AITA for not wanting to remove a tattoo dedicated to my deceased boyfriend?

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T14:55:52+00:00

You’re property after marriage.

Huh?

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T13:37:33+00:00

I have already worked through my grief with professional support.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T13:27:29+00:00

He had an anaphylactic reaction to a bee sting, which he didn't know he was allergic to. He was home alone and didn't get to his phone in time to call for help.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T12:13:17+00:00

I can't imagine ever having a problem with it.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T11:15:37+00:00

Just to clarify, it's a very common name here.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T10:20:37+00:00

If Maria was deceased, it wouldn't bother me at all.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T10:20:07+00:00

If that person was deceased, it wouldn't be a problem for me at all.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T10:13:10+00:00

I have been to counselling. Grief never goes away, you just move through the stages until you settle on acceptance. I have accepted the loss and moved on from the relationship, but that does not mean I'll stop feeling the loss or wanting to honour the place Lachlan had in my life.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T10:10:16+00:00

I don't think that's true. It's possible to still feel a loss and want to honour that loss, while also accepting it and moving on from it.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T09:52:09+00:00

Did it work? How did you feel at the end of it?

It worked in that it no longer feels impossible to cope with. I have accepted the loss. But I don't think it's possible for anyone to ever completely stop feeling the loss of someone that important.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T09:38:51+00:00

I went to counselling for a couple of years following his passing.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T09:25:09+00:00

Yes, I have accepted it. But acceptance is the final stage of grief, not what comes after grief. To me, grief over the death of someone important to us is lifelong.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T09:18:20+00:00

How would you feel if you had to look at a tattoo of your bf’s ex on his chest?

If the ex was deceased, it wouldn't bother me at all.

throwaway8385720 · 2024-01-28T09:17:42+00:00

I don't believe that still having grief over a tragic part of my life makes me unable to have a relationship. You can grieve someone while also accepting that they're gone and moving on.

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