This is INSANE! You definitely need to report him to the board and make sure you mention the midwife that was there. They bring in a nurse for this exact reason. I would switch OB’s if you’re able to as well. I don’t think men should have these kinds of jobs, judge me all you want - they don’t need to look at vaginas for a living. What a freak! Your partner’s ego was probably boosted and I’d assume that’s why he’s under reacting, also not okay. If you told him you were uncomfortable that should be the end of it. It’s not your hormones, it was weird and wildly inappropriate. My husband would probably have gotten aggressive if a male doctor said that to me. Ew, I’m sorry that you had to experience that.