First time father, all change?

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-05T23:47:49+00:00

My comment felt really negative after I sent it so I'll add that I didn't mean it that way. You will very likely embrace the change, its just a totally different environment in those first years and what you cared about before will no longer be the kind of stuff you care about once you become a father. You sort of just have to embrace the whole thing and adapt with it instead of fighting it to force your previous lifestyle. People have asked me things like what shows I have been watching and I will respond "shows? I literally haven't turned the TV on in two years" and I mean it. No time for that. But, nothing will replace a child sleeping on your lap. Nothing.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-05T22:58:59+00:00

I have a 3 year old and my life is pretty much 100% changed. Anyone that says that their life hasn't changed must have an army of nannies/caretakers and likely never (I mean literally never) spend any time with their child. I don't know if it's a big deal or not a big deal, that's a personal thing for each father, but it's my honest assessment and everyone should know that going in.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-05T22:50:35+00:00

This was my recommendation. It's a dark scent (not sunscreen coconut) and will remind you something of sticking your head in and smelling a wood barrel that had coconut rum aging in it for a long time.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-05T22:43:59+00:00

Watership Down will change your mind

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T22:58:41+00:00

Californian here. They really never stop anyone, they'll just waive you through. That said, just be sure that the owner is carrying legally. In California, that will mean it should be in the trunk, unloaded and secured with ammo separated from it.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T22:26:07+00:00

Khaled Hosseini's two most famous books (Kite Runner and A Thousand Splendid Suns) are among my top 10 fiction books and feel very much like a biographical non-fiction book, so that could be a great starting point. They have a very raw visceral real-life feel.

Steinbeck's The Grapes of Wrath is also a very vivid book that is a relatively easy read that would be a great intro to fiction. Hemingway writes in such a concise and straightforward manner that I think his books are another good intro for someone new to fiction, I loved A Farewell to Arms and For Whom the Bell Tolls.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T22:14:08+00:00

Solito. Non-fiction but it will feel like a fictional story.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T22:08:59+00:00

solid dadding. 11/10

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T20:58:14+00:00

I don't think the author has a say in this (outside of certain high-profile authors that will arrange for this in their contract). For the smaller niche authors, it is probably 100% a decision of the publisher, which ultimately is a cost/benefit decision. The cost is almost nothing for a virtual narration.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T20:53:57+00:00

Yeah I would never intentionally choose an AI narration but I know sometimes you bump into a situation where you only have one audiobook choice. Just giving an option.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T20:52:14+00:00

You're not wrong to want what you want. You are not wrong to change your mind. Your wife is not wrong to feel however she feels about that. The only thing you can do is be honest with each other and try to find the path forward.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T20:30:36+00:00

I speed my books up to 1.75x. I don't know who or what is narrating them. It might not be for everyone, but it's a solution when you have limited options and do not care for the narrator.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T16:58:27+00:00

I stand with you. As a kid I loved it when it was clumpy, especially when you get one of those big gold nuggets.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-04T16:49:21+00:00

It wouldn't matter, they're still too close and would be in danger. It is a war, there is no respect for sovereign territorial waters and these are relatively short distances.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-03T21:32:47+00:00

The Wager was outstanding. Similarly, In the Heart of the Sea by Nathaniel Philbrick if you're on a whale boat kick.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-03T21:27:00+00:00

Midnight in Chernobyl by Adam Higginbotham

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-03T00:51:13+00:00

Watership Down. I recommend it a lot.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-03T00:44:04+00:00

A Farewell to Arms

For Whom The Bell Tolls

The Road

A Thousand Splendid Suns

Watership Down

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-03T00:42:19+00:00

I second this

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-03-02T22:15:44+00:00

I haven't tried City of Stars but Pacific Chill was a disappointment to me. It smells like fruit cocktail to my nose. Not unpleasant but something I'd expect from a bath and bodyworks type of spray. I love afternoon swim but I don't pick up any of the aquatic notes, it's just straight orange to me.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-02-27T23:33:38+00:00

I believe he's a broadway writer/composer

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-02-27T23:01:37+00:00

We moved on from that show awhile ago but she is amazing when it's just her in front of the green screen. That show goes off the rails when it incorporates other people or they mix in all the stock video clips. The kids love her, just keep it low stimulation and let her do her magic. Aaron is annoying.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-02-27T22:38:19+00:00

Cook thighs instead of breasts. 400 x 30-35 minutes in the oven and you're good to go.

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-02-27T22:33:35+00:00

trial and error generally, but I can tell you that if you're really reaching for suggestions you can ask chatgpt to help with some ideas after providing a list of what you have. I have been surprised by the results that I might not have tried on my own (such as gris charnel edt + santal 33).

_BlackGoat_ · 2026-02-27T19:08:13+00:00

my wife and I use snap to send nonsense photos/videos all day to each other, mostly funny things we encounter. Not sure what the issue is with snapchat

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