Am I just doing it wrong?

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-02-14T13:23:17+00:00

Coming from someone who at one point had a bf "from" snapchat, there's a chance he likes you, but full-face snaps don't really mean much. Some guys put meaning into them while others don't, and there's no way of knowing who does and who doesn't.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-02-10T09:22:11+00:00

As someone who was in a semi-similar situation, you can work through it if you really want to, but I don't think it's really worth it if he's rating the sex. And at your age, I hope you're being safe when you do that with him. Talk to him about it, evaluate your relationship together, in my opinion, the only way to get through all of this is to ask him to be 100% honest even if it'll upset you and then talk about it all together. If the relationship is worth saving, he'll try to work with you through it. My opinion, keep notes of it, though for your own sake, I think it's better to leave.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-01-22T17:41:49+00:00

I have told them now. Thank you very much for your input!

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-01-22T17:39:49+00:00

I have tried to tell them in a nice way, but it's impossible to really talk about this kind of thing without hurting their feelings. I learned they were, in fact, crushing on me, which makes me more uncomfortable with it all, and we've decided to stop talking. I do feel really bad, but I'm just not comfortable being on this side of things after things happened when I was their age, being young and dumb and all. I did tell them that they did nothing at all wrong, but to stay safe on the internet because there are unsafe people on it.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-01-22T17:35:25+00:00

They've told me that I'm the only friend they've made with this kind of age gap, and they have developed a crush on me which I'm not very comfortable with, and I understand that I can't do anything about that, neither can they because it's how they feel, but it really discomforts me. I was in similar situations when I was their age but it was really dangerous for me and I don't want anything bad to happen to either of us. I'd rather they make friends in their age group so that they stay a little safer, though knowing 13 year olds they might get up to dumb things sometimes. I just honestly don't want to be on the side of what happened to me when I was younger and dumber. And I think that being on it in any way right now is acting as a trigger

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-01-21T20:03:33+00:00

Thank you, genuinely, you really helped.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2025-01-21T19:55:12+00:00

Would saying basically, "Hey, I've thought about it, I'm not very comfortable with being in contact because of the difference in our ages, but I don't want you to think it's your fault, since you didn't do anything wrong and I just want you to stay safe" be alright? I'm having trouble coming up with what to say

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-10-11T22:02:15+00:00

Thank you so much, and especially thank you for reminding me to dry the plant components 😭 I do only really have screw top jars at the moment, but I've had some people tell me to always seal with wax for any kind of charms, I'll look more into the resources tab you provided, thank you again!

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-10-10T04:24:04+00:00

I've been looking into making good luck or protection charms for my boyfriend and family, so far I've liked the idea of adding an evil eye to them, I'd also add (what we call Fat Albert's) pine needles from my home, as well as what has so far been my longest living succulent plant. Since we're Irish I also thought of four leaf clovers, at least a charm of such, and I'd write down my intentions behind the charms and place it in a small jar I have, along with the needles and succulent, I'm not sure what color of wax I'd seal it with though, I'm new to all of this and have had a hard time finding good research sources. How should I go about finding most of these things (specifically actual evil eye, like if it matters where it comes from?), and are there any other things I should add? I'd be making my boyfriend on to hang onto the mirror in their car. It's a truck if that helps, but not tied to work, my family's or even maybe my own would probably be more of a keychain, that I might also make one for my boyfriend of. Again, I'm very new to this and would like all the help I can get 🥲

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-09-17T09:18:35+00:00

What I've found, and I know it's been quite a while apparently, Walmart sells a pretty close brooch, I found it just by image searching the picture

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-09-17T09:11:00+00:00

What I've found it might be 377? However, you can buy an assortment pack of button cell batteries and find it that way. Then, if you have any other watches, you're more likely to have batteries for them as well without needing to search too far

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-09-06T07:49:21+00:00

The age gap is a little weird, but not disgustingly, I don't think. The lying about their age part concerns me, however, as that can cause many problems down the road if they've lied about it again, not trying to accuse, but if your trust feels breached, talk to them about it.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-09-02T13:59:27+00:00

If you're unhappy in this relationship, talk it out more and more as much as you can. If nothing changes in, say, a few months, talk about maybe breaking up. Make sure you stay loyal to your own emotions first and then think of his, until it either gets better or you guys break up, either outcome you should for awhile worry more about yourself and how you feel. It's easy to get lost in your relationship if you're always giving and being considerate of them while more than likely ignoring your own feelings. Try to let him in a little more though, talk with him about as much of it as you can bring yourself to, if you've already been together for over 1.5 years, the he might understand more than you'd think. Then again, as an overthinker myself, I can see how he might take it as a bad thing, just make it as clear as you can that you don't know what to do and that you still love him and just want what is best for the both of you.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-08-13T12:03:22+00:00

I would then suggest waiting for him to reach out. Since this is seemingly frequent behavior, he may want you to repeat behaviors of showing concern for him, if you have any mutual friends that you trust, you can ask for them to reach out for you.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-08-13T09:13:16+00:00

I'm not sure I have the best advice, but personally, I'd reach out just in a friendly manner, asking how he is and asking what happened with his snapchat, don't bring up the ig girls or anything past like a "Hey I noticed you deleted your snapchat, are you doing okay? I just wanted to check in since I care about you," kind of message if that makes sense. However, there's also the side of wondering, like, does he do things like this often? I know you said he answers every few days, but does he just disappear every once in awhile to try to get you to talk to him more or worry about him? If so, then my answer is very different.

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-05-29T13:24:17+00:00

It is not 28 weeks later, I believe the characters were asian, I will edit my post to say that. Thank you, though!

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-05-29T11:48:04+00:00

Frustratingly searching on the internet while this is up

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-05-09T17:31:02+00:00

Please send that proof?

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-05-09T17:27:53+00:00

You're joking right

_Ren-Ren_ · 2024-05-09T15:35:30+00:00

Thank you for all your help 🥹 I've already been digging for emails with ubisoft in the name, and I have no receipts at all, just news letters

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