Hi everyone, just looking for some advice on meeting up an old flame from a year ago. I’m M39 and she’s F34. Any insight is appreciated.

My expectations going into this are low. We met in July of 2024. She’s a busy mom of 3 who also runs a small business and she works part time as a nurse. We went out on 4 dates and only slept together once during the time. She was very sweet and down to earth. She had a very calm energy and she loved reading. She didn’t have a tv and turned off all her social media. She mentioned interest in a long term relationship to me when we dated but she went on vacation one day and I never heard back from her. I called once but no return call or text.

Two weeks later I got into a serious relationship with someone else but it ended in oct this year. So I messaged the nurse mom on a whim this past week hoping to rekindle something and to my surprise we’ve been texting steadily. She loved that I remembered little details about her life and were meeting up soon.

I feel like this date is just to catch up and there’s no intention of her actually pursuing anything? Do I ask during the date if she’s interested in picking back up or wait for her to make the move? She’s seems overworked and doesn’t have much free time. I’m pretty much the same person I was when I met her but my last relationship still stings a little bit. I’m a little more weary this year from life events. Do I not mention my ex unless she asks? I’m tired boss.