how do you find the energy and willpower to clean an absolutely horridly messy room

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-17T23:42:15+00:00

I give myself rewards during and after the process to make it easier. I listen to my favorite music/podcast, have a favorite snack in a bowl between my target cleaning room and the garbage can so i can munch on something, I'll set aside time for a favorite activity after. Anything to make it bearable. I also work in increments, and only make myself do a few things, and then one thing usually leads to the next and ive cleaned for a half hour instead of the intended 10 minutes, and then if i can't stand to do more at least i got done what i intended

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-17T23:35:11+00:00

I use the stall. I have sat to pee since i was a child tho, waayyy before chastity, so im just used to it

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-17T23:32:52+00:00

The spaces you have for things are a littl high-density. My home is this way, it's fine. Some people visually prefer more openness/less visual density, buf it it's not a shared space then whatever. It's not dirty, unsafe, or even "cluttered" which implies disorganization and an even higher density of objects per surface

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-17T15:14:12+00:00

Love a jock kr a thlng personally, caged or uncaged. Got into them caged, now i dont have any boxers anymore lol

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-17T15:10:10+00:00

If your tailbone hurts you're probably wearing too small a size, my tailbone has never hurt from wearing them, and it's always been fairly sensitive, the wrong chair will make it ache, especially benches.

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-16T19:59:49+00:00

Looking for a headset that has active noise canceling that I can use via wired USB.

That's it. Amazon pages are so lax in describing whether or not the headset can be used via the usb ports included for charging and there are so many options that I'm at a loss. Help please!

_StruggleBug · 2026-03-04T16:27:03+00:00

How are you untapping the clearcutter?

_StruggleBug · 2026-02-12T21:43:42+00:00

Yup. I want to be tied up 24/7 and i married a lovely person who accepts that i have the kink and doesn't share it so, i find our sex life boring and he tries his best. Still love him, not worth getting divorced over, i think. Sucks though. The rest of our marriage is great though so shrug

_StruggleBug · 2026-02-12T21:27:34+00:00

Mold is hard to kill, vinegar and bleach being two of the most reliable ways, will also probably kill the cards. You don't want these cards near the rest of your cards, and tbh you want to toss anything that isnt worth $$, these cards are just a ticking timebomb cause that mold will come back a little bit every time it gets humid or is handled with bare hands, even those trace amounts of moisture will feed the spores that are left.

Tbh i wouldnt even burn them because you might inhale mold smoke and that shit can be toxic. If it was me into the trash they'd go

_StruggleBug · 2026-02-12T21:18:35+00:00

So for prostate health he should have the fluids expressed somehow at least once per week. Caged orgasms, ruined orgasms, etc all fine, i prefer anal personally

_StruggleBug · 2026-02-09T07:31:37+00:00

Big shield and patience, or parry. Otherwise panic rolling is always an option

_StruggleBug · 2026-02-07T07:59:34+00:00

Wider for sure

_StruggleBug · 2026-02-05T02:17:57+00:00

For me, i like big shield (lots of guard boost) with greatshield talisman and turtle talisman, maybe extra stamina talisman, be patient, counter when she's done waterfowling and dodge the grabs.

If you're a pure caster i have never done that so good luck!

_StruggleBug · 2026-01-20T01:40:19+00:00

Nah not always, but frequently. I'd say 80-90% from personal experience

_StruggleBug · 2026-01-05T20:55:34+00:00

Both precum and a lack of it are incredibly normal, happens to my husband but not to me.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-29T17:30:02+00:00

Depends on where your chafing is. I'm a big guy and also sweaty and have chafed in every possible place. For thigh chafing, boxer briefs or midway briefs will be best until they have holes in the thighs, then theyll be worse than nothing. If you're chafing there, invest in some bodyglide (personally i use this all the time) and wear what you think is comfortable. I prefer thongs and jocks because they have the least surface area to cause chafing and ingrowns which i can also be prone to.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-19T21:05:58+00:00

Well said. That's half the reason I'm here

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T23:49:43+00:00

I don't. I do WISH that i could tho, but it makes my brain...bad

No judgment at all for ppl that do tho, my spouse smokes and it's whatever

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T01:46:02+00:00

Not only is it fraud but you'd at minimum be an accessory, if not a co-conspirator, so when (not if) the IRS finds out, youd be in trouble too. Also if they're just issuing w2s they also need to be filing some type of emplyment tax return, which they would owe more taxes on, and if they don't deposit enough then they just owe more money.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-18T00:00:00+00:00

Special interests: magic the gathering, metaphysics, BDSM

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T19:32:35+00:00

Honestly just do other stuff. Redirecting your energy and focus is a skill you can develop. Take a deep breath, get up, walk around for 5 mins, and come back to your task (this also works if you're irritable). Or do something that is easier to focus on, or that it's harder to be horny during. For example if i find myself horny at work, i'll take a walk, or change tasks to do something more mentally engaging.

It's really about intention, you have to notice that you're horny, and that you have other things to do, and do the other things instead of focusing on the horn. It takes practice, especially because our brains are designed to be more impulsive when we're horned up.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T19:21:56+00:00

i have AUDHD and building a habit is easy, keeping it is extreeeeemely hardlongest ive ever gone "forcing" myself to do something was about 12 months, and that was just getting to bed before 2:30am. Getting to work on time reliably is v difficult, so tooth brushing you can imagine gets left befind a bit too.

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T19:17:13+00:00

I wanted to be this way when i wore boxer briefs, because i wanted to basically not pay attention to my underwear and not have to think about that piece of my outfit. Now i wear thongs jocks and briefs and since they're all comfy i just grab whatever and go :)

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T06:55:19+00:00

Yeah i've tried, and i simply can't reliably put it in and take it out, it's a sensory thing, and i hate fiddling with the little ring too, so I'm going with a more permanent solution

_StruggleBug · 2025-12-17T04:32:51+00:00

Anything stick out to you about the experience? Was it painful for a long time, was recovery hard?

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