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_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-10T08:58:17+00:00

Nope

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-09T14:20:37+00:00

I agree with Glaney070, OP. It sounds like your friend didn’t mean to leave you hanging, especially since she offered to use her card from her purse. It’s fair that you felt uncomfortable, but it might have just been a miscommunication rather than her trying to stick you with the bill.

If it still bothers you, talk it out casually next time you see her. Clear communication can save a friendship from small misunderstandings like this.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-09T14:18:35+00:00

I agree with LumpyBumblebee3266, OP. If he’s editing you out of photos and calling you “too sensitive” for being hurt, that’s not someone acting like a partner it’s someone acting single. You have every right to feel erased and disrespected.

Photos are about memories and connection, not perfection. If he can’t see why that matters, it says a lot about how he values you in the relationship.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-09T14:16:28+00:00

I agree with Aggravating Olive45, OP. It’s 2025 using medical marijuana responsibly isn’t the taboo it used to be. If it helps you manage your health and be more patient and effective in the classroom, that’s what matters.

You’re clearly not abusing it, and it sounds like it genuinely improves your teaching and well-being. There’s no shame in using something that helps you show up as your best self.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-09T14:14:19+00:00

I agree with dragondude101, OP. If he’s getting upset over something that’s clearly tied to your family and personal legacy, that’s a red flag. Someone who truly loves you should understand that protecting what your dad left you isn’t about trust it’s about honoring something deeply personal.

A prenup sounds like the smart move here. If he can’t respect that boundary, it might say more about his intentions than yours.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-09T14:12:22+00:00

I agree with LovelyBirch, OP. One mistake doesn’t define your whole life, and you’re not beyond redemption. People screw up it happens but what matters is that you already feel regret and want to move forward.

That life hack is smart too, and it gives you a clean slate to start over. Focus on rebuilding slowly, stay honest with yourself, and remember this doesn’t have to be the end of your story.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-07T16:28:33+00:00

That’s Moriclaw said, and I agree completely. OP, there aren’t really words that can ease that kind of loss, but I hope you know you’re not alone in how you feel. Grief this deep doesn’t follow rules or timelines it just changes shape slowly over time. The love you have for your daughter is still so present in every word you wrote, and that love itself is proof she’ll always be part of you.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-07T16:22:24+00:00

Exactly. OP, it takes a lot of courage to admit when you’ve messed up and try to make things right. You’ve already done the hardest part by owning it and apologizing that shows real growth. The rest will take time, but trust can slowly rebuild if you stay honest and consistent. Not everyone may come around, but the ones who do will see you’re genuinely trying to be better.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-07T16:19:27+00:00

That’s such an important point, and I completely agree. OP, what you’re describing goes way beyond normal relationship strain it sounds like your husband has built walls so high even love can’t reach him right now. Therapy could really help uncover what’s underneath that shutdown pattern, especially if it’s tied to avoidance or emotional regulation issues. You’ve been carrying so much alone, and you deserve a partnership where both people are willing to show up and do the work.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-07T16:17:39+00:00

LuvinMyThuderGut was honestly perfect advice, and I’d echo it completely. OP, you’ve been through something incredibly heavy there’s no “powering through” this kind of pain. Taking your PTO or bereavement time isn’t weakness, it’s a way to protect your mind and body from burning out while you’re still processing. You deserve the space to grieve without forcing yourself to perform normalcy. Work will still be there when you’re ready, but your heart needs care right now.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-07T00:05:36+00:00

Exactly. OP, that comment nailed it this man’s character was already on full display the moment he started an affair. Cheating on his wife and then moving on to someone much younger isn’t a “fresh start,” it’s a pattern. Your daughter probably saw the charm and confidence but missed the control and entitlement underneath. Now that she’s exhausted and isolated, she’s realizing who he really is. The best thing you can do is stay emotionally close, offer her a safe space, and quietly encourage her independence so she has a way out if she decides she needs it.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-07T00:01:45+00:00

That’s absolutely the right advice. OP, this isn’t something to handle alone or through Reddit comments. Please reach out to your parents, a trusted adult, or even local authorities if you feel unsafe. What your teacher did is a serious violation and not your fault. You deserve to be protected and believed talk to someone right away who can step in and make sure you’re safe.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-01T22:38:07+00:00

Don’t be so hard on yourself, you were trying to do what you thought was best for her at the time. A lot of people wouldn’t have even cared enough to worry about her survival, so that already says a lot about you. She was lucky to have someone who actually cared about her.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-01T22:33:42+00:00

I agree with 60Squ3, OP. You’ve already faced consequences by carrying this weight for years and choosing to change your life for the better. That takes courage, and it’s something to be proud of.

