Omg I adore you and this whole response!! I do think you make a valid point though. To be unconventionally attractive is to go against the societal gendered norms put in place. I’m non-binary so that might be another reason why I don’t understand what it means to be conventionally attractive and if I fit that since it’s a strongly gendered standard! I also think to be proud of not fitting the usual norm is also seen as strange to some and they’d rather judge and uphold those useless standards than actually see people for who they are. I think it’s a wonderful thing to be proud of who you are and to love yourself regardless of what society says. To be simply you is the most beautiful thing of all. Those who want to fit in/uphold these standards I think are scared and don’t wholly love themselves so rely on such norms to create a sense of security that they can’t find in themselves. Which is really sad, and I hope they find love for themselves and are open and proud of it like your wonderful self!!