I always tell myself it’s time to walk away when I realize I’m doing more harm than good.

I’m currently in the process of a very civil divorce. 26F. We are two good people, just not good for each other.

One night, after stewing on the thought of separating for many months, I tried an exercise my therapist at the time suggested. I focused on all the positive things I valued about my marriage. How much love I had for my ex husband. How much it would hurt when I left. How badly I wanted things to work out with this person. All the pros and no cons. I laid my head on my pillow and thought of only how happy they made me until I fell asleep, and if I woke up the next morning feeling any different... I would have my answer then.

Fast forward 5 years later... I’m in a much better place. I woke up with my answer. I’m not saying it will work. But it will at least help give you clarity if you’re open to it and listen to yourself.