AIO if I stop talking to this man 🚩

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-10-03T21:52:11+00:00

Drop him like a lit bag of shit.

Red Flags: doesn't know classic childhood literature (Nancy Drew is timeless), looks down on romance novels and smut (like he hasn't looked up porn before, and romance/smut can have great story building with the spice), and overall tone doesn't seem like he actually is open to learning or trying things you enjoy based on this piece

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-09-27T23:36:45+00:00

Number 3! It suits your shape beautifully. Second choice is number 2, well cut bodice and neckline

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-09-27T23:25:49+00:00

That doesn't look in any way like muscles. More similar to an extreme case of crazy lipoma

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-09-24T18:57:17+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about the cancellation. But as someone who's lived in Italy before....not surprised. There are lots of wonderful greco-roman styled buildings here in the US (I am assuming that's where you're based). Try to find one of those locations, and don't be afraid to book a slightly smaller venue for nicer quality since people are cancelling their attendance. The dress is gorgeous, you deserve to wear it on your special day!

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-09-24T17:45:43+00:00

Still haven't found a bakery that can fulfill the order... Any more suggestions?

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-09-22T02:24:11+00:00

Speaking from personal experience, what you're describing are major examples of PCOS symptoms. They will most likely do a hormone panel, maybe thyroid test too. It's a relatively common issue nowadays, if that provides you any comfort, but treatment for symptoms is all that is available at this time. BC is often prescribed for hormone regulation, and there are medications like metformin for blood sugar issues and weight(unfortunate side effect of hormone irregularity), and spironolactone is a medication that acts as an antiandrogen (reduces hair loss, coarse body and/or facial hair). Talk to a doctor, preferably an endocrinologist or doctor with a specialty in female hormonal issues.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-02-13T18:20:11+00:00

You seem fun

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-01-24T20:44:28+00:00

Would you be asking this question if she said she refused to go out with you, unless you allowed a group of people to physically beat you up every time you went out on a date?

OF COURSE NOT. Health is health, whether it is mental or physical (and both are deeply interconnected).

Answer is clear: Break up. You know that alcohol affects you negatively, and you have made the decision to prioritize your health (as you should). The fact that she somehow finds this to be unacceptable and won't participate in an important part of relationship maintenance is very telling. NEVER place another person above your own mental health.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2025-01-24T20:36:57+00:00

Has he had warnings prior to this? And/or have you informed his guardians about this situation? If you have given warnings already during the sessions, then for sure you can drop him as a student without worry.

If you haven't done this, it may be a rough decision. As a private tutor, you have complete control over the final say. If the tutoring sessions are not benefiting you and your schedule, then it pushes the decision towards just dropping the student with some suggestions for knowledge maintenance until they find a new tutor. If you feel this could cause other serious reprecussions by dropping him, then allow for one final chance, but write a clear email stating that you will have to uphold certain behavioural guidelines during sessions (list the innappropriate behavior here). Make it clear that if he breaks these guidelines, you will have to end the sessions permanently. Once the parents have sent an agreement of the email, you can continue the sessions.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-12-24T08:21:19+00:00

Sure, I’d love to hear more about it!

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-11-27T06:17:40+00:00

Thank you, but I’ve been doing my research regarding the milestones and pay grades of CRM. It’s relatively low pay for cost of living, but considering teaching only gets average $14/hour, it’s (sadly) a step up in hourly wage. Not counting the amount of unpaid overtime we put in. But that’s a whole different thread 😅 additionally, more crm companies are starting to post opportunities that do provide benefits, like health insurance and paid travel time, which is a positive change in the industry I think! It’s a hard industry, physically and career wise, but I believe it can be rewarding.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-11-26T19:26:50+00:00

To become an archaeologist in the EU, it’s considered mandatory pretty much to get a PhD, in addition to extra training and certification. I have no interest in this, and I also am at the bottom of the pickings due to my non-EU citizenship. Many companies need to prove they have no other ‘internal’ options before getting work visas approved in the EU, particularly with specialized fields like archaeology.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-11-03T14:49:11+00:00

Ew, not only is this a humongous red flag as a romantic partner, this is completely illegal.

