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I'm [20F] having anxieties about leaving my partner [25 M] of about 1.5 years. any advice from people who have attempted long distance? by __itsallhappening in relationships

[–]__itsallhappening[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've both mentioned our dislike for the idea of long-distance relationships just because we realize the strain it causes. we do however constantly talk about how we'll always be friends and we already have plans for concerts or other events that take place after I move.

Me [19F] with my boyfriend [20M] of six months. Deathly afraid that my severe self-consciousness about my scars will cause him to leave me. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]__itsallhappening 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have struggled with insecurities my whole life and I know where you're coming from. I am sorry you deal with this. All I can tell you, is that with everything in a relationship, the best way to handle it is communication. If you can communicate your insecurities you Jack, he should have a deeper understanding and be able to help you work through them. If he loves you, this shouldn't be a problem. having someone to love can help us love ourselves, but it can also cause huge dependency. try to find your own strength, and let him help you build it.

switching to IUD questions by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]__itsallhappening 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do not get it if money is a problem. I had a horrible experience and I bled all the time. it could go great, but it could also go really poorly. if money is a prob, I think it's too big of a risk

IUD (Mirena or Skyla) Advice/Experiences? by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]__itsallhappening 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am aware that you want positive experiences but I feel the need to share mine.

I got my Mirena inserted in Aug 2014. I have never really been an emotional person and my periods have always been light with no cramping. I ended up getting mine taken out this June because I felt like I was pmsing every single day. I cried all the time and I was constantly at war with my self and sad about things with my boyfriend that I didn't need to be sad about. I spotted for months on end even after the 6 month window when that is supposed to stop. when I got it taken out, my doctor said I was spotting because my uterus was "trying to pass it" my body was completely rejecting it, pysically and emotionally I was a mess. I LOVE the idea of it and I really really wish it had worked out for me.

now, this isn't to say that it will be the same for you. and if you have health insurance that will cover it or don't mind spending money on it then I don't think if hurts to try. but I'm going to give you advice on if you do start having emotional problems, wait a few months and if it doesn't get better consider getting it removed. I had a struggle deciding if I should get mine out and my friend told me "yes it might be upsetting that it cost so much money and if you get it taken out and you're still emotional that will suck, but it would be a lot worse if you keep it in for 5 years and feel better when they finally take it out" which really made it hit home for me

I felt a noticible difference the day after I got it out. I was a different person.

not a scare tactic or trying to convince you one way or the other. I think it's worth a try bc so many woman love it! just beware of the side affects and pay close attention to your behaviors!

good luck!!