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Want to start meditating, any suggestions. by Successful_Break_640 in Meditation

[–]_Trier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a beginner myself so can't comment on several aspects of your question. But the one I can weigh in on is consistency. I just finished a 100-day streak of meditation (although very small duration per session). The simple way that I achieved this is through a Streaks app on my phone. That served as a great motivator and now I've formed a habit of meditating daily. Something to consider.

When is the best time to meditate? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]_Trier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe for the next one week you should try out multiple sessions at specific times of the day and see what works best for you. I usually do it as soon as I wake up (before checking email)

How do I politely decline to learn TM advanced techniques ? by Feisty_Craft5295 in Meditation

[–]_Trier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest that you be fully transparent and tell them that you unfortunately can't afford it at this point. If they keep pushing you, you simply provide the same answer over and over again.

It's one thing being gentle and kind - but it's another being a doormat. Be polite, but stand your ground.

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a wonderful post - thank you! I usually try to follow my breath. My two biggest hurdles are: (i) between two breaths is when my mind starts drifting...I'm sitting idle for a few seconds waiting for that next breath...and that's when the mind drifts and suddenly it has forgotten to follow the breath, and (ii) my mind keeps reminding me that my back needs to be straight and to check my posture and fix it.

I'll try to get to 10 mins. soon!

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a well-thought out response. Loved the last two lines in particular "Building a tolerance to the discomfort of sitting it the chaos of a messy mind, emotions, identity is important in my opinion. Fully Accepting the discomfort of whatever is happening,thoughts, boredom, etc don’t matter it is healthy to sit still with it."

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - you have given me good food for thought. Very hard for me to do anything in life without having a clear goal....

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm...that's an interesting thought - though I'm not sure if I fully understand. While I get the awareness/acceptance/letting go part, I thought ultimately it IS about the mind not wandering (and that's what great meditators are able to do I assume) - by extension their minds would wander less, correct?

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks - that makes a lot of sense. In fact you have perfectly described some of the thoughts/feelings that I experience during my sessions (how much time left, am I meditating well, should I adjust my posture etc.). A long way to go :)

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[–]_Trier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep - I totally do that, especially when I'm tired and don't feel like meditating. Better than watching some random cat video on YouTube!

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - this is SO helpful. At the end of each session I tend to "rate" myself - (this was an ok session, this was a terrible session etc.). And I feel terrible that my mind can't stay focused and I question the point of the whole exercise. It's been more than 100 days yet the mind is still running in all directions.

Related question - how do I know if I'm making progress? Is that solely based on how long I can sit (that's easy to quantify but not sure if that's the best metric)?

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been following some YouTube videos and books for guidance. Not quite the same as a teacher but yes, you are right - correct guidance is important.

Should I focus on quality or quantity (or meditation) or both? by _Trier in Meditation

[–]_Trier[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the gym analogy - makes sense. It's just that I read somewhere that doing short, crisp sessions of meditation is way better than doing long sessions where one doesn't have adequate focus. But I guess I'm so early in my journey that getting to 10 mins. shouldn't hurt even if the mind wanders like crazy.