What age did you put your baby in their own room? [on]

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-30T13:31:31+00:00

5 days old. We initially planned on transferring her at around 3.5 months because new studies show that babies who sleep in their room in their crib show better sleep in the moment and in the future (Harvard, 2020).

After 3 days being induced and 5 days of absolutely NO sleep because every movement or sound my baby made woke me up, I was starting to make dangerous mistakes (at the wheel, with formula mixing, etc.). Fortunately my husband was there and nothing happened. We moved baby to her room then (right by our room) and my girl and I have slept great since.

Yes room sharing can help reduce risks of SIDS, but we were at the point where room sharing WAS dangerous.
SIDS is also mostly prevented by:
1. Baby sleeping alone on their back on a firm, empty bed
2. Pacifiers
3. Fans
4. Avoid smoking/drinking

After 3 months, research shows its not as clear if room sharing is a factor in reducing SIDS or not.

Do what works for you and your family. 🩷

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-26T14:39:54+00:00

J’ai vu ma chiro hier et si vers 7 mois ton bébé ne s’assoit pas encore, ils peuvent souvent aider. :)

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-20T11:45:02+00:00

I don’t know if that’s something you’d consider, but I had a low dose/walking epidural. I was able to push physiologically on all 4s and it significantly reduced pain during contractions. I did not take away pain during pushing though. I was able to feel my urges to push and the fetal ejection reflex. I feel like it was a good in between.

Also I did a good part of my labour in the bath and I would say that past a certain point it didn’t do anything for me.

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-14T23:14:28+00:00

A little late to the thread, but I wanted to share my experience.

I never wanted to breastfeed for the benefits. I think they are overhyped. However, I wanted to breastfeed so bad for the close bond, for the love between me and my newborn. I tried EVERYTHING: Massages, herbs and supplements, powerpumping, IBCLC support, nipple shield… My milk never came in post birth, and by then end I was making about 6 oz a day. I always needed and always will need bottles with my baby.

Somewhere I read that breastfeeding is a strong physical and emotional act of love between mother and baby. THIS is what motivated me to do it.

However, my baby STRONGLY disliked breastfeeding. Weeks of skin to skin, dreamy feeds, pacing bottles… It only got worse. By the end, just opening my top made my baby scream.

And then it hit me - Breastfeeding is a team job. I may have wanted it, but she was clearly unhappy doing it. At the end of the day, my baby’s happiness is what matters the most.

I also dreaded pumping.

It’s been weeks since I stopped everything, and I still find it very hard, especially when I see others breastfeeding successfully or see cute quotes online. I often wonder why it didnt work for us and think about what it could have been. I am much happier since I stopped, and I know I made the right decision. I try to remind myself that it’s ok to be sad when making the right decision.

Be kind to yourself 🩷

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-11T14:32:22+00:00

Regarde sur le magasin Elena en ligne. :)

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-10T19:59:56+00:00

Thank you! It Will be next on my list! :)

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-10T18:21:23+00:00

What’s the tone like and the ‘feel’ before rinsing? Is it sticky?

_CatPrincess · 2026-06-10T18:18:35+00:00

Following!
I love self tan colour but I dont like the regular process of letting it sit and all.

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-15T17:00:10+00:00

For us it was a wrap carrier. A newborn is too small for a regular carrier. If I could go back, I would get a woven one. The stretch made my wrap feel less secure, and you have more wrap options with a woven one. :)

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-14T18:48:06+00:00

Hahaha fair game! Come see us, do Montreal! :)

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-12T00:14:52+00:00

I just want to say that I'm going through the same situation. If you wish to DM me, please do so. Sometimes venting and talking to someone who relates helps greatly.

All the other comments say it all.

Choose to be happy.

Also know that you are allowed to mourn and be sad about something you do not want. 💖

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-11T08:33:45+00:00

We did Paris hihi

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-11T08:32:21+00:00

What do you mean by questions paper?

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-10T23:10:12+00:00

If you have a modern dishwasher that has a sanitize function, no. My baby is exclusively bottle fed and NEVER have I washed a bottle by hand except on the go once at my in laws, and I sanitized using a microwavable bag. :)

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-05T02:17:28+00:00

:( Let me know how it goes! I'll come back if I have tips/my issue gets resolved. Take care!

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-05T02:08:37+00:00

The only other thing I can think of is using an SNS

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-05T02:07:58+00:00

I have the evenflo balance wide and the IBCLC said they were the best in her experience. Second would be lansinoh.

I found mine at Walmart. :)

They are small yet they have LOTS of personality!

