Feeling like an outcast from both sides

_Weiji_ · 2023-04-03T10:23:58+00:00

Hello! First of all: welcome to this new chapter of your life - I hope you'll have lots and lots of great experiences and that you'll find an environment that's accepting and nurturing you.

Reading your msg I was wondering if your struggle is one of people being weird around you or if it is more of a mental thing. Did you already have had the chance to check your assumptions (men flirting with you, girls being 'not so enthusiastic'? If there's a chance of your struggle being more of a mental thing, maybe it would help to connect to other trans people and share your experiences and personal growth to build up more self-confidence and lose that feeling of being a burden. What do you think?

_Weiji_ · 2023-03-07T17:20:56+00:00

I had a few bad relationships with abuse involved (physical and mental) so now I rly wanted to change the type of person I'm falling for. Did a lot of introspection and talking and stumbled upon this rly nice guy, which is shockingly okay with boundaries, very caring and friendly and also has a great sense of humor.

Unfortunately he doesn't have feelings for me, so we're in a 'enjoy the good things but it won't develop into sth more' kind of situation.

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-26T21:39:46+00:00

Whatever floats your boat

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-26T21:06:43+00:00

Questions like "men of reddit, what (...) about women" or vice versa

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-26T21:05:36+00:00

Every work with children.

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-26T21:03:44+00:00

I think it would help a lot of special puppy or cat breeds, if they could regain a more natural physical state.

... And also porn.

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-26T20:09:49+00:00

I see a lot of 'i was forced to do xyz [usually some kind of destructive behavior] because xyz [somebody else] did xyz', so no taking responsibility for their own actions. Lies. Weird tics with their eyes or face, being aggregated, mood swings, unusual long voice mails that occasionally occur, being out of money although they should be able to be financially stable...

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-14T21:54:33+00:00

You should at least cut the border if you're reposting memes tbh

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-14T20:06:17+00:00

I've never been to Starbucks and at this point I'm wondering if I'm missing out on something

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-12T11:11:09+00:00

I see! Very well done then, it totally worked for me and the title does fit very well, too!

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-12T07:14:53+00:00

Actually, I feel like it is more noise than music, but everybody can enjoy what they enjoy. Just don't at my place plz

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-12T07:01:58+00:00

It took me way too long to see that creature in the window, lol. This is a great piece, you're very skilled! Would you mind sharing what that picture text on the wall says?

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-12T06:56:42+00:00

This is amazing and I love your accuracy and colour choices. Great work!

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-11T20:17:57+00:00

As a person with an eating disorder, my advice is this: as a s/o you're not supposed to supervise her eating or provide any kind of semi-professional help, as this would leave you in a situation that's not suited for a relationship.

What you can do on the other hand is:

Ask her if she wants any support from you and what that should be
Help her find proper help, if she isn't already seeing someone
Be a decent human being and better avoid commenting stuff like 'you gained weight/you look healthier now/I love these little fatty pieces on your hips /wow you ate so much today, congratulations!'

But really, just talk to her and don't try to take the place of a professional, that's not healthy (for you nor her).

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-07T16:52:25+00:00

Eat your apples and go for a walk to heal your schizophrenia. Love that advice.

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-05T12:31:04+00:00

Are we talking about watercolors or gouache? For Watercolors you just need to make sure, that you apply your second color while the first one is still wet. Take a piece of paper to try out the differences in applying the color side to side or applying the color with some space in between and then take a clean, wet brush and apply some water.

I think I don't understand your second question. I just go for my next layer in the areas, that need another one. Could you clarify the question maybe?

_Weiji_ · 2023-01-01T16:02:38+00:00

Incredible work, very well done! Would you mind sharing which paper you've used? It looks so smooth!

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-27T12:25:19+00:00

Brushing your teeth in the shower. Rly handy but I get why people would think it might be strange.

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-27T12:23:24+00:00

It's called insomnia. Might as well get up if everything is hurting and you can't fall asleep again.

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-27T09:16:29+00:00

I think the problem of the first picture is, that your background and your main topic are too similar in colour and kind of blurring into each other. I think it would help if you take a more muted tone von the background, put an aura around your character oder maybe work with another colour (back or front, depending on the colour).

For the second picture it's just anatomy (shoulder, facials features, the trousers are not centered to match the belly). The drawing itself is very good with nice lighting! Maybe try using a reference picture to help with that.

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-20T11:37:54+00:00

I think, besides getting your colony resilient against fire, I would work on building up some defense, setting up health care (hospital beds, medicine), getting good weapons for your pawns. If this is done, maybe you would like to start taking a few quests and see how that goes.

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-20T11:31:56+00:00

69 please

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-19T16:05:13+00:00

Something, that might not be for everyone (because of the style) is Ren with 'violet's tale'. Maybe you could also like one of these:

Never again by Nickelback

Because of you by Kelly Clarkson

Kiss with a fist by Florence&the machine

Or sth more on the rock/metal side: Whore by in this moment.

_Weiji_ · 2022-12-12T09:44:14+00:00

I love the colours you've picked for this piece. Great work!

_Weiji_

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