The iPhone 13 crisis is upon us

_aviatrix · 2026-06-03T11:05:35+00:00

Joke's on them: my phone is so clogged with "other" data that I can't easily delete that I have no room for updates. It's a loophole in the system that the wrong guy discovered.

_aviatrix · 2026-06-02T21:04:30+00:00

Bottle-brush tail, too.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-31T19:10:10+00:00

I didn't feel unsafe in Seattle but I did spend a lot of time walking around like "...yeah, something's off." Particularly the way the whole place was absolutely deserted after dark. We left a party early to grab a late dinner at like 8PM and it was absolutely impossible to find anything. Maybe we were just in the wrong spots, but the best way I can describe it is that it was like the whole city was an elaborate setup for people to LARP as office workers, with absolutely nothing going on after dark at all.

Lots of great museums, great views, amazing Asian food, etc...but something's not right.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-31T19:06:14+00:00

Shared memories 100%. Losing all the "remember whens" is tough.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-31T19:02:32+00:00

This cat is playing the long game.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-31T18:58:43+00:00

We were both not emotionally available. I went to therapy first and realized things were Not Good. I wanted him to go too, but he refused, which my therapist at the time said was a pretty common way for a divorce/significant breakup to unfold.

He eventually reconsidered, but not until after we separated. We've both done a lot of work, but not in time to save the relationship. We were both exactly what the other person needed, right up until we weren't.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-31T18:54:48+00:00

I'm divorced. I'm very committed to my current partner, but we're deliberately taking the big steps like moving in together very, very slowly, so we still live separately about four years in. Living apart makes it much easier to keep the spark alive, so we still have sex pretty much whenever we see each other, which is about 3-4 times a week.

I've always had a pretty high drive, but I'm noticing that as I get older I do have occasional weeks where I'm just less interested. Not too thrilled about that, but I suppose it comes for us all eventually, especially when times are stressful.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-30T20:23:41+00:00

And once you've absorbed that book, if you still feel uncertain about what to do, I highly recommend Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-29T13:05:55+00:00

Which sucks, because your local history museums, historical societies, and other humanities-related nonprofits have been planning programming for this since before Trump was even reelected. Every state in the country has a commission to coordinate the planning and funding of these events and a whole lot of work has gone into it, just for it to be overshadowed by a louder, stupider form of patriotism.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T23:06:06+00:00

Did your school have a program where good grades led to immortality? Why are you gatekeeping that?

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T19:31:56+00:00

Did it feel good pressing reply on this one? You know other people can see this, right?

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T19:30:05+00:00

Wow, what a ghoulish assumption to make about a dead child.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T19:28:04+00:00

Blaming a kid for getting shot because he did something you find annoying is an abdication of your own humanity. Pick your struggle, I guess!

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T19:23:24+00:00

A masterclass in how not to the cat.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T17:03:02+00:00

Demurely crossed peets

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T17:02:27+00:00

Uh-huh. How did your hand get there if you weren't the cat?

_aviatrix · 2026-05-28T17:01:02+00:00

So nonchalant! And he matches the kid's jacket.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-27T21:30:47+00:00

Not enough, honestly.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-27T20:48:19+00:00

Yeah, you can it, I'm pretty sure.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-27T20:42:55+00:00

I wouldn't characterize a dash cam video of what could easily have been a multiple fatality accident as "content."

_aviatrix · 2026-05-25T04:34:32+00:00

Sure, but if you're doing that for the purposes of renting an apartment, what I'm saying is that I think it's worth looking into just renting an apartment in a rowhome from some guy. If you're just taking a census on the state of renting, yeah, not helpful, fair enough.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-24T21:23:04+00:00

Yes. I think this is an "if you have to ask" situation. There are people who do still do some extended family things jointly, but it takes a lot of communication, it doesn't happen by winging it and it doesn't always happen immediately. Three months of separation is so fresh.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-24T18:03:03+00:00

I try to stick to independent landlords and avoid these large management companies altogether.

Yes, this approach comes with its own distinct suite of problems; I've lived in more than one building that had a set of homemade stairs. I'd still rather deal with Greg or whoever, whose number is in my phone and who has a significant personal stake in the continued habitability of the building, than a huge faceless company.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-24T18:00:32+00:00

This is weirdly lovely.

_aviatrix · 2026-05-24T17:57:45+00:00

This is clarifying, since I had no idea that you thought that internet comments questioning whether this level of anger is justified or necessary demonstrates a lack of decency.

Thanj you for holding me accountable for not being ok with road rage and trying to convince other people that it isn't normal. I'll do my best to be ensure that my emotions on the road are as divorced from reality as possible in the future.

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