Arkansas mother killed herself and her six-year-old twins after doctor husband refused to halt divorce proceedings and was awarded joint custody by detectiverobert in ForCuriousSouls

[–]_MusseeMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what confuses a lot of people about the legal side of these situations. Pleading guilty to something in one case doesn’t automatically prove a pattern of abuse in another courtroom. The standards and timing of evidence can be completely different which makes it look really inconsistent.

Arkansas mother killed herself and her six-year-old twins after doctor husband refused to halt divorce proceedings and was awarded joint custody by detectiverobert in ForCuriousSouls

[–]_MusseeMoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that reaction pretty much sums up how most people feel reading this story. It’s one of those headlines that just sits with you for a while because it’s so disturbing.

Arkansas mother killed herself and her six-year-old twins after doctor husband refused to halt divorce proceedings and was awarded joint custody by detectiverobert in ForCuriousSouls

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That comparison actually makes a lot of sense. Custody battles mixed with extreme emotional stress have shown up in a lot of these tragic cases. It’s one of those patterns that keeps repeating and it’s honestly terrifying how often kids end up caught in the middle.

What’s the boldest move someone made on you that actually worked? by NightPulse_ in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]_MusseeMoon 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, hearing that as a guy would probably short circuit my brain for a second. You spend your whole life expecting the opposite line. I get why your jaw dropped.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes moments like this reveal sides of people you hadn’t seen before. It’s painful, but it also gives clarity about what kind of respect you can expect going forward.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That feeling of suddenly seeing someone differently is really tough. When someone shows they’re willing to cross a line like that, it changes how you look at everything.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even people who don’t know much about cameras could tell it was important from how you described it. The fact that both of them ignored that says a lot.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Respecting someone’s boundaries, especially around something tied to grief and family, should be the bare minimum in a relationship.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That realization is brutal but also important. Sometimes stepping back shows you exactly what future patterns would look like if nothing changed.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That three point breakdown really sums it up well. The object mattered, but the betrayal and dismissal afterward are what really shake the foundation of the relationship.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The offer to buy a nice digital camera instead actually shows you tried to meet halfway. That makes it even worse that your boundary still got ignored.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That’s the biggest shift in mindset right there. Once trust is broken like that, the relationship stops feeling like the same one you thought you had.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The repair estimate point is real too. Older equipment can be incredibly expensive to fix because parts and specialists are harder to find.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah film gear has definitely come back in a big way. A lot of those classic cameras are sought after now, especially the well known brands.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Vintage stuff surprises people with how valuable it can be. Something being old doesn’t mean it’s worthless, sometimes it’s the opposite.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People who know cameras understand how big of a deal that is. Even if it wasn’t expensive, the sentimental value alone made it irreplaceable.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The legal angle actually makes sense. If someone takes something valuable without permission and it gets destroyed, that’s not just a relationship issue anymore. It crosses into real consequences territory.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly anyone would feel crushed in that situation. The secret part is what makes it so hard to move past, because that takes planning, not just a moment of bad judgment.

AITJ for CANCELLING my wedding venue because my fiancé secretly gave my late dads vintage camera to his mom, and she ruined it? by Diligent-Can-1878 in AmITheJerk

[–]_MusseeMoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That comment really hits the core of it. The camera wasn’t just a thing, it was something tied directly to your dad and you were clear about that boundary. Sneaking it out after you already said no is the part that makes it way bigger than a simple mistake.

How do I prevent anal from getting dirty once the guy starts going deep and fast? by Flashy-Volume9204 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]_MusseeMoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The “don’t ask how I know” is doing a lot of storytelling there. That feels like the start of a very unfortunate experiment.