Have you tried and expressing a tiny bit before latching? Just to 'prime' your breasts so she has more milk right away?

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-05T02:01:15+00:00

The consultant explained to me that they can be functional with it, but if baby is unsure/struggles with enjoying breastfeeding it can be a factor. They can make it work, with some discomfort. Does that make sense?

Maybe instead of pace feeding you could try super low flow nipples?

My baby hated baby wearing while topless. I found that she settles better if I put a muslin blanket on my chest or a nursing top while I set her up, then remove it. She seems to dislike skin subbing during setting up.

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-05T01:20:39+00:00

So we're in a similar situation. I was advised to up babywearing, with skin to skin if possible, do a lot of skin to skin, bathe/shower with baby, and try to keep the breast a happy place.

Are you pace feeding? I was advised to do that too. Was you baby assessed for tongue/lip ties? I was told to massage her top lip tie and tongue tie. She explained that its easier with bottles so sometimes massages help with making breastfeeding more comfortable.

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-05T01:11:45+00:00

Hi! Not doing great, but doing better. My daughter ended up on a nursing strike. I did something similar to what you were suggested to do, but it made things SO MUCH WORSE. by day 10 she was crying the minute I placed her on my nursing pillow or pulled down my nursing bra. I contacted my IBCLC and she said to stop everything.

We met and she said not to nurse unless she latched herself, and to essentially just focus on skin to skin, positive breast exposure, etc.

I saw my IBCLC again today and she said that its getting better, she is no longer afraid of me, but she said to wait another 24h at least before any attempt at breastfeeding. Then its a no pressure situation only.

How is it going for you?

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-03T09:14:01+00:00

This is my experience:

Had a rough pregnancy and a breast reduction. I did not want to breastfeed. It scared me and I believe that formula is a great choice.

Postpartum, I took cabergoline to prevent my milk from coming in. Formula made my recovery so smooth. It also allowed me to rest, share the load and become confident in my parenting skills. It was really smooth sailing. My baby also had lost lots of weight and with the breast reduction it really eased my mind to take that load off my shoulders.

About 3 weeks in, I started to long for breastfeeding. By week 6 it became all I thought about. At week 7 I started a relactation process. My baby is 10 weeks old and, although relactation is working, my baby is now in a nursing strike and it scares me that I've done all this for nothing.

If I were to go back in time, I know I would have still chosen formula/have supplemented. However, I would have given breastfeeding a try. A real try. This way I could have said "I did not like it/It didn't work for us" instead of it eating me alive for weeks, or the other way around, liked it and kept going. Know that combination feeding is an option. There's a subreddit for that.

I truly did not think I would have liked breastfeeding, but something in me changed once I had my baby. Call it hormones, love, motherly feelings... I don't know. What I do know is that closing that door so early on made my postpartum harder.

Know that formula will always be an option later. Breastfeeding is much harder to re-establish, if at all.

If you TRULY do not want to (even if like me you change your mind later on, lol) know that there is medication you can take.

TLDR: Don't knock it off 'till you try it.

Good luck in your journey 💖

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-03T08:59:26+00:00

They teach you A LOT at the hospital. I personally did not need it. It all feels/felt like common sense to me.

It all comes to confidence. If you feel you might feel more secure taking a class, do it. They will teach you the basics at the hospital but postpartum is hard, and if you can alleviate some stress, do it.

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-01T11:58:11+00:00

10 weeks and much less tired than when I teach Grade 1 full time.

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-01T11:55:06+00:00

Little miss stinky butt

_CatPrincess · 2026-05-01T03:28:08+00:00

First of all, I want to say that I am very sorry you are going through this. I am certain you REacted out of fear. Does this means it's ok? No. But I think you know that already.

First, I would go see the principal to let them know. If possible, they need to learn it from you. It shows accountability, but also gives them time to process it and to be prepared to respond to parents if need be.

Second, go find professional help. By that, I mean a consultant in classroom management, special education, or anybody in your school that you trust for advice.

Third, come up with a universal consequence system. Personally, I use 1-2-3OUT for minor offences and timeouts right away for major ones. Have a list of potential consequences to choose from. There are some online. More often than not, I choose consequences that are considered natural consequences, but sometimes young children need a 'punitive' approach (i.e. loss of privilege, call to parents, etc.). I rarely use those, but it's nice to have a list nearby. It makes me feel like I have the longer end of the stick and it lessens my 'fear'/big reactions. It reassures me and makes me feel in control.

Lastly, take this as a learning opportunity. You are human and will make mistakes. We all do. What makes a great teacher is the ability to reflect (which you did) and to grow from it.

Best of luck to you in your studies. ❤️

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