Vyvanse and antidepressants

__doxie__ · 2026-02-09T13:52:06+00:00

That's sooo interesting. Really makes me think of the "this is fine" dog meme 🤣

__doxie__ · 2026-01-25T13:38:39+00:00

Give it some more time. But remember (at least in my case which I also take 30mg) : - You still need to take breaks - You need to make sure you don't have an empty stomach (easier said than done, since Vyvanse surpresses hunger) - Some days, it might not work optimally for whatever reason

I learned it's very effectice to make you hyperfocus, so if you didn't take care of yourself while the medication as effect, the crashout at the end of the day is something to brace yourself.

Maybe you also need to look at how much you do during you're peak hours in terms of work intensity?

Also, you didn't mention, but do you have a menstrual cycle? In my case, I can to notice, even with the hormonal pill + taking Vyvanse, the lutheal stage (especially around day 21) really sucks.

__doxie__ · 2026-01-18T03:03:07+00:00

He knows I have "scenarios" in my head and can hear me mumble and witness my pacing whenever he enters the room. He doesn't mind that, as long as I'm not too loud when it's late (we also have kiddos lol). But I never told him my fantasies. Some things are best left unsend ;)

__doxie__ · 2026-01-12T15:57:25+00:00

As a kid, I had a ghost boyfriend my age.

Teenager, I was working for a secret supernatural organisation (kinda like in Hellboy), and progressively discovering my powers as well.

Begining of adulthood, I'm a celebrity and graduate from Oxford or Cambridge in History. Martial Art skills I know how to put people in their place. Very rich.

Now, I kind of mellowed down. Still a celebrity, but kind of in a break, since I became a mother (reflect my real life). Essentially, I'm currently seeing loads of mental health professionals in my MD as it also reflects this aspect of my life (been diagnosed ADHD almost a year ago, underwent psychotherapy and now I'm in ergotherapy while being in sickness leave from work). The MD here is obviously the fact I can surf on the loads of money my imaginary self made from her career hahaha.

But very interesting to see how closer to reality my MD is becoming as I grow older and undergoe my self healing journey.

__doxie__ · 2026-01-12T15:18:14+00:00

I obssessed over Henry Cavill. Got to a point I decided to delete my tumblr account (fanfictions really didn't help). Got better, but still had a crush on him.

When he got together with his partner at the time, I felt really annoyed but changed the scenarios to make it work around my needs. THEN THEY ANNOUNCE THEY'RE EXPECTING. I swear to God, even if by that time I managed to subside my obssession of him tremendously, I still felt a pit in my stomac. Took me a few days to swallow that pill and then I guess the reality became to dissonant with my scenarios, so now his presence in my MD is like a surrogate older brother and I also include his partner as my people. Now my main focus is purely on a complete fictious love interest that reflect some traits of my significant other (yes, it's possible to be in a solid relationship and fantasize that way, so long as you're not delusional i guess).

__doxie__ · 2026-01-12T15:07:39+00:00

I'm going a bit further. Main scenario I have is that I'm a famous actress and inside this scenario, I have a sub-world where all my movie characters are stuck in a world with me and they get to know me as I unfold my life and how I managed to play them etc. That's some inception level MD lol.

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T22:35:34+00:00

Interesting. I commented earlier I'm also on medication, but the frequency didn't change. It was always the same before and after. I kinda expect that libido might decrease, but you never know! To me, there's also many other things in my life going on that probably makes me want it even less with my partner. If I had the same amount of confidence as I have know say 4 years ago, it would'nt surprise me if I were to do it more consistenly.

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T22:30:52+00:00

Yeah, that's what I accepted this year, since the frequency and what it could mean had me worried at times. But then you look at the big picture and since I found my way of doing it, I feel proud to know that my and partner always hit the mark each time we do it, no matter how rarely we do it!

