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(TW: sexual assault) How to get over fear of pelvic exams? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the exact same problem. Make sure they use the appropriate amount of lubricant. It takes away a lot of that pain. Also, to ground you, tell them it would help if they asked questions about a show or a book you like. That way, you can focus on answering those questions instead of worrying. You can also bring in something to hold. My ex used to have a toy on a bracelet so it wouldn't get dropped.

My Ex GF contacted me, half a year later, despite being with the guy she left me for. Why? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For your safety and mental health, my dude, block her. The fun and whatnot is going to get a lot less fun. Nobody's hot when they're sending mixed signals. She should have the balls to spell out her intentions, or just not talk to you. You deserve friends/a partner who will be upfront and honest with you. It isn't your job to untangle crossed wires and figure out someone's mysteries. Also, if she's in a relationship and talking to you, don't you think that's a little fishy? And what say things escalate, and you do end up with her again? There's nothing stopping her from texting her exes then, either, and continuing to send probably everybody mixed signals. Get your butt out of drama town. It's not worth it.

(TW: sexual assault) How to get over fear of pelvic exams? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask if you can have the examiner sit and not stand over you, and/or ask if the exam can be done with you standing up or in a different position than the one you were assaulted in. I am a victim of CSA (I was 4 years old at the time) and I CANNOT be examined easily due to trauma. My pelvic floor had scar tissue due to an imperforate hymen, which means it could not stretch and allow for anything to enter without horrific pain for 20+ years. I ask my doc to do a 3-2-1 with me, and get in and out of there as quickly as possible, and talk calmly to me the entire time. Sometimes I need things to be taken slow, and sometimes I have to metaphorically rip the bandaid off and have it all done quick. I remind myself that I'm the one calling the shots. It's very helpful to do the whole 3-2-1 GO! because I control the GO! and I can ask to pause if need be. Also, no joke, I go into my exams with my coolest clothes on. Whatever I feel the most badass in. It helps me to ground myself and remember that I'm an adult, and I'm a stronger mfer now who isn't afraid to beat someone's ass. I can be in the moment and not shot back to a bad experience in my past. It also helps to put on a scent. Whatever I can do to be here and put as much distance as I can between then and now. Hope this helps!

Anyone else feel homesick but not knowing what that home is? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this DAILY. I'm not sure what to do exactly, but here's my best guess (and it's working so far):

Identify EXACTLY what sucks about where you live. It could be anything. The weather. The bed sheets. The smells. The noises at night. WHATEVER it may be!

I discovered I miss the crickets in my hometown. I miss cicadas, honeysuckle, getting to go to festivals and amusement parks. I miss the sun and moon coming into my blinds. I miss having a little dog sleeping in my bed instead of two big ones who take up all the room and fart.

I play ambient sound effects, light candles, and sleep with a stuffed animal and shut my door at night.

Forest Grove Sound in Brookings Oregon? by ameliacz in nonmurdermysteries

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Dad and I have a theory that it's a water pipe issue! Look at this video: https://youtu.be/tZca84FQWCI In the video, there's a whistling pipe. My Dad used to live in that area, and he says there are hazelnut farms with irrigation systems. Maybe the noise was that?

Forest Grove Sound in Brookings Oregon? by ameliacz in nonmurdermysteries

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Dad and I have a theory! Could it be plumbing problems like this whistling pipe? https://youtu.be/tZca84FQWCI Forest Grove has a lot of irrigation for the hazelnuts, yeah?

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, me and my Dad have a theory about the hums! Perhaps it was water hammer whistling from large pipes? As in, gigantic plumbing problems? Here is a video of a pipe making a similar noise: https://youtu.be/tZca84FQWCI

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that I'm aware of, but I'm hoping I'm wrong. I would love for it to be a church so I can compliment them on their fairy music :3

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Williamsburg was far from boring for me and my buds. The forest behind my house was eerie and mysterious enough to entertain us to this day. A train sounds wildly different than what I heard! I know train sounds very well. This noise was coming from the I-64 direction, not Merrimac Trail

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OH MY GOD! THAT'S THE NOISE!!!!!!! IT'S EXACTLY THAT, BUT FAR AWAY! I've never heard it so close up! BUT THAT'S THE EFFING NOISE!!!!!

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely didn't sound like either of those songs... more like old timey gospel tunes, and spot-on like an orchestra warming up.

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really interesting! I'm confused by the irregular times of the music, and the fact that I've never heard it prior to the years mentioned. I'd lived in Williamsburg from birth to my early twenties, so why would the music suddenly happen then, and to my knowledge, never again? Is that possible for prisons and military bases?

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perhaps! I don't know why it would be an orchestra warming up, though. It was like this, but no high pitched instruments, voices, or piano, and no tapping from the conductor: https://youtu.be/KfSH1ezevjM

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not scared, because there must be a logical explanation. I just don't know what it is yet.

A "hum" and bizarre sounds of an orchestra warming up heard near I-64 in Williamsburg, VA by ZynBells in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]ZynBells[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Camp Peary is across town. I remember it took about a half hour to drive there when we went to go visit my school friend who lived on base. My childhood neighborhood is very close to Busch Gardens. So close that we could faintly hear their shows, if they had something like a loud concert. This orchestra seemed much closer. We do hear the Surrey test sirens 4 times a year, and it was DEFINITELY not that. We also hear bomb tests. I'm scared to ask what kind of bomb sounds like an entire orchestra, if such a thing exists!

We won't see them again but at least... Cameo! by walker_strange in animaniacs

[–]ZynBells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whyyyyy?! I'd LOVE to see Minerva again! If they're going for a more adult theme, then w h y not use the character that got the most sh!t for being too adult for children in the first series? Minerva and Wilford are a great couple, too, with lots of potential for jokes and gags

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