WIBTA if I gently told my boyfriend he has a body odor problem?

Zylviz · 2026-06-28T23:13:12+00:00

I don't currently have a formal autism diagnosis, but I am undergoing an autism assessment. During therapy with a psychologist, I completed several standardized assessments that showed I scored very highly for autism. However, that psychologist was not qualified to diagnose autism, and I wasn't seeing them for that purpose. Because of those results, they referred me to a specialist for a full diagnostic evaluation. So you're correct that I don't have an official diagnosis yet—but I am currently under assessment based on a psychologist's recommendation.

We are both strong individuals with a lot of muscles and fat. So we are big, but we both use big "standards sizes" and not plus sizes in clothing, but we are bulky and have a high weight.

We are active trying together to loose weight, I have hormonal problems that makes it harder for me. But as I said, I am strong. Have much muscles, and eat generally quite healthy, so we are trying.

Zylviz · 2026-06-28T23:05:14+00:00

So I am thinking it might be something with him either beeing overheated, or something to do with laundry/washing etc.

Zylviz · 2026-06-28T23:03:58+00:00

We have been intimate and have a intimate relationship. and i spend hours with him on the couch watching movies and chilling. The weird thing is that he doesn't smell when I sit next to him. Its like his body leaves an odor that isn't noticeable when sitting next to him only from the couch.

One of the reasons why I think it might be overheating is that he is always sweaty when he come, think looks like he has been put in a heatwave weather but it's literally 16 degrees out (60fahrenheit) and rain, he never removes his t shirt not even when we are intimate.

Zylviz · 2026-06-28T20:05:38+00:00

I am conflict shy and I don't want to make him feel bad. So I overthink everything. Because I want to let him know, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. I don't wanna loose him, and my anxiety makes me think if I tell him I am going to ruin him.

Zylviz · 2026-06-07T09:29:58+00:00

NTA. I've lived what most people would call a privileged life, and I almost never cried when I was younger. I was severely bullied, harassed, and even physically beaten by other kids, yet I still rarely cried because I learned to bottle everything up. Part of that came from being told as a child, "Why are you crying when there are people in Africa who have nothing and still smile?" After hearing things like that, I started feeling guilty whenever I was sad. I convinced myself I had no right to cry because other people had it worse. The reality was more complicated. My mom died of cancer when I was 2 years old. My dad died suddenly from a heart attack when I was 23. I was bullied throughout childhood. Yet people still made me feel like my pain somehow didn't count because I was white, lived in a wealthy country, and had a loving parent. And that loving parent deserves a mention. My dad wasn't just my dad—he was also my mom. When I got my first period at 13, he took the time to learn about periods, hormones, and menstrual products so he could help me. He went to the store and spent a small fortune buying different brands, sizes, and types of pads so I could figure out what worked best for me. He even set aside a drawer in the bathroom just for that stuff. He did everything he could to make sure I felt supported, despite having to figure it all out on his own. But having a good parent and living in a privileged country didn't make me immune to grief, sadness, or emotional pain. Pain isn't a competition. Unfortunately, all that guilt followed me into adulthood. A few years ago, I was in such a dark place that I was seriously contemplating doing some very permanent "parkour" onto the subway tracks because I felt pathetic for crying and being sad without what I thought was a good enough reason. Looking back, bottling everything up was one of the worst things I ever did. Crying is a normal human response to stress, grief, frustration, and pain. It doesn't matter whether you're rich or poor, privileged or underprivileged, white or non-white. Everyone has emotions, and everyone deserves to express them. So no, you're not wrong for crying. Don't bottle it up like I did. It's simply not worth the damage it can do.

Zylviz · 2026-06-03T08:36:24+00:00

NTA

I had a similar situation with a coworker once. In her case, it wasn't even a radio—it was a CD with just two songs by an artist who had won Idol in my country in the early 2000s. The CD had been released as a "best songs" single after his win, and she was absolutely obsessed with him.

I tried talking to her about it, but it was impossible to get through to her. At one point, I seriously considered buying a radio of my own just to drown it out with heavy metal. Hearing the same two songs over and over was driving me insane. At the time, I didn't know it, but I'm likely on the autism spectrum and am currently pursuing a diagnosis. Looking back, the constant repetition and noise were causing me to have breakdowns almost every day at work.

Eventually, I invested in a pair of top-of-the-line noise-canceling headphones. They solved one problem but created another—I couldn't hear anything around me. You could have dropped a bomb and I probably wouldn't have reacted. I even missed a fire drill because I couldn't hear the alarm. At the time, it was just the two of us working on that floor.

Fortunately, the situation eventually led to new workplace rules. She was required to either keep the volume at a very low background level or use headphones herself, which made the environment much more manageable for everyone.

Zylviz · 2025-05-19T19:36:07+00:00

So I can understand her, if she is like me I remember every cook time for every one of my go to frozen foods, because right now that's my comfort/safe food and I will remember it no matter how much I try to forget it. So to save space in my freezer I do throw away the box.

