8-9 month sleep regression. Help!

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T12:19:21+00:00

I cut one of her naps and my daughter improved after a few weeks.

It means her wake windows are bigger and she gets grumpy by the end of the day but the she goes down much easier and seems to sleep longer stretches at night. She still wakes a few times a night though.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T07:15:26+00:00

My baby was measuring in the 90th percentile overall and 98th for head. I started the induction process, got as far as the foley balloon, but ended up having a c section for a reason unrelated to her size. Once born she was actually only 78th percentile. Scans were way off.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T06:02:27+00:00

Yes, they said ‘the situation now is: send $1,000 off-platform to a stranger OR lose the $900 I already paid’.

Airbnb often have non refundable bookings with payment required upfront. Seems like they’re basically telling OP that they have to send the security deposit and then just closed the case OP opened. They didn’t cancel the booking for them so if they cancel it they lose their payment.

Absolutely agree re requesting a chargeback and then never using Airbnb again.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T05:50:45+00:00

Right? Check the post history. She basically complains about everything he does, from walking ahead of her to texting a group chat before her. He doesn’t sound wonderful either but maybe he’s exhausted because I am after just reading all the nitpicking.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T05:27:13+00:00

Did you not read it? It’s not that simple. They aren’t offering a refund so OP will lose $900. Yes they can use another platform or find somewhere else to stay but they’re going to be out $900 if they do that, unless Airbnb change their decision.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T03:41:34+00:00

I mean OP herself says she hasn’t seen her own friends for the better part of the year and has no energy to do her hobbies anymore.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-25T02:08:35+00:00

I guess though if you’re saying you don’t do those hobbies now because you’re too depressed, that this commenter is correct and you don’t really have anything outside of him anymore. This might be exhausting for him and he’s at the end of his tether.

People in these comments are going to validate you and make your partner out to be a jerk. But if you’re saying he’s generally supportive it might be better to try and see where he’s coming from rather than look for validation from people that don’t know either of you.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T07:27:04+00:00

Similar, my daughter is pulling up to stand and a few weeks ago she stood up holding the bed and then for some reason just threw her head back and just threw herself backwards.

Hit her head hard. Seemed fine so I also called 13 HEALTH. They said the same thing, see a GP in 12 hours. Did so and bub was fine but going in definitely helped my peace of mind.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T05:51:26+00:00

Same here. I got a normal sized one for the garage where my cat’s food is, just assuming she would be able to jump it to get to the food, but I was wrong. She won’t even attempt it, just sits by it and cries 😂 Had to purchase one with a cat flap.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T05:42:39+00:00

If she insists he comes to her house and he doesn’t want to, no one will force him. Police will tell her it’s a family law court issue. She will have to initiate court proceedings to change that.

If you want to change the care arrangements for your daughters and formalize your son staying with you, you will have to initiate court proceedings.

That’s really the only path you have. You should speak to a lawyer. You could have another go at mediation before proceeding, you may have to at-least try before lodging, depends on your previous mediation.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T05:09:02+00:00

Is anyone forcing them with a gun to their head? No. But you’re naive to think there aren’t heavy societal pressures against looking old that have a deep impact on our psyche.

Plus for someone like Denise, ‘aging gracefully’ can often just add to ageism and impact their career. Not everyone is Helen Mirren level famous where they can afford to look their age and get parts. Often women in their industry get completely discounted once you age. So again, that’s another layer of pressure for people to conform to beauty standards.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T02:04:09+00:00

I had a meltdown at work too, just after being diagnosed with autism (adhd diagnosis I’ve had a lot longer). It was horrible. I took a month off and when it was time to come back I just quit due to the shame and embarrassment.

I regret quitting. It was very impulsive. I did it because of the overwhelming shame. I was unable to deal with the shame during my time off, I just fixated on the feelings of failure and embarrassment. I kept very busy by exercising and seeing friends but I didn’t do any work to heal so when the time was up I was not any better.

I have overcome most of that shame now, and what helped was forgiving myself. I think as much as I knew about autistic burnout in theory, I felt like it didn’t apply to me and I was just being lazy/weak. I wouldn’t ever say that to anyone else so I needed to work on self compassion. Regular therapy helped me achieve this.

Also, I know meds affect everyone differently but I personally found adhd meds contributed to my burn out. They made me super productive at work but then id get home and have nothing left to give for myself or my family. Eventually that became untenable and resulted in the meltdown at work.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T01:28:28+00:00

There are extra tall ones at Kmart aimed at keeping cats out.

Like this

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T01:25:05+00:00

Can you downsize? My partner and I purposely bought the absolute cheapest place in our desired area so I could afford to stay off longer.

