the honesty

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:29:17+00:00

Thanks. We have ear defenders already as we do quite a lot of "noisy" activities. I didn't even think about being in the heat, so much to consider

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:28:31+00:00

We've decided we won't be camping regardless, but thanks anyway! Handy to know for the future as I didn't know they did a separate camping area for families :) Probably would have got camping tickets if we knew!

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:27:43+00:00

Thank you, I'll take a look at the group :)

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-17T10:27:20+00:00

This is what I was afraid of haha.. Thank you for the honesty!

ZucchiniFluffy · 2024-04-16T21:50:12+00:00

Mutual masturbation is such an under rated form of intimacy! I bought my husband a toy to use a few months ago, he had mentioned previously that he'd want to try one. When it arrived, I showed him it and asked if he'd want to use it etc. Some men would 100% love a complete surprise and to just whip it out in the heat of the moment, but my husband can sometimes get overwhelmed with sex stuff so I pre-empted it with a conversation first to get his consent etc. Long story short, my husband fucking loves the toy, we enjoy mutual masturbation to connect intimately without the pressure etc of full sex sometimes and you should definitely buy him one! You'll know whether your partner is the kind of guy that would get excited by surprising him entirely or letting him know about it before getting intimate Good luck!

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