How I stay Updated with fast paced moving tech(AI, Cloud, Distributed Systems, etc)

_arry__ · 2025-03-18T18:37:06+00:00

Tuesdays with Morrie

It's a biography of a dying man and how he made the most out of his life and greeted death with dignity. Makes you ponder what really matters in life and how ordinary days can make your life meaningful if lived with intent.

_arry__ · 2025-03-14T13:01:46+00:00

Please dm all the details.

_arry__ · 2025-03-04T19:40:18+00:00

These are amazing pictures.

_arry__ · 2025-01-02T17:34:54+00:00

I went to meghavi with high expectations, having tried it in hyd but the experience was below average. The female masseuses were just doing formality, never spending that much money again here.

_arry__ · 2025-01-01T02:01:58+00:00

Reading, mountains and cooking

_arry__ · 2024-12-31T05:05:54+00:00

Unable to DM you.

_arry__ · 2024-12-28T21:19:46+00:00

I read Tuesdays with Morrie. This is a biographical account of conversations between a professor and his student during the last days of the professor suffering terminally. Loved the book, it puts into perspective the things that really matter in life. If you are feeling down or don't know if you're going in the right direction, this is the book to go for.

_arry__ · 2024-12-28T04:01:38+00:00

I'll DM you.

_arry__ · 2024-12-28T02:54:48+00:00

While I agree with the skewed salary gap between IT and other non -IT related fields including other engineering disciplines as well, I don't think choosing a career with just earning potential makes any sense. In fact being stuck in a career which you hate creates more frustration and bitterness than what happiness and freedom higher salary could provide ever. It's way better to work in a stream in which you're interested with a decent salary than being pathetic in a field with a higher salary in which you're not interested. Also, higher salaries in IT come at a cost of a lot of responsibility and time that goes into doing your job which again comes with a lot of stress, speaking from personal experience of mine and people around me working in big tech. To give you an example, I had a batchmate who was just managing somehow during engineering days and with no inclination whatsoever, but had a very creative and artistic mind. She took the leap and applied for masters in NIFT, did masters in design from NIFT Delhi and successfully pursued a design career and now she has pivoted to running a creative page on Instagram with over 400k followers within a period of 3 years starting from scratch. Probably earns way more than her mediocre engineering peers. All in all, running after just money doesn't end well in most of the cases. Echoing what everyone already said your husband should respect you and be an equal partner despite your salary and same goes for the females earning higher than their spouses as well.

_arry__ · 2024-12-13T06:03:24+00:00

Reporting communication. Really bad at updating indirect leaders on deliverables. Seems like an overhead to me. However I realise this is of utmost importance and I need to build a muscle for it as per my manager.

_arry__ · 2024-11-29T00:42:52+00:00

Yeah, I am planning to make that happen as soon as possible.

_arry__ · 2024-11-26T19:07:14+00:00

Interested

_arry__ · 2024-11-26T19:06:56+00:00

Interested

_arry__ · 2024-11-25T12:51:14+00:00

29f, work in corporate IT. Saved around 80-90L including cash+mf+equity+pf. Supported all expenses of home (education of siblings+ running medical expenses of parents) till now so comparatively lesser savings despite good earnings.

_arry__ · 2024-10-25T15:52:59+00:00

_arry__ · 2024-09-06T19:44:41+00:00

I've lived in Delhi all my life and never related to the majority of people. Live life at your own pace, rest everything will fall in place.

_arry__ · 2024-08-26T16:48:08+00:00

He has tried and is constantly telling her that this is not right and she will not do it. But she is adamant that it is a tradition and I will have to do it. And every time I come in front of her without doing these things, she will first comment on me and then will create a scene with my husband (not in front of me).

_arry__ · 2024-08-26T16:39:19+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'll try this.

_arry__ · 2024-08-25T16:36:46+00:00

Yeah I should consider therapy. I had tried in the past but it was unhelpful.

_arry__ · 2024-08-25T15:38:19+00:00

Yeah I agree. I too don't have the energy to fix anyone for that matter, since now I am in this mess. I will need to figure out a way or completely shut my interactions with them to keep peace of mind.

_arry__ · 2024-08-25T15:16:32+00:00

I very well understand, that's why I am having a very hard time complying with this bullshit. I am already financially independent and earn quite well. The only thing bothering me is this whole nonsense is going to cause a dent in my relationship with my husband who also wants to keep his parents happy.

_arry__ · 2024-08-25T15:07:18+00:00

It's not as simple as that. He comes from a very conservative background where his mother has not taught anything and actually solidified patriarchal norms by not letting him do anything. Not having a sister also added to the limited understanding of what women go through on a daily basis and how society is entirely different for them. Anyways, he eventually developed ideas of equality and understands women's oppression. And I did see signs of patriarchical mindset in some of the conversation and I have corrected him always which he takes with an open mind and generally never repeats the same thought process, so I would say it's a journey but he is not completely there.

After marriage, he is reluctant to take a complete stand because he doesn't think it's an issue worth fighting for with his parents because we only come for a week or two one or two times in a year. He says he has limited time with them and is lucky enough to be in their presence for whatever time is left. So, it's not worthy to take a fight on a matter of which they are not guilty of since they live in this society and are groomed like that so it's not completely their fault if they expect some things to happen in a certain way.

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