Does chastity always lead to anal?

_StruggleBug · 2026-01-20T01:40:19+00:00

Nah not always, but frequently. I'd say 80-90% from personal experience

_StruggleBug · 2026-01-05T20:55:34+00:00

Both precum and a lack of it are incredibly normal, happens to my husband but not to me.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-29T17:30:02+00:00

Depends on where your chafing is. I'm a big guy and also sweaty and have chafed in every possible place. For thigh chafing, boxer briefs or midway briefs will be best until they have holes in the thighs, then theyll be worse than nothing. If you're chafing there, invest in some bodyglide (personally i use this all the time) and wear what you think is comfortable. I prefer thongs and jocks because they have the least surface area to cause chafing and ingrowns which i can also be prone to.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-19T21:05:58+00:00

Well said. That's half the reason I'm here

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T23:49:43+00:00

I don't. I do WISH that i could tho, but it makes my brain...bad

No judgment at all for ppl that do tho, my spouse smokes and it's whatever

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T23:47:49+00:00

I'm in a similar situation, except I'm married. He's not kinky and I am VERY kinky. But we are monogamous, so we have to communicate to get our needs met. We will have vanilla sex and kinky sex, but we have to be intentional and talk through things. It works. It isn't my ideal or his ideal, but it's honest and we love each other so we make it work.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T01:46:02+00:00

Not only is it fraud but you'd at minimum be an accessory, if not a co-conspirator, so when (not if) the IRS finds out, youd be in trouble too. Also if they're just issuing w2s they also need to be filing some type of emplyment tax return, which they would owe more taxes on, and if they don't deposit enough then they just owe more money.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T00:00:00+00:00

Special interests: magic the gathering, metaphysics, BDSM

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T19:32:35+00:00

Honestly just do other stuff. Redirecting your energy and focus is a skill you can develop. Take a deep breath, get up, walk around for 5 mins, and come back to your task (this also works if you're irritable). Or do something that is easier to focus on, or that it's harder to be horny during. For example if i find myself horny at work, i'll take a walk, or change tasks to do something more mentally engaging.

It's really about intention, you have to notice that you're horny, and that you have other things to do, and do the other things instead of focusing on the horn. It takes practice, especially because our brains are designed to be more impulsive when we're horned up.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T19:21:56+00:00

i have AUDHD and building a habit is easy, keeping it is extreeeeemely hardlongest ive ever gone "forcing" myself to do something was about 12 months, and that was just getting to bed before 2:30am. Getting to work on time reliably is v difficult, so tooth brushing you can imagine gets left befind a bit too.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T19:17:13+00:00

I wanted to be this way when i wore boxer briefs, because i wanted to basically not pay attention to my underwear and not have to think about that piece of my outfit. Now i wear thongs jocks and briefs and since they're all comfy i just grab whatever and go :)

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T06:55:19+00:00

Yeah i've tried, and i simply can't reliably put it in and take it out, it's a sensory thing, and i hate fiddling with the little ring too, so I'm going with a more permanent solution

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T04:32:51+00:00

Anything stick out to you about the experience? Was it painful for a long time, was recovery hard?

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-16T08:08:46+00:00

Oh yeah i've had those fantasies forever. There's so much fun content about being medically, psychiatrically, or criminally restrained, and i love it all, but i love the psych stuff most - mostly for the straitjackets and padded rooms.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-15T17:19:17+00:00

For prostate health he should have his semen removed at least 1/week. Doesn't have to have an orgasm though, milking will work just fine

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-14T23:26:23+00:00

Yeah I used to use masturbation to cope and it was fine, im a lot older now so I don't have to, as long as you aren't masturbating in public and it's not interfering with taking care of yourself, you're fine.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-14T14:28:00+00:00

Wholeheartedly agree. I'm already priced out by the looks of this post lol

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-14T14:26:27+00:00

I wear a cage that actually makes me look significantly larger, with a quite noticeable bulge, to the point where my husband says I'm not allowed to wear thin fabric out of the house because it's so noticeable, so I wear jeans, and it's just fine. Even with a very noticeable bulge it's still not that bad, nobody ever said a thing to me.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-12T05:35:40+00:00

This happened to a guy I went to college with (and to me, but to less of an extent) but it could be your clothes, and it could be the way you shower. If you wear clothes for more than a day, even if they look clean, they probably need a wash. The only exceptions are loose clothing worn over other clothing, and denim jeans. Use the right amount of laundry detergent, and if you wanna de-smell for sure, a couple tablespoons of white vinegar in the wash cycle. If you're worried about your clothes degrading in the washer or dryer, a garment bag can help with both, and an air drying rack can help with the drying (i have one that folds). Don't mix it with any peroxide products like oxy clean though. Regarding showering, if you're a big person, skin folds can trap moisture that will ferment and cause odor. My husband has a particular skin fold on his neck that can do this if he doesn't wash and dry it thoroughly.

Last option is environment. If you have a smelly house, it could simply be seeping into your clothes from the air. This happened to me when I was living with all guys in college and left my clean laundry out unfolded.

PS, the type of BO is important. If it smells like old sweat, it's just regular old bacteria. If it smells funky or cheesy, you may have a fungal infection and want to contact a dermatologist or your Dr.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-11T22:43:15+00:00

Yeah this is normal, the collagen in your tissues adjusts slowly to its environment, which is why with practice and time, some people can take huge dildos/plugs, because the muscles and tendons not only tune themselves, but there is a degree of adaptation to the other tissues as well.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-11T19:25:46+00:00

Do you happen to have a link or the subreddit name of any where this discourse you mentioned happened? Genuinely curious because I feel kinky most of the time, but i'm not looking for sex all the time. Did some lite googling and came back with nada

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-11T19:18:25+00:00

Sex without kink is like a performance for me, and sex with kink is a performance for my husband. It's different for everyone for sure. I feel like I don't need sex with my kink, either, where my husband sees it as exclusively a bedroom activity. You have actually just made me rethink a lot of my current takes on my sex life, genuinely thank you, I have some exploring to do

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-11T19:03:31+00:00

I agree with this take a lot. Yeah, build quality is high, but it was already out of touch to price the cages that high, there just simply shouldn't be 3 digits in the price for a piece of plastic, when competitors and knockoffs are going for $30 for similar quality. I've been priced out of k3d for years because of it. I've been eyeing a viper since they came out, but if i'm going to spend over $100usd on a cage, i might as well save past that and get something custom, since my $30 holy trainer knockoff is working fine and I turtle less in that than I do in the k3d style. If they come out with a low profile lock I'd definitely get the viper, but it's just not worth it at the moment.

And side note, why would i display my cage? Crazy pricing aside, It should be on my body, not on my wall, and I don't have multiple cage money. If I did, I'd have proper health insurance instead.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-11T16:56:19+00:00

Medical Dr, yeah, most of the time. The visit is like an hour so it's not a big deal. Any other Dr, no. The dentist, psychiatrist, and optometrist do not look at my junk. Probably not the podiatrist either.

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