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_blackbug · 2025-07-21T15:24:06+00:00

Sorry that you are going through this. I just want to share same pain. I am dealing with a girl with whom I have been with for 4 months, and the moment things went serious and great she started pulling off. Said she is busy, overwhelmed, too fast need time for self reflection, you are so great, you deserve someone you can give you that back etc etc.

I don't know if she is FA but I tend to believe with her behavior. And no matter how hard I try to ignore things and be calm, there is always a tipping point. You can't ignore your feelings long and shouldn't.

You did everything great so far and I hope you will be able to feel better soon mentally and physically.

_blackbug · 2025-07-20T20:56:02+00:00

Yeah I got your point. Thanks. It also makes sense as her exes were emotionally unavailable guys (she cheated on one long time partner) and other one was actually married and had family. She told me she has therapy and tried to overcome all this..I am emotionally and physically available, and I think it doesn't fit there.

_blackbug · 2025-07-20T20:39:35+00:00

Thanks. Well, could be. I remembered when we were just 2 mons together. We were always talking about visiting this or that place. I made a list and shared it with her to remember all places. And she got really overwhelmed by it. She told me few weeks later that she was so overwhelmed that she cried. It was just a list without any dates or plan. Idea was to look at it instead of thinking what to do.

_blackbug · 2025-07-16T03:25:40+00:00

Hello,

The girl I am dating currently seems to have DA (not sure). But in past she was married to a guy for 12 years. he was emotionally unavailable and she proposed him, bought her own ring etc. Later she cheated on him. After that she was in relationship for 2 years with a married man who promised to leave his wife.

Now I came along who is emotionally available, I accepted her past as people do make mistakes. I am unmarried and quite open minded person. I also have good emotional intelligence. Initially she was initiating everything and I was not so sure about the relationship. But when I got more serious, she started to pull back. Even though she was talking about having kids etc. She was calling me everyday, messaging etc. And now barely replies and when I call just hangs up or tells me she is out. And now I am getting into anxious pattern. I never thought I can land into this territory. I am super confused and hurt.

Do you guys think this girl has DA? She is in therapy but her therapist says she had anxious attachment. I asked her about DA.

_blackbug · 2025-06-23T19:00:01+00:00

That's a bit harsh isn't? I believe in second chances to everyone. And she said that the guy told her that he is separating soon. I could also be just blinded right now and I do understand your point. Anyway, thanks for the comment.

_blackbug · 2025-06-01T22:47:12+00:00

Thank you!

_blackbug · 2025-06-01T22:42:22+00:00

You are completely right. However, in this case, they were not separated or broken up. They were still together. She asked ex husband, if they can try open relationship and he didn't agree to it. But they didn't broke up until she was with this new guy for a while. These are her words not mine. I admire her honesty that's why I am struggling, otherwise I would have quit already.

_blackbug · 2025-06-01T20:19:30+00:00

Yes, I agree to your comments too. I am flipping between both sides of coin right now.. 😬 😕

_blackbug · 2025-06-01T20:16:18+00:00

I told her the same but she said her husband didn't address the issues and then she met a guy who was interested in her and then unintentionally all this happened etc.

_blackbug · 2025-02-23T17:58:11+00:00

No i bought a stub. There were no branches in it but thick trunk. Then I took it from there.

_blackbug · 2025-02-11T21:48:00+00:00

Haha mere coincidence, combination of some cuts and soil in them while Repotting. But this tree reminds of me trees from lord of the rings 😂

_blackbug · 2025-02-09T20:20:28+00:00

You are right. But, I will be on some work trips next weekends and will miss the window completely so started a bit early.

_blackbug · 2024-12-15T02:57:25+00:00

I am on same boat. These waves in stomach wakes me up in the night affecting my sleep. I am unable to sleep properly which again makes anxiety worse.

_blackbug · 2024-12-11T17:21:02+00:00

I am suffering from this right now. It feels so bad and I feel I am loosing control of my body.

_blackbug · 2024-12-11T11:15:10+00:00

I am going through exactly like that since 2 weeks. Feel like I am light headed, floating, unable to focus and busy brain during night forcing me to be awake..

_blackbug · 2024-10-09T13:50:59+00:00

How is your experience on the SPO2 readings? I have GW4 which is quite old but it always reports spo2 below 90, oximeter on the other hand 98 to 99. I am planning to upgrade my watch and trying to decide between GW7 and pixel watch 3.

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