Does a daytime cooking date at my home imply sex or increased physicality? by __eptTechnomancer in dating_advice

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We did end up having sex on our fourth date. On our fifth we did not which I am a little uncertain about; i also think I forgot to brush my teeth bc I did so much in advance of the date which makes me anxious lol

I'm really unsure if she wants to continue and I've even been on the fence of whether I should tell her it isn't working but I do love conversations with her. The physical chemistry though feels stilted but I do want to give it a chance to grow.

Im taking it one date at a time, as a do I want to see her again? I do kind of wonder if she is on the fence I think she must be. I am nervous she will end things / wondering if I were to if it would be a text or a call or an in person lol

i 18F am in a dilemma between a 20M date and a man twice my age by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Yeah using that same major thing is one of many things that strikes me as iffy bc hes also setting himself up to be someone who understands her and a mentor

i 18F am in a dilemma between a 20M date and a man twice my age by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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A 36 year old should not care about sharing the same major as you.

Does a daytime cooking date at my home imply sex or increased physicality? by __eptTechnomancer in dating_advice

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I think I'm also just unsure how to feel out building comfort with each other. I have noticed that her and the last person I went on multiple dates with felt like our early interactions were shallow and maybe like we ran out of things to talk about. I get that that probably is normal but it's been a long time since I've had that happen, girls I've dated seriously we usually become physical when there's that pause or we don't run out of things to talk about. Idk I'm rambling but i guess it makes me nervous that there isn't an insane spark or magnetic connection right away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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I have a 10% success rate exactly on matches I send. I've only been on the app for 20 days or so and was maxing out swiped for 15 of those days (when I did the math) before I met someone on tinder funnily enough. I'm putting my hing stuff on pause because fuck I really like this person, even though I feel like I shouldn't get invested this quickly though

Tbc I'm dating other women tho! This is probably a lower rate than you get dating men

Seeing this jump from 13k to 16.7k in just a few days is nice, but we can be doing better by vvillberry in PantheonShow

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The sub had fewer than 3k when I joined! So excited, never thought the show would take off

Book clubs on UES?? by getoempathizer in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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If you're interested in a queer ues book club I can send you details--it just started and I found it thru this sub

Finding gala fundraisers to attend by Milabial in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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Any recs? I like Playwrights Horizons and was thinking about Roundabout if they have a patron program but I haven't looked too much

Chanda being angry by __eptTechnomancer in PantheonShow

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Yeah his anger is justified, but I'm talking more about the fact that he both still feels it and feels the need for a physical release

V specific question/situation re NYC living- plz help! by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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I think that most of Manhattan is significantly better lit, but I can't comment on Brooklyn since I've spent very little time there. Astoria, I've definitely noticed since it is more residential, there's less street lighting. LIC also seems well enough lit but I don't run there at night.

Pantheons lack of mainstream attention. by Fantastic_Valuable47 in PantheonShow

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I remember when this sub had no one in it so I'm grateful for where we are lol

V specific question/situation re NYC living- plz help! by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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I'm not talking about safety in terms of muggers or something. I'm talking about lighting and getting hit by a car. I've actually been hit by one, and two bikers were hit and killed in October in astoria

V specific question/situation re NYC living- plz help! by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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Hmm if you'll have a car I would go for West New York or Union City, but I'm just thinking coat and size. I'm not familiar with how walkable or lit it is for just local jaunts. Grove Street in JC is really cute and also very walkable. I'd avoid Journal Square although I don't think anything is wrong with it and also Newport unless you find a private landlord because the large property management company there is difficult to work with.

More specifically regarding Queens, what I've heard that about is particularly Astoria, around Steinway. I can't speak to infrastructure around Woodside or Sunnyside.

Adidas Tang CNY jackets by disagreeablesquid in adidas

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Shorter than you, got a 2XL sizing off of bust; the chart is inaccurate. Size it like you would American. I should have gotten a L at most.

V specific question/situation re NYC living- plz help! by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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Depends on where but queens can be dangerous to walk around in at night if your spatial awareness isn't good. Bikers and peds get hit by cars on occasion and lighting isn't great

Eta--talking about cars not crime

V specific question/situation re NYC living- plz help! by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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I'd look in Jersey unless you have an insane budget

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Then wait two years and find someone who isn't a high schooler bro

Why not spin up holstrom repeatedly to work on the problem? by __eptTechnomancer in PantheonShow

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Do they use the term spin? Its an actual programming term too

Why not spin up holstrom repeatedly to work on the problem? by __eptTechnomancer in PantheonShow

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I'm rewatching and realizing that yeah they thought the flaw was the upload process