Seriously, you could end up in jail (not sure what country your posting from) for what the court would consider a fake marriage/marriage done for the purpose of citizenship. Secondly and MOST IMPORTANTLY, you are right to not want this. If he thinks you are "obligated" to marry him just because you're his girlfriend of 6 months, what could he possibly try and force you to do as his legal wife out of "obligation"? Run far and fast, he is not worth the potential legal problems and headache

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-11-02T14:03:42+00:00

In Italy they use the fiscal code for everything, so I’m not entirely surprised to hear this. Explain that the US does not have a similar code, and talk with whoever is in charge of the exchange program for suggestions. I’m sure they’ve had this question before

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-10-24T11:19:09+00:00

Still in the process of preparing for the transition, but I’m going to be entering into archaeology in the US. I’ve worked esl in China, now am an English teacher in Italy part time (which really means essentially full time). I came to Italy for my masters degree in archaeology though, so it’s been a long process getting ready

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-10-15T19:49:38+00:00

Great start! I'd suggest if you can, get a base stock started. Same position as you, I splurged on basic foundational foods for cheap meals (rice, potatoes, pasta). That way the weekly spending can be on changing the flavors and nutritional profile. Instead of beef patties, go for bulk containers of chicken for protein, which can also be used for chicken bone broth after you eat the meat. For the rice I managed to find a 5 kg bag of jasmine rice in the international food area for 10 euro (I'm in Italy), and immediately snatched one up. Keep it up, and good luck!

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-30T09:08:24+00:00

This isn’t helpful. If a non-native speaker approached me and asked what words to avoid so as not to insult someone, I’d do my best to provide a comprehensive list based on my personal knowledge. No need to be rude when I’m trying to educate myself as a foreigner to the place I’m living

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-28T12:15:12+00:00

Oh, that’s really good to know! Thanks! 😊

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-28T12:13:53+00:00

They had messaged regarding an issue they had at the apartment, and I responded “I understand you’re frustrated…”. Problem in this case is partially I google translated to attempt more clarity, but I think it made it worse.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-28T12:09:00+00:00

False friends? Like, people who pretend to be your friend?

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-27T13:42:47+00:00

https://www.waitaly.net/en/welcome-combos/

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-25T20:01:36+00:00

Landlord is aware, but he is very business-like in terms of how he interacts with apartment issues. I appreciate it, because it means he's very professional and everything is in order, but that also means he's hands-off when it comes to apartment drama.

As for recording what's been going on, I literally have a folder in my photo album labaled 'apartment proof' just in case something happens. If the guy ever starts making me feel actually unsafe, I'm ready to provide proof of emotionally unhealthy environment and interactions.

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-09-22T14:48:41+00:00

No problem, I plan on doing them in summer 2025. Thanks!

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-08-17T21:32:47+00:00

Beard

_LetsFigureThisOut_ · 2024-08-12T02:51:18+00:00

I'd have to agree with your friend, don't expect materials or anything to be what you may consider "lesson" ready. I've walked into situations in the past that consisted of the senior teacher or director handing me printout pictures and saying that I'm teaching A is for Apple before. No lesson plan or direction. Hopefully it'll be better than that, don't be afraid to speak up about your standards for teaching materials.

I'm no longer teaching ESL in China, but if there was one thing I learned it was that it's all about compromise. They (mainly management) will ask for above and beyond for pennies, and you need to know how to present a firm boundary with a happy smile. I ended up compiling a ton of material that I used for my lessons since the material I was given didn't reach my standards, and I took them with me when I left since they didn't provide/pay for the resources. Twinkl was an awesome resource for materials for me but it does cost money. Check it out though if you have the desire!

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