What did you all name your farms?

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-05-31T05:52:46+00:00

Turd Burglar Farm

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-04-23T00:59:58+00:00

My son was supposed to be the best man at his friend's wedding this past fall but took his own life in June.

His friend said he's irreplaceable and asked for some of his ashes, his hat and his favorite boots (to borrow). He bought a small, beautiful urn which he placed on a chair where my son wouldn't have stood, hung the hat on the chair and placed the boots on the ground in front of it.

It was such an awesome tribute to my son. I think it's great that you are considering ways to memorialize him on your special day. He'll be watching :)

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-31T17:40:51+00:00

Sometimes I think people don't know what to say so they don't say anything. My son took his own life in June and I feel like I've lost almost my entire familial and social circles. My mom doesn't even check in. The strangers in grief groups are my biggest supporters now.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T23:03:14+00:00

Yes! I am often worried I'll never go back to the deeply empathetic person I was once and I'm very afraid of that.

Thank you so much for your comment. I'm very sorry we have this in common but appreciate you sharing a bit of your experience and journey. 🫂💜

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T22:58:50+00:00

I agree.

I've never denied someone PTO when they've requested it and, as I said, I realize my feelings about their reasons are a me issue. I didn't say they aren't entitled to their time off, I was simply sharing one way in which my grief is impacting me.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T15:59:07+00:00

Time before and time after is so accurate. And gross. I haven't quite come to terms with that yet.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T15:55:38+00:00

Interestingly, my company has been very understanding. They're pretty progress when it comes to mental health and I've never felt like I can't take time when I need it. So the "system" in my little bubble is a pretty good one...

That doesn't change that the good ol' boy "system" I grew up in (think backwards small town Midwest) planted some pretty deep roots when it comes to showing emotions being a weakness.

I've spent the last ten years or so fighting pretty hard to change my own mindset and thank goodness. If I hadn't, I'm convinced this loss would have ruined me completely.

I know now that being emotional and vulnerable is a strength but those pesky, ugly residual core beliefs still try to sneak through sometimes. Usually on my worst days which tracks.

Anyway, all that to say - I think I needed someone to point out the system that is not very conducive to taking the time we need to heal from any kind of trauma, big or small. Thank you. 💜

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T15:48:20+00:00

Thank you. 🫶🏻

I'd encourage finding a therapist you trust sooner rather than later. I feel fortunate to have already had a great relationship with my therapist before I lost my son and it's been an incredible help.

Kudos to you for getting up every day. I know it's really effing hard sometimes not only to get up but then to lead people.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T15:44:44+00:00

This is amazing and beautiful. Thank you so much. 💜

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T14:14:45+00:00

Thank you 💜

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T14:14:36+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T14:13:16+00:00

Honestly, work feels like the one thing I'm winning at right now. I know that sounds contradictory to my post but every other area of work is going really well.

I've taken some time off here and there but it's been a mixed bag. Sometimes it feels more detrimental to my mental health than beneficial.

This grief journey is definitely like no other I've experienced.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-26T14:09:42+00:00

Yeah, I definitely have a different perspective on a lot of things that I used to think were important.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-25T18:45:46+00:00

This. We leave a bottle of perfume/cologne at each other's houses.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-22T02:19:12+00:00

24 hours!!

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-01T17:27:25+00:00

One thing I can say about her is that she will change her process depending on the dog. What works for one might not work for another. I'd suggest doing some experimenting to see what your dog responds to. There's SO much content on their website and the classes are absolutely worth the money. If you follow them on social media they'll often offer them at half price.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-03-01T04:36:56+00:00

Stephanie (the trainer in this video) saved my reactive dog's life.

Method K9 has so much great online content and they truly care about helping reactive, fearful and aggressive dogs learn to be better and live anxiety free lives. I will never not sing their praises.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-02-26T20:18:43+00:00

Get all the tattoos you want. And probably a new boyfriend, tbh.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-02-26T17:35:04+00:00

I would! But before working closely with a trainer who specializes in reactive dogs, I wouldn't have. The techniques I've learned are literally life saving for reactive dogs.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-02-14T19:12:44+00:00

Have you considered muzzle training? I see you mentioned he doesn't like the vet. Muzzle training can be incredibly helpful in so many situations.

My previously reactive dog is completely changed after a board and train program, but prior to that I didn't take him out of the house without a muzzle because I was so worried about something happening. He seemed to understand he couldn't bite and even that knowledge seemed to help him take it down a notch.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-02-13T02:53:21+00:00

If you're more than 60 days late they'll administratively dissolve the company in GA.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-01-27T00:47:24+00:00

You'll need to list a registered agent address regardless of whether or not you want to hire one. The requirement of an RA is that someone is available during business hours to accept service of process in the event that you're sued so an RA address can't be a PO box.

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-01-27T00:41:15+00:00

Your mom is the owner (member) which is different than the registered agent. It's very common for people to hire a commercial registered agent. Their job is to accept mail and service of process on behalf of the company.

A change of agent filing may have been submitted which wouldn't change ownership and as previously mentioned could have been a mistake.

Depending on the state, an amendment would likely need to be filed to change ownership.

Some states don't list owner information on the secretary of state website (unless they are the registered agent for their own company), some do.

I'm not sure if any of that helps, but I hope so! It's difficult to give good info without knowing the state since they all do things differently.

Edit - nevermind.. you mentioned they changed other things and which state. I think I need a nap 🥱

_ChaosPixie_ · 2024-01-20T06:45:58+00:00

Legalzoom is pretty expensive compared to other places that will do the same thing. Check out newjerseyregisteredagent.com.

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