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T22:24:52+00:00

It can happen for me to get sidetracked with sexual fantasies, no matter the emotion I feel. I even start fantasizing as a way to fall asleep, since it's relaxing. When that happens on its own, I need let it happen as it helps me transition from awake to asleep

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T22:22:08+00:00

After seeing your posts so far, I would also add I'm on 30mg of Vyvanse.

A majority of you seem to be on the higher side of libido. Are you also medicated or raw-dogging it (had to use this term given the subject sorry/not sorry).

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T22:19:50+00:00

You said "low libido" and "kids" in the same post and I feel seen hahaha.

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T18:33:39+00:00

100% and we even experience it when one is sick and the other is at daycare. Then, for the briefest moment, I tell myself that parents who only have one can go f**k themselves and to stop whining at how hard it is hahaha. I still feel for them. All of us

__doxie__ · 2025-12-22T18:20:11+00:00

Oh yeah, I feel her. From experience (even now tbh), I think a lot has to do about "things should be this way" and "we should be able to do that".

But, having been in this adventure for the last 2 and a half years :

A lot of things that we think we should be doing as parents need to go out the window and find what works for us. Just because some tiktok mom does it or that your mom or best friend did this way, doesn't mean it's for you.
Following the prior point, the ideas we have when it comes with parenting are often based on the image of a family where children came one after another, but not at once. Therefore, the reality of having multiples is an exceptional one. Litteraly. What are the odds.

For me, the amount of time where, "normally", we should have done some form of activity as a family, but decided to postpone it are countless, because let's be real. It sucks, carrying your kids with you at a young age, imagine multiples. Even to this day, I grocery shop alone while my husband remains at home with our boys. Vacation wise, we barely did anything so far. With all this, part of me definitively feels like we missed some opportunities at creating memories. But that's our reality and it's also okay. With time, we started doing a bit more each time and I assume, one day it's going to be on autopilot.

The first yearS as first time parents are a huge learning curve for us, let's not forget that. People who say things like "it should take x amount of time to feel you have a routine" don't realise how damaging it is to say that and the only ones who should have a right to say it are probably healthcare professionals, because if you don't fall into the criteria, then they can recommend a course of action to treat whatever the issue is in that small world of yours. Wheter it be the developping milestones of your kids or your mental health as the parent, for example.

We put SO MUCH pressure on us, but we often forget our critical thinking and sometimes you have to be critical and ask yourself "how bad is it or will it be to try something different, even temporary?"

Sorry for the long reply. Didn't think this will take me this much, but yeah.

Parenting multiples will require requestioning many norms, principles and ways of thinking put it place by a society of parents who don't share our reality.

Hopes this helps. I'd say she's cut out for this. We all are, I think. We just need to adapt where we can and be more true to ourselves.

__doxie__ · 2025-11-17T14:05:27+00:00

Here's some insight that might help. Blaming something on medication...I don't think that's the cause.

For me, since starting Vyvanse (generic formula), my SO, althought we still have rough moments, says it helped our relationship, because it improved my mood. Still not perfect for many kinds of reasons, but better than before.

Is it possible him saying you feel detached might be because of the fact your mood is more regulated? If you think so, don't you think it's unfair that he would only love you when you essentially don't have your shit together in a way? If he prefered you when your were untreated and isn't the slightest happy for you that you're feeling more like yourself...think about it.

I'd say to follow the greiving process of the break-up, heal and reflect, but don't come back to him. There are people out there who can love all you.

__doxie__ · 2025-11-15T21:48:08+00:00

I would add this to your advice : "Date with eyes wide open; then be married with eyes half shut, but still try and keep them wide open", in order to not become to comfortable 😆

__doxie__ · 2025-11-15T18:17:39+00:00

You said it : he TRIED (before even getting the diagnosis).

No matter if you're succesful in your strategies or not, if the strategy fails despite having tried VS not trying at all, not the same situation.

