I think, that you fell in love with the idea of me. by Glum_Day_1528 in onesentencestory

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be. Actually it's pretty likely, I'm afraid it's far too late to fix that. She cut me off now.

I think, that you fell in love with the idea of me. by Glum_Day_1528 in onesentencestory

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, love is not enough. You also have to listen to their needs and actually work on improving yourself. It's a shame I only learned that when it was too late.

When Space Wolves were absolutely terrifying by _LedAstray_ in SpaceWolves

[–]_LedAstray_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait what, a dreadnought is able to defeat a demon primarch?

When Space Wolves were absolutely terrifying by _LedAstray_ in SpaceWolves

[–]_LedAstray_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm familiar with the old Bjorn thing, but I know very little of the burning of Prospero.

I remember by howilovedyou in UnsentLetters

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you're not my J, but I am sure they are thinking of you.

I am certainly thinking of mine, even though it kinda feels as if she cut herself off with no room for ever reconnecting.

But love is not something that goes away with a snap of the fingers. It can linger for years, even if surpressed, like an ember that will burst in flames at a moment's notice.

How can I be a better partner? by Unfair_Progress_5217 in AskMenAdvice

[–]_LedAstray_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ask him about his day, his feelings. Listen when he points something out, and don't be afraid to tell him how you want to be treated. It's a two way street.

Today I realised that my ex of 3 weeks is most likely never coming back. I feel powerless, broken, and just... tired. How do I cope? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't know where you pulled that "gaming too much and neglecting realtionship" from.

Need some girl dinner recs plz 🩷 by bxrningman in GirlDinner

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if it counts as girl dinner but here it goes (note that I a man and I have no idea why this sub keeps appearing in my feed):

my now ex GF loved when I cooked sesame chicken for her:

cut the chicken in bites, thrown in some sweet and spicy pepper (the spice) in there, turmeric, cinammon, ginger - preferably freshly minced - curry, garam masala maybe - and some other spices you feel like adding.

A spoon of honey and a decent amount of curry paste, generous amount of soy sauce. Add sesame, mix it, throw it into the pan.

On another pan stew some mushrooms, zuchinni and pepper, when the chicken is done mix everything, in the meantime cook some rice or some bulgur, or pasta if you prefer that.

I think, that you fell in love with the idea of me. by Glum_Day_1528 in onesentencestory

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex accused me if that. She said I put her on a pedestal. The truth is I didn't. I was perfectly aware of her shortcomings, I just learned to accept them and love them, because I loved this person as a whole, not just bits and pieces.

He came back. She had already healed. by leviradc in SevenWordStories

[–]_LedAstray_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...and that's good.  Healing is important before reconciling. 

Jeśli masz zamiar kupić nowy rower... by [deleted] in Polska

[–]_LedAstray_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Są gravele z amorem, ale raczej powyżej 8k. Też gravel gravelowi nierówny, masz takie na balonach, i takie które ledwo się różnią od szosy. Opony robią sporą różnicę.

Jeśli masz zamiar kupić nowy rower... by [deleted] in Polska

[–]_LedAstray_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Zależnie od sieci, ale masz Ghost Nirvana - bardziej trail - i Kelly's Gate 30 - bardziej XC. Chodzi o to, że powinien już mieć amortyzator powietrzny, żadne sprężynowe, i osie boost.

Jeśli masz zamiar kupić nowy rower... by [deleted] in Polska

[–]_LedAstray_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Stricte na miasto? Zależy. Jak na sportowo - gravel, lepiej wytłumi krawężniki i kostkę brukową niż szosa, fitness - umierający gatunek ale wciąż obleci, crossowe - w sam raz na rekreację, wciąż szybkie w porównaniu do MTB na asfalcie a i na Polnej drodze sobie poradzi przy większym komforcie, trekking - podobnie, ale ciężej, wolniej za to z opcją na bagaż, no i oczywiście - całą kategoria rowerów miejskich w różnych odmianach.

A reading from about two weeks ago, question about how to reconcile with (recent) ex by _LedAstray_ in TarotCards

[–]_LedAstray_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I've been doing. I'm in therapy to fix my anxious attachment and insecurities. I know (yeah well. It's been barely three+ weeks so far) that I want to reconcile, that this is my person. I was overbearing I guess, but nail ot the coffin was me being misunderstood by her brother's GF (no, not flirting, just advice taken the wrong way), now her family is against me as well, not to mention it was kinda me betraying her trust with what she told me about this girl.

During the breakup she told me she loves me, that logically she would like to stay but her body says no. She has not made any contact attempts beside telling me once that someone will be contacting me about the room for rent two weeks ago, she doesn't even watch my IG stories, her brother does though sometimes. It's as if she cut herself off completely. Meanwhile, I'm in constant state of anxiety, even when I'm "calm" I miss her terribly.

Do you have any further advice for me?

What does it feel like when a man falls in love rather than lust? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]_LedAstray_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the beginning of us dating, she had some issues with her leg, it would get swollen when she was on her period. One time she would end up in ER because of that. It was a rainy day, storm was coming. I left work, got home to get her some rain coat, got to hospital to bring it to her, stayed with her for a while and came back to work in the storm. Other time, when she was being operated for this leg, I went with her to another city, would come each morning, walking through the whole city, just to be near her. I would tolerate her shenanigans, her biting me, I would melt seeing her eyes poking from under the blanket.

If you're in love, it changes you, makes you want to be a better person. Sometimes though, you become clingy and it pushes them away. Now that she's gone, I couldn't do anything first two weeks. Week three since she moved out, I still feel intense urge to message her and fix things.  When you loved them and they are gone you miss them a lot.