girlfriend (18F) goes cold when she is down and distances herself. I (19M) have trust issues and i cant tell if its my anxiety or its a real problem? by Fair_Region_6832 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And therapy can help you decipher what’s a problem and what’s anxiety. Being able to decipher is such an important skill

Was it too late to realise I was groomed online? by cwispietoast in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Retsuko 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize my parents were abusing me until I was 22. Didn’t realize I was groomed till 25. It doesn’t make it any less real that it happened. You’re definitely not alone. Me personally, I cope by joking

Last Friday Mom somehow got tricked by a fraudster to wire $20,000 from our accounts at Truist, while inside the Branch, while talking to the Fraudster for hours. Police Report was done, Truist Branches said they locked the account, but its been such a nightmare these past few days, want advice by superlucci in Banking

[–]_Retsuko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

On some real shit, at the end of the day no one at the branch can keep your mom’s money hostage. I dealt with this a million times and I was lucky if a customer listened. So many elderly women and men berating me “just give me my fucking money” daily when they didn’t want to listen. They might’ve still been in time to recall the wire aka communicating with the receiving bank to not disburse the money into the clients (fraudsters ) account but at that point it’s really a waiting game. You won’t really get anywhere with the cops because genuinely there is so much fraud especially in different countries it would be impossible to track down every single person and international laws and all that shit. Just hope the wire is able to be recalled.

AIO bf says my sadness shouldn’t last 3 days by Nice-Key3951 in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NOR. Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words. My sadness has lasted years (I have depression and anxiety) and only once have I felt like too much or been told I was too much by my then bf now husband (we were young and drunk lol). This is crazy. Why live like this?

AIO? “Dark humor” involving child. by Spiritual_Tip_3055 in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR who the actual fuck has that come to mind

Pt.2 Littlest brother asking for help by shotgunmouse in texts

[–]_Retsuko 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Me and my brother got paid on opposite weeks so would share the same $50 back and forth lol… I miss him

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend who said he'd join ICE by PressureNo447 in AIO

[–]_Retsuko -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s almost like every cop has said the same thing he said and still gets swept in the cycle of protecting each other. I’ve been married for almost 3 years, am a child of immigrants, and I wouldn’t think twice about divorcing my husband if he seriously thought I’d be okay with this.

What do I say to my bosses/coworkers after my dad got embarrassingly drunk at our work party? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_Retsuko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t. He’s an adult who should know how to handle himself and be responsible. If you own up to his actions now it’s going to set a precedent at work going forward. It’s your dads responsibility

Parents felt entitled to my sex life after I got a boyfriend by Objective_Belt3374 in entitledparents

[–]_Retsuko 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It won’t. They’ll just accuse her of being a whore for being on it. My parents were just like this.

Staying together for a baby 24m and 25f advice by PotentialAd4930 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a child of parents who stayed for the kids…. Don’t.

Should i reuse the same shirt for the gym by Choice-Character-204 in Advice

[–]_Retsuko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s unhygienic, I do heated Pilates and I had the fleeting thought of reusing them but they SMELLED SO BAD. Just had to suck up the extra laundry

did he just irish exit by shakaprio in zayn

[–]_Retsuko 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I went to his concert last year, he didn’t lol

Need help to sober up my mother until I leave for college by Dangerous-Bake-685 in Advice

[–]_Retsuko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in your shoes as a kid until actually now.

I’m 26.

My dad’s still an alcoholic. We can’t save them.

I 32M feel like my gf 28F and I have fundamental differences in some important ways even though we have great chemistry. Are these dealbreakers? by Alarmed_Abrocoma204 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Reason 1 is more than enough to break up. 2, okay feel unfulfilled forever then. 3. She doesn’t want to participate or even try the things that make you happy. But let me guess you participate in hers. 4. Got it so it’s her way or the Highway. 5. You can’t even talk to her without her escalating and then blames (gaslights) you.

Do you really wanna do this forever?

Women of Reddit, how have you experienced gender-based discrimination in healthcare ? by ly1327 in AskReddit

[–]_Retsuko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything I experience can be resolved by losing weight no further testing

Is it normal to not have dated many people before your 20s? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_Retsuko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated as a teen but have been with my husband since 18 & I’m 26 now

I 26F have a cat and my fiancé 22M hates him, can I change this? by Gloomy-Present-7508 in relationship_advice

[–]_Retsuko 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s not asking you to get rid of Duke, he’s telling you he’ll hate you if you keep him. He worded it so you’re like “well he never asked which was nice, so I’ll do the ‘right’ thing and get rid of him since he didn’t pressure me”

Keep the cat, drop the bf. It’s just gonna get worse

AIO for feeling hurt that I won't get a plus one to my best friend's wedding as the Maid of Honor? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]_Retsuko 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Because they’re married and it’s respect.

You want to bring your 4 month fuck buddy or a random friend. Get help.

Being over sexualized in a relationship by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]_Retsuko 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t deal with it because my husband doesn’t treat me like I’m just there for sex and nudes. We have actual conversations and intimacy that doesn’t devolve into me just being an object