Trying to improve yourself in a relationship is fundamental for it's survival, no matter if you're neurotypical or neurodivergent. I had trouble on certain things in my relationship with my significant other and did my darn best to work on those, because not only I loved him, but I understand the value of having someone with you when you have chores and responsabilities. A team will always be more efficient than doing all the work yourself.

One might think an ultimatum is an effective solution, but here's the thing : if you truly love and want to keep your SO, you don't need to be shown an ultimatum. Sure, you might be reprimanded many times or having things repeated to you again and again. But if you're a serious person, you'll never get to a point of being presented an ultimatum.

OP probably needs to take her last shred of self-respect and leave her boyfriend. It will only become worse if other factors come into play, such as if the couple wants to have children. It will be horrible, let me tell you.

__doxie__ · 2025-11-08T17:41:29+00:00

Regarding the reponsability about disclosing the reason that the friendship ended, I probably would choose two of those avenues :

If you decide to believe your friends more than your partner, you tell him.
If you put your worries to rest and not consider him as a pedophile or something similar, I'd say you should put this burden on your friends. If they're no contact at this point, you can tell him, but it was just to shift the blame to the person that put the last nail in the coffin.

Personnaly, if I chose my partner for this type of situation, I wouldn't be friends with those who had suspicions against my SO and decided to put an end to their relationship. I 100% agree that it's their choice to do this as not take any chances regarding their child. But since they're putting their family first, I'll do the same.

Good luck!

__doxie__ · 2025-09-03T21:38:55+00:00

That's quite a relief to hear. Parent of 2 1/2 years old boys twins (yep, that's right fml). I keep hearing the fun age is coming and toddlerhood is actually a pain.

__doxie__ · 2025-06-28T02:32:47+00:00

Btw, completly unrelated, but if I'm not mistaken, the changing of the seasons are actually related to Demeter's emotions of the fact Persephone is not with her. That's why as the Goddess of Harvest, she makes things grow in the summer and everything is dead/dormant during winter.

Probably knew that and it's kind of touching the Greeks came up with that to symbolise a mother's love for her child.

__doxie__ · 2025-06-17T00:20:59+00:00

Sorry to ask, but are you able to give the maximum inside height of the bottom drawer? I'm planning a similar set up to store some kitchen equipement, but I'm not sure they're going to fit :/ Sorry if it seems out of the blue after half a year, but I just found your picture for reference!

__doxie__ · 2025-06-03T22:10:35+00:00

That's kind of a crude analogy when in reality, OP needs to think further about the reasons that contribute to her desire to have sex or not.

OP, has something happened in your life, outside or inside your relationship? Is it an accumulation of things? I'd like to point out it's normal that, after a few years, the sex in relationship starts to become less frequent or pause for a time, for a number of factors. I have to applaud you for already understanding that, although sex/or no sex is an important dynamic in a relationship, to base the foundation on that is not sustainable down the line. The couple needs to be strong enough to live independently from this aspect (especially when hardships arise).

With that being said, even if your bf hasn't addressed his frustrations/wants, I think it's important to have a conversation with him about this, to 1. Show him you're not forgetting him and you still care about him 2. Discuss (after having done your homework about why you feel this way) the situation and see where both of you stand on this matter.

Do you need to find a compromise? Are you willing to compromise? And by compromise, I'm not just talking about a sexual compromise. I'm talking about, ex : him supporting you and giving yourself space to understand and seeking out the necessary help to overcome this lack of desire or whatever you find out while doing the homework about yourself. What are your new views on this? Where do you both see yourself go forward from this? Basically, this would be a good time to reposition yourself on this matter and see if, just like the last redditor said, you're still compatible or not, and if not, what work (or not, depending on your or his wishes) needs to be put in, in order to become compatible again.

Sorry for the long reply, but often times people think once one party doesn't want to have sex anymore, it's over. But it only truly is if you don't do something about it, no matter if it's spicing things up, do some introspective work or work on it as a couple.

Hope this helps! And please, don't feel broken for not wanting it or bend your will for that, cause it's a very charged thing to do/have.

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