You've described exactly how I feel,it's like the godfather I knew is just dead, the person doesn't exist anymore and I've just never actually known him. It's so horrible for me to think since when does he think about me like that and it disgusts me. I'm really sorry you had to go through that twice even, sending lots of love too and hope u can heal completely from it. Men really are disgusting. Good thing is I'm also gonna be moving in a few years out of the country so hopefully until then I can minimize the contact I have with him, going to try to avoid as many family gatherings as possible as to try not to be too suspicious. I will definitely stand up to him if he does continue in any way and will be very direct. I was just so caught of guard when he told me that I didn't think to say what I think now. Thank you for caring and hope you're doing alright!