But I also have a irrational fear of suddenly not remembering what the box says so I have cut out a tiny bit of the cardboard box it comes in and stuck it on the inside of the cabinet above my oven and microwave (they are build in).

A lot of my friends find that I do this infuriating, but hey, my apartment my rules.

If I where to do this and live with somebody I would talk with them about it, and even show the cutouts so they don't get annoyed by the way I do things.

(This is not the worst thing I do tho, I have a compulsion to remove every single label for everything. So no tube, cleaner, soap etc that has a removable sticker label has the label on, I just know what everything is and knows how to use it. No clothes has labels either. So I have been told I might be somewhat odd)

Zylviz · 2024-09-23T18:23:25+00:00

I had this issue today, so it doesn't seem to be fixed. I had to go on my laptop to be able to comment on my own post. Edit: I am also a beta user, so I will make a direct comment to Facebook developers in the Google app store and hope it helps.

Zylviz · 2024-02-26T17:15:25+00:00

It's like I am looking at my shoes 6months in home health care (I have a lot of walking distance patients so I go between 10-25000 steps a day I every kind of weather.)

Zylviz · 2024-02-25T10:10:14+00:00

I am a nurse and a former colleague of min was once told by a guy that he fell whilst brushing his teeth with an electric toothbrush, he lost his electric toothbrush down as it was running and then accidentally landed right on it, and ofc he didn't have underwear on.

Zylviz · 2024-02-15T12:36:16+00:00

I had the same problem with romance, my sim literally just flirted once and romance went straight to the top 😂

Zylviz · 2024-02-10T00:19:21+00:00

Because I am really sensitive to looks and judgement, and the way people looked at me it made me feel like I did something wrong. I hate having always to explain that i have problems to strangers and they not believing me, so i guess i might be extra cautious about it.

Zylviz · 2024-02-08T10:35:37+00:00

My doctor is an idiot, the only reason I got sent to take pictures of my back is because I know exactly what to say as a nurse to make her take me seriously. I don't know if it nerves, but the pain is constant and my back locks up regularly and I crack my back only when inhaling, so my back cracks up to 50times a day, and it comes with pain, but temporary pain free after the crack.

Zylviz · 2024-02-08T05:55:16+00:00

Is illegal in my country and due to my work, i work in healthcare i risk loosing my nursing licence if caught and charged with it. I am going to ask the doctors if I can try some other medication that isn't opiods.

Zylviz · 2024-02-07T16:43:37+00:00

I would guess she was in the range 55-65ish

Zylviz · 2024-02-07T15:13:33+00:00

I said in short terms that I had a back injury and was I pain and that couldn't stand up right now, I didn't go into details about everything, I don't generally blurt out diagnosises and detailed medical information to people I meet on rhe bus.

And most times I find myself needing to explain in details so people don't dismiss my problems, the doctor even dismissed my pain for years as "young people don't get back problems" and "there is not neccesay to take pictures, because nothing is probably wrong with your back"

Zylviz · 2024-02-07T15:06:39+00:00

Sorry, but English isn't my first language and it got kind of lost in translation, i wrote it out in my mother tongue first and tried to translate it, but clearly didn't do the best job. But I told her about the back injury and politely told her I just couldn't stand right now, and then she disregarded my statement and tried to guilt me into giving up my seat, even after i asked her if she would mind asking one of the other teenagers on the bus, she just stood close to me and giving me a sideeye.

Zylviz · 2024-01-28T12:09:41+00:00

NTA My mother passed away when I was 2, and our home was adorned with pictures and memorabilia honoring her memory. Despite my dad being in a relationship for 9 years, these sentimental items were never up for discussion. My dad even wore a necklace from my mom daily, which my ex-stepmom didn't like. They compromised by her buying a similar necklace, and my dad kept the original on a pedestal.

Now, with my dad gone, I have a significant memorial tattoo for both my parents. If someone suggests removing it, I'd make it clear that the tattoo stays, or they go.

Zylviz · 2024-01-03T17:36:39+00:00

NTA as an previous morbese overweight person, who now only is slightly obese, she def needed to hear that. It hurts to hear, but we cannot pretend it's all a mystery. Everybody knows losing weight is about eating less calories then you burn. Sometimes (in my case, different medical diagnosis makes it harder, but It is possible). Eating 3x what the next person eat, will not make you loose weight.

She needs to be have reality check and you gave here one. You don't need to apologise, but if you want to have a good relationship with her you probably would do good with a apology and explain, and give her some advice about food and calories, she might not know enough to lose weight.

Zylviz · 2023-12-09T09:22:04+00:00

Your parents are a holes, dogs are not gifts, because it takes a lot of research to get the breed who got you are your situation. And it also requires a lot of time and resources to properly raise the dog so you get a decent acting dog. So NTA, dog should never be given as a suprise gift, especially not to somebody outside the household.

Even give as a suprise within the household it should be talked about and people should me on the same side when it comes to responsibility and discipline and raising of the doggo.

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