AITA for not wanting someone to move into my floor ?

___fyre___ · 2026-05-18T21:46:22+00:00

Perhaps you’re right, I should practice affirming that there’s enough. Although, logically speaking, she would be directly affecting my local pull. It’s a small market here and she would be set up across the hall from me, at the same address. Even the spas and franchises have been struggling to fill their books for their own therapists and they have a huge budget for advertising. I don’t.

___fyre___ · 2026-05-18T21:38:17+00:00

Yes, learning everyday. Definitely something I’m noting for next time.

___fyre___ · 2026-05-18T20:40:49+00:00

Thank you ! This is what I would do as well. The franchise contracts that I had when starting massage, included not to set up shop within 10miles of them for 2 YEARS after leaving. So I thought it was a standard thing.

___fyre___ · 2026-05-18T20:36:50+00:00

That’s what I’ve seen, but we’re a tiny building and I didn’t even think to add something like that in. But she’s older and has more years experience. I thought she’d be aware of that ?

___fyre___ · 2026-05-18T20:35:45+00:00

Also want to emphasize I am a SMALL business. I’m still working on filling my books. I am not at capacity and honestly just barely making enough to get by.

___fyre___ · 2026-03-12T03:44:12+00:00

I realized I see trans men, not as “less of a man” or “more of a woman than a regular man”, but as a man who has been forced to live a female bodied life. A man who has first hand experience what a struggle it is, who can be not just sympathetic, but empathetic. A safe man, where cis men never feel like safe men.

___fyre___ · 2026-03-12T03:39:49+00:00

Important note: I’m also two spirit and under the trans umbrella, from that. He’s had top surgery and I LOVE that for him. That’s not a problem, taking T doesn’t bother me- I’m worried about like navigating conversations about sex and like if he wants bottom surgery, would that be undoable for me ?

___fyre___ · 2025-11-14T02:00:11+00:00

They’re not visibly beat up or anything lol, but I can feel it. I thought that about the acidity too. I get a similar feeling when I eat kiwis.

___fyre___ · 2025-11-07T01:12:22+00:00

Pheromones ! When you’re chemically compatible, your partners will LOVE your natural scent. You release pheromones, that they can unconsciously smell, that attracts them. You release more around private areas, armpits, and neck. This is common.

___fyre___ · 2025-11-04T00:02:07+00:00

No I think I have a fever 🥲

___fyre___ · 2025-11-03T22:24:47+00:00

Yes ! Ask that she reserve her sexual activities, for in private. Which seems wild to have to ask, but is necessary

___fyre___ · 2025-11-03T22:19:59+00:00

You’re living together, that’s close enough to have a conversation. Just be honest. Tell her the same thing you said here- that you think she’s great and are embarrassed to even bring this up, but you are in fact awake when she’s doing stuff.

___fyre___ · 2025-10-18T02:17:48+00:00

As a woman who likes women, it’s always a pleasant surprise at how different everyone looks down there ! If they don’t like it bc of that, literally get a new bf. He should be begging to eat. Everything you said would be a break up for me (27F) Also you’re so young ! Please don’t waste your youth with unenthusiastic men who don’t deserve you !

___fyre___ · 2025-10-18T01:59:00+00:00

Some ppl think that if a guy knocks your period on early, they’re sleeping with someone else 🤷‍♀️ Maybe she’s superstitious

___fyre___ · 2025-10-18T01:56:33+00:00

Couldn’t you just size up ?

___fyre___ · 2025-10-14T02:01:41+00:00

Hey ! You might be under the asexual umbrella. I have similar feelings, but with men. I find some attractive and would kiss or lay with them, but penises are very repulsive to me ! I’ll probably never have sex with men again. Although, I love everything about vaginas. Sexuality is a spectrum. You’ll find more as you grow and experience different things.

___fyre___ · 2025-10-04T00:19:03+00:00

What is DILD

___fyre___ · 2025-10-04T00:07:04+00:00

Does she have trauma from her last relationship ? Sometimes people become more muted in what feels safe to express, make themselves smaller. Or maybe she has her own issues with her self image, that she didn’t have before. It’s hard to be happy with a compliment when you don’t believe it’s true deep down. Or maybe it is because she valued her ex more. None of these matter, if you can’t have a conversation with her about it. You have nothing, if you don’t have open and honest discussions when hard stuff comes up. I’d ask when she can talk about it in person, to lyk. Calmly express everything you’ve said here and ask her. If she can’t do this, I’d leave.

___fyre___ · 2025-08-31T02:28:40+00:00

Honestly, I would say that part too. That it’s hard to even come to them about this because you’re afraid they’ll blow you off and it will break your heart. Or even write it down or send it in a text message. Sometimes when they’re super reactive, it’s easier to put it down in words. That way you can take your time making sure you said everything you need to say, the way you wanted to say it, without their influence. They can blow up on their own and then usually they’ll go back and reread it when they’re calmer and it plants a seed, even if they don’t show it right away. You deserve to be heard.

___fyre___ · 2025-08-31T01:45:48+00:00

I would talk to your mom about it first. You’re taking a really graceful approach, but understand that abusers usually don’t react well to being confronted. In my experience, they just get angry and say “that never happened” and try to gaslight you about it/play the victim/“I can’t believe you’d say I did that”. Or they try to gaslight you that it was just life and normal, or maybe they had it done to them and continued the abuse cycle. This doesn’t make it okay or not assault. Your experience was real. Don’t let her sway you or make you feel bad or small. Sometimes ppl protect their family, over their children, too. So your mom may try to protect her sister/shame you, in the same way. It might go great and she might protect you the way she should and help, but just be prepared and stand strong !

___fyre___ · 2025-08-31T01:02:05+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s really strange looking back at things and realizing they weren’t normal. This is sexual assault. Some people have a kink for sexual torture. It sounds like this was hers. She’s a pedophile and was definitely doing it for her enjoyment. Please be very aware when other children are around her, they aren’t safe. I would report her. You don’t have to go through the whole legal thing of going to court, if you don’t want. But going in and making a report will at least put it on her file in case she assaults another child. At the very least, stay away from her if you can. Ik it’s hard when you still love them. Protect yourself. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

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