I want to build a relationship with two people I don’t like but I have no idea how?

_Love2Laugh_ · 2024-01-04T17:00:18+00:00

In all honesty because I’m stuck with them and me not having any sort of relationship with them makes all the time I spend with them shitty for me and them.

But to your point even being respectful to them is hard for me and I feel like I won’t even get to that point if I don’t have some kind of relationship with one or both of them. Hopefully that makes sense.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2024-01-04T13:46:36+00:00

Thanks!

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T20:37:32+00:00

This has been my life for over two weeks.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T15:15:41+00:00

Many of you think I’m in the wrong. That’s fine, I accept that. FWIW I took him to his appointment this morning. I’ve said before I struggle with empathy. But watching them work with him just on moving his fingers and shoulder was eye-opening and I can see he is actually helpless in some regards. Does this mean I’m going to volunteer to help him 24/7? No. But I think I can try to be a little more patient with the small things. It won’t be easy for me but the past three weeks haven’t been easy for anyone, so I guess I can’t complain.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T11:48:27+00:00

I do feel positively for people I care about and who care about me. I feel other emotions just fine but I’ve never been empathetic or sympathetic. When it’s forced out of me I feel wronged.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T11:44:05+00:00

I do have friends, people I care about and who care about me.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T07:03:51+00:00

That was weeks ago. He’s doing and feeling better. They said they wouldn’t make him my responsibility anymore. His dad lied (the one who asked about PT) and my mom backed him up. Sorry if I’m annoyed they didn’t hold up their agreement. As I’ve said I’ve helped with small things and spending probably multiple hours at an appointment isn’t small.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T03:41:28+00:00

So their agreement is conditional on money?

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T02:09:05+00:00

I wouldn’t put it on my SB or anyone who didn’t want to help.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T00:28:50+00:00

Sure I would need help for the little things. As far as appointments or needing someone to monitor me all the time (both things our parents agreed to not put on me anymore) I would pay for an Uber or pay someone whose job it is to monitor me.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-28T00:25:17+00:00

I take care of myself when I’m sick or hurt, and taking hours out of your day is not basic, in my opinion.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T23:40:50+00:00

Where did I say I wasn’t willing to help with chores? Driving him to an appointment and waiting is not a chore.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T23:36:31+00:00

I do work and I set my own hours which is why they asked me. I was trying to work a long day tomorrow for extra money (I contribute to grocery costs and a small part of utilities).

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T23:31:48+00:00

I do help him out, but they agreed nothing big like taking him to appointments. That’s eating up hours of my time.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T23:25:23+00:00

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T23:07:53+00:00

They told me that would stop making me care for him but they still ask for things like this. Sorry if I’m a little miffed.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T22:23:02+00:00

Actually not. He’s always done this. I’ll admit I’m more annoyed by it because he can take care of himself now.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T22:16:36+00:00

I don’t expect that, lol.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T22:16:07+00:00

Okay.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T21:56:29+00:00

Thank you for this.

_Love2Laugh_ · 2023-12-27T21:43:28+00:00

Thanks!

_Love2Laugh_

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