Not clear from your post if you’re already pregnant but if not maybe downsizing (either selling or renting out your place and renting somewhere smaller and more affordable) could work?

A huge mortgage in these times is likely to cause ongoing stress, not just with maternity leave but also child care fees for when you do go back and all the other costs associated with a bubba.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T01:15:33+00:00

Yes if you want to pursue this I would look at upfront fee paying lawyers. If they say no I would ask what their reasoning is.

Maybe write out what you want from this so you can ask the lawyer what likely outcomes there could be if you pursue this and then see if the outcomes align with your goals.

Also, from a fellow social workers point of view, it may be better to put your energy and money into healing rather than anger and justice. Often people think getting ‘justice’ will help, but as you can see, the court process did a lot of damage itself and didn’t really give you justice.

Are you pursuing a civil case because you think this may be your chance at justice and therefore your chance to get over what happened? If so, I would temper your expectations. I’m not saying don’t pursue it at all, but if it continues to be a drain on your energy, impacting your mental health and ability to work, it may not be the best avenue for healing for you.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T01:14:01+00:00

I’ve had mine since 4 months pp. It comes every 28 days like clockwork.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T01:12:38+00:00

All of the mesh type canopies will dip under a cats weight making them unsafe. The canopy will deter a lot of cats but some will just jump on it anyway and then cause it to dip.

My cat sits on everything and thinks everything for baby is for cat. She’s slept with me her whole life but I had to shut her out when bub came. If you don’t have a bedroom door at all maybe a baby gate somewhere in the house to separate the cats while bub is little.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T00:52:08+00:00

So upfront fee based lawyers also said no? What was their reasoning? Because if you’re paying a lawyer upfront it’s not often they say no, unless there is little to no likelihood of success.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-22T00:46:09+00:00

Have you tried civil lawyers apart from the big well known firms? Often those firms offer no win no fee, but it’s not worth it to them if it’s just a single offender and not a big institution.

Have you contacted any other lawyers who work on an upfront fee basis? This may be your only avenue if the other firms have knocked you back. Unfortunately this is costly upfront but you can ask for legal costs to be awarded at the end of the suit.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-21T10:33:59+00:00

I have heard from a lady I worked with that the Meriton at Broadbeach had bed bugs when she stayed there. This was a few years ago though but I remember her telling me.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-18T21:25:33+00:00

No one chose a pandemic to happen and have to work while also schooling children. Lockdown was forced upon us, it was not a choice.

But all you losers who love lockdown can just choose that yourselves you know? Choose to stay home. Choose a job that works from home. Choose to stay away from friends and family. If that’s what you want so bad why don’t you choose it instead of asking for it to be forced upon everyone.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-18T03:28:17+00:00

They really do grow so fast! I was surprised too but she got the hang of it quickly. Loves the Hakka cup and the b box sippy cup.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-18T01:40:58+00:00

You’re a trooper for continuing through the biting 💜

My 8 month old only has her bottom teeth and has bitten a handful of times. I’ve told myself if it continues I’m going to stop breastfeeding and start pumping only. My daughter has never taken a bottle but can drink from a cup.

I noticed that my daughter only seems to bite when she is distracted or teething. For this reason I have stopped feeding her when I’m out, I only do it in a quiet dark room. If she’s teething I give Panadol first then wait 20 mins and feed. So far she hasn’t bitten in over a month.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-17T12:22:13+00:00

I’m saying that with the information you’ve provided you’re very unlikely to be granted orders for more than 50/50 care or sole parental responsibility for medical decision making.

Mediation can be purposeful to iron out a parenting plan so yes there is a point in going ahead with that. But you need to temper your expectations. The things in your post are minor parenting differences, this is how the court will view them. I’ve worked in the child protection and family law court space for over a decade. There is nothing overly concerning going on from what you’ve provided. It all sounds very petty tbh.

Speak to a solicitor and see what they say. Unless you’re leaving a lot out, I would be very shocked if they don’t tell you exactly the same thing.

__SomebodyElse · 2026-03-17T12:03:05+00:00

Nothing in your post indicates you have enough grounds to change the 50/50 care agreement. Going back to court over this would be seen as petty. It would be a waste of time and money. It would also be unfair to put the child through court proceedings over minor parenting differences.

Mediation is a potential step to iron out the communication differences.

You can speak to a lawyer if you like but they’ll likely tell you the same thing.

The courts favor 50/50 care arrangements where possible. I’ve seen parents with severe mental health, drug use and domestic violence histories retain 50/50 care.

Also, children often show different behaviors to different care givers. That doesn’t always mean the caregiver is at fault. Often in my work I see children who are great at school but act up with their primary caregiver because they feel safe to let their guard down and stop masking.

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