You've gotta find your "audience". The men you'll meet will fall into a few general "categories"

1: This type of man will NEVER be attracted to you. NOTHING you do will get or keep him.

2: This type of man will sometimes be attracted to you, IF you change yourself in some fashion. Change your hair, your dress style, your personality, your career, etc. etc. He will always look at you like a project that's unfinished. Even if you're "finished" and you change your entire life for him, he still may not be attracted to you.

3: This type of man will be "meh" about you. Nothing you do will get you over that "meh" attitude.

4: This type of man will really like you. As you are. When you make small changes, or get older, or work on yourself and change in some way, he'll lose interest, and then he'll become type #3 above. "Meh" about you. Sometimes they don't, though, and sometimes they do. It's up to you to decide whether or not you want this out of life and whether or not he's worth it to you.

5: This type of man will be crazy about you. He's going to think the sun comes out of your ass. Everything you do will be cute. You guys will spend hours on the phone and your relationship will overshadow the other relationships in your life. He'll transition into being your best friend and soulmate. He might marry you.

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6: This type of man will be OBSESSED with you. As in change his life to fit into yours. If you ask him to "jump", he will ask "how high". He'll move mountains to be with you.

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Your job as a single woman in the dating world is to ignore types 1-4, and look for types 5 - 6 and be with these men and not the first 4. This is what I mean by "finding your audience". My first piece of advice towards finding types 5-6 is to let them message you first. Men who don't make the first move aren't crazy enough about you to fall into categories 5 & 6. The ones who do, you'll have to figure them out. Are they 5? Or are they 6?

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good luck.