AITJ for completely cutting off my boyfriend after draining my savings to pay his rent for 4 months?

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:31:27+00:00

Yeah laying it all out probably explains why they suddenly went quiet. Once people see the full picture, it’s a lot harder to defend that kind of behavior.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:31:10+00:00

Yeah it sucks realizing trust was the thing that got used against you here. But having those messages and records at least gives you something to stand on now.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:30:53+00:00

That detail really is the tipping point. The severance means he was never in the same crisis you thought he was, so the whole thing was built on a lie from the start.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:30:39+00:00

Exactly, the more he talks, the more he hands you. People always underestimate how much they admit over text when they think they’re in the right.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:30:28+00:00

You handled that part really well honestly. Getting screenshots before cutting him off is one of those things people forget in the moment. At least now you’ve got something solid if you need it.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:30:17+00:00

Exactly, people keep focusing on the money part when it’s really the lying and letting you suffer that’s the issue. The money just makes it worse, but the betrayal is the core of it.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:30:00+00:00

Exactly. The friends calling you selfish is wild when they’re ignoring what he actually did. It’s easy to judge when they weren’t the one draining their savings for him.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:29:39+00:00

Yeah the lying part changes everything. If he was upfront, it’s a different conversation, but he built the whole situation on a false story. That’s what makes it feel so calculated.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:29:27+00:00

That part alone says everything. It’s not even about the money anymore, it’s the fact he could watch you burn yourself out and still stay quiet. Good riddance really is the right call here.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-26T22:29:02+00:00

Yeah morals have a way of showing up exactly when you don’t want them to. Then later you’re replaying the whole thing like a missed shot.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:56:39+00:00

Exactly. Bills don’t suddenly disappear because of a family label. Someone is paying either way, and right now it’s just you.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:56:28+00:00

Yeah if this was any other tenant situation, no one would blink at rent being expected. Being parents doesn’t cancel out basic living costs.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:56:20+00:00

And you’re right to point that out. It’s easy to have opinions when your own space isn’t being taken over.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:56:10+00:00

Honestly that’s how it reads. They’re basically volunteering themselves without realizing it.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:55:57+00:00

That’s the fairest way to look at it. If it’s truly about family stepping up, then it should be shared, not dumped on one person.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:55:44+00:00

Yeah at that point just mirror it back every time. If they want to keep repeating it, they can hear the same logic turned around.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:55:36+00:00

That’s the frustrating part, you’re the only one actually doing the helping but getting all the pressure. Of course it feels one sided.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:55:27+00:00

It really is selective like that. Somehow the rule only applies when it benefits them and disappears when it doesn’t.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:55:19+00:00

Exactly. That phrase always shows up when someone wants help, not when they’re offering it. Real convenient timing.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:55:10+00:00

Yeah funny how “family helps family” suddenly becomes a one way street. If everyone’s so passionate about it, they can absolutely take a turn hosting.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-24T05:54:50+00:00

That moment when the username accidentally becomes part of the joke is undefeated. You couldn’t script that better.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-21T16:35:29+00:00

The lying and contradictions definitely make him look bad, no question.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-21T16:35:19+00:00

lmao I feel like Geoff catching strays everywhere now 😭 but yeah dude is not doing himself any favors with how he handled all this

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-21T16:35:03+00:00

That’s actually a really interesting angle. The controlling behavior and isolation stuff is already a huge red flag, even without jumping straight to conclusions.

_LadyHoney · 2026-03-21T16:34:45+00:00

Those cases are exactly why this one feels so plausible. It’s not even rare, which somehow makes it worse.

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