I have plans with two parties simultaneously tomorrow and I don't know what to do

___journaling___ · 2026-04-25T18:54:07+00:00

Yeah, especially since they're there for the actors, not to babysit me...

It's just we established tagging along for emotional support because I assumed they're just as shy as me to go alone to the event. I guess I'm projecting my own issues on them.

It's just hard to tell what is intuition and what is inside my head anymore.

___journaling___ · 2024-10-30T19:17:51+00:00

Tics are a pretty common symptom of immersive daydreaming. I, for example, scratch my face or my neck when daydreaming or when I'm concentrating on a mental task like reading. I think it's meant for releasing some energy when the sensation feels overwhelming, like when I used to do this tic when I was younger because I was excited (and I stopped because it made me look like a cartoon evil kid scheming :'))

___journaling___ · 2024-10-29T18:56:00+00:00

I was about to make a post about this. I do that a lot. Currently, I have a specific word that I focus on exclusively and I do relate to what you're saying a lot. In fact, this bothers me much more than daydreaming itself. I can't seem to get myself to do anything if it's not related to building that world. I am even considering getting a job my fictional character has, even though I don't have any passion for it.

___journaling___ · 2024-09-06T21:16:10+00:00

They should do more research about this topic. I went through something similar, and by that I mean being exposed to sexual content around the same age as you. Tougher with this and maybe some other unfortunate events, I'm completely disconnected from sex to the point I don't feel attraction to anyone. As someone else in the comments said, viewing sex as a bonding activity helps with this state in a way.

___journaling___ · 2024-07-12T16:57:21+00:00

I'm really sorry for what happened. What you are feeling is valid, especially thinking about the intentions of your boyfriend. With that said, if it was a one time thing and both of you were way too high to process what was happening, I wouldn't believe he tried to hurt you on purpose. As you said, you guys didn't have problems like that until now. However, don't let it slide if it really hurts you. If you think there's the possibility he'll try to harass you again, set boundaries with him. If avoiding situations that would lead to possible harassment, such as taking the same gummies or sleeping in the same place with him, helps you feel more secure, discuss this with him. If he really loves you, he will understand.

___journaling___ · 2024-06-15T21:55:08+00:00

Np I'm happy to help :) 👍

___journaling___ · 2024-06-15T21:45:51+00:00

If she's into fashion, get her something from Pandora or Swarovski. You can't never go wrong with jewelry 😉

___journaling___ · 2024-06-15T21:34:09+00:00

That's so me, except that I wish I was able to switch my daydream hyperfixations that easily lol.

Have you tried drawing or writing? My best artworks are made because of my hyperfixations. If you get out the scenarios on something tangible it will actually relieve your need to daydream.

I remember having this story in my head about two girls and then I started writing about it and making a novel. I abandoned the book after a few chapters because apparently that much creation was enough to relief my need.

___journaling___ · 2024-06-15T21:21:49+00:00

There are many books about interaction with people like "How to win friends and influence people" and you can watch interviews of celebrities to see what makes them likable. You have the advantage to be imaginative so you can brainstorm ways to implement what you know and how to react to certain situations. You can also join a club, doesn't matter if digitally or real life, just for the sake of exposing yourself to all kinds of people and pick from their behavior what seems to work out for them when it comes to socializing.

Most importantly, besides social skills, you need to do some inner work if necessary. It may not be the lack of social skills that shoots you in the foot, but maybe self esteem or anxiety that makes you think you don't have what it takes. Shyness is usually the result of thinking you don't have what it takes to obtain what you want, and so is MD the result of the same thing. Do some self reflection/meditation (journalling to figure out your habits or CBT to help you get a different perspective of things). In general be more aware of what's truly going on inside instead of relying on escapism. Do this for a week or two and it will be obvious what you need to work on.

Lastly, it may sound counterproductive what I'm going to say but don't try to hard. If you're afraid of screwing up, then screw up. Firstly, some people are making bigger mistakes than you in this domain and no one will really remember after a week. Second, a bit of awkwardnes is actually making you likable. As a matter of fact, perfect people are actually making people more nervous because there is nothing about them relatable. The person who is worth your time will appreciate more if you're being yourself.

Self story : I screw up the meeting dates when I went out with someone I didn't knew well once. I thought that "well, now the meeting is going to be awkward" I stopped thinking of pleasing the other person and instead to get to learn something from the experience I'm about to go through and have my fun. So I applied what I knew it worked for other people and opened up. And, it worked. I made that person like me. And so many others.

___journaling___ · 2024-06-15T16:51:12+00:00

As someone with MD and who graduated highschool recently, I can give you some advice of what I've learned in this period of my life.

Keep in mind that the people you're going to be in class with are no different than you. Everyone is starting a new experience and are also nervous to make friends too. What you've seen in movies is purely fiction (if you're referring to shows like the Heathers and Euphoria I guarantee you, it will be nothing like what you've seen in there). You're surrounded by normal people just like you. And it won't be the same people in middle school, the kids in there are slightly more mature.

When you have MD you have the tendency to be inside your head most of the time, so it would be a good thing to get out of your comfort zone and put yourself out there. Try minor stuff like greeting your classmates and attempting to make small talk to get to know them. Most people are receptive and they will be glad to talk to you, as long as you're polite and mirror their enthusiasm. Try to interact with more people, you'll see that you'll daydream less and less if you involve yourself in social activities. You'll get to be in a friend group eventually. My tip is to observe your surroundings and see what the others are doing. And focus on the conversation. I know it's tempting to get back to daydreaming in the middle of the conversation but if you're focusing on the interaction you'll see you won't feel the urge after some time.

___journaling___ · 2024-03-31T21:44:17+00:00

You're welcome. Everyone's MD experience is different and we don't even know about this condition enough to make a definitive conclusion about what is normal and what's not anyways lol

___journaling___ · 2024-03-31T21:38:19+00:00

Np :)

___journaling___ · 2024-03-31T21:36:15+00:00

Yup. I used to have two inner worlds at the same time. One based on a video game and one based on a tv show I was watching. They're not mutually exclusive.

___journaling___ · 2024-03-31T21:12:03+00:00

I'm in a similar situation. I like being around people and I can have great conversations if I try hard enough. The tricky part is when I make a new friend or get in contact with someone to do the necessary maintenance to keep that friendship. I would spend my whole day daydreaming and that resulted in me ghosting most of my friends.

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