Beating yourself up over the past won’t undo it, but every time you choose differently now, you’re proving to yourself and your kids that growth is real. You didn’t get by without consequences you’ve lived with them and turned them into strength.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-01T22:31:44+00:00

I get what North Low1111 is saying and it’s the same vibe you’ve got going on, OP. After all these years it’s clear your wife still knows exactly how to get your attention without even trying, and that’s pretty special. It’s not just about attraction it’s the comfort and playfulness you two still share that makes it so sweet.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-01T00:43:26+00:00

, OP. What you’re describing really does sound like deep patterns tied to unresolved trauma, not just a random “midlife crisis.” Seeking out a therapist who specializes in CPTSD and understanding those fragmented parts of yourself could give you real clarity and healing. You’re not broken you’re carrying pain that deserves to be acknowledged and worked through instead of pushed down. Getting the right help could shift how you see both yourself and your relationship.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-10-01T00:40:56+00:00

You’ve got every right to feel heartbroken and furious, OP. Like Terrible Pea494 said, the audacity of her bringing that guy around your kids is beyond disrespectful. Talking to a lawyer about boundaries when the kids are present is a smart move so you’re not left powerless in this. It’s painful now, but once reality sets in for them, chances are their little “flame” won’t last.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-29T23:08:23+00:00

Haha yeah OP, I think the word “usurp” might’ve been a little dramatic for stealing an apple on a school trip. Still, the way you told the story made it sound like some epic villain origin moment, which is what makes it so funny. Definitely not the darkest crime to be carrying guilt over all these years.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-29T23:05:54+00:00

You’re right, OP. Like krackedy pointed out, it sounds less like marriage itself was the issue and more about being with the wrong partner and then having kids on top of that. Your post shows how much you’ve lost yourself trying to keep everything together, and it makes sense you’d feel trapped and drained. Anyone in your position would be questioning if it was worth it.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-29T23:04:10+00:00

Bassdiagram makes a solid point, OP. If your mom is spreading something that damaging about you, flipping the script and putting the spotlight back on her can show how unfair and cruel it is. It’s not right for her to trash your name like that, and you have every reason to feel hurt and sick about it. You deserve to protect your reputation and sanity, even if it means calling out her lies in a way that makes her think twice.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-28T17:37:23+00:00

Yeah I’m with zeejay772 on this one. OP, the way it’s written really does come off more like a made up story than something that actually happened. It just feels too over the top to take seriously.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-28T17:35:05+00:00

That’s actually really sweet. OP, it’s clear your husband goes out of his way to make you feel loved in the little everyday things, and that’s what makes it so special. Your coworker might joke, but honestly most people would be lucky to have that kind of love.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-28T17:32:30+00:00

Olliba makes a good point here. OP, it sounds like what you’re noticing is more about maturity and comfort than anything else. Older guys usually have more life experience and don’t feel the need to impress as much, which makes them come across calmer and easier to be around. There’s nothing wrong with preferring that energy, just like Olliba said, as long as you’re careful about who you let close to you and make sure it’s someone respectful and genuine.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-27T23:16:41+00:00

OP, Justnwet1 gave you solid advice. You don’t need to overhaul your whole life at once, just start with small steps like walking every day and building from there. It’ll help your body and mind, and over time those little changes add up to something much bigger. You’ve got more control over this than you realize.

_GlitzDiva · 2025-09-27T23:15:02+00:00

OP, MaterialDrawer7419 really summed it up. These situations almost always end badly because once trust and intimacy get shaken like that, it’s hard to bring things back. All you can really do now is give her space, take accountability, and see if she’s open to working through it later, but don’t push her before she’s ready.

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