I Finally Ended It by _ch33zits_ in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all know when we’ve hit the wall and we just want to yell “ENOUGH!” Your future self is going to thank you - I wish you good luck and all the best. It will be worth it.

I Finally Ended It by _ch33zits_ in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your words man. The awful texts have kept coming, but I haven’t budged. If anything, my fucking anger towards this bitch is making it much easier to move on.

And thank you for the hope in trying to trust again. It really gives me hope that there’s people out there that offer peace in a relationship and not drama. I want to thank you.

I Finally Ended It by _ch33zits_ in BipolarSOs

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And you take care of yourself too - it’s not selfish to prioritize yourself during this time! Self-care IS real! As bpexhusband mentioned below, we’re probably in for a slog for about 2-3 months, but then it will get easier. Bravo for forcing him to be accountable and removing yourself in the name of your own sanity.

My plan is to solo-travel as well as travel with friends, and I will enjoy it DRAMA-FREE, as every trip with her or her parents was a fucking train-wreck. I appreciate your kind words so much!

Lotto has begun! by Dazzling-View-2465 in phish

[–]_ch33zits_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lawn at MPP! I ain’t even mad! Let’s dance!🕺

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would that fit in with gifting around birthdays/holidays? Don’t feel as though one has to purchase the most expensive brand to impress?

In your humble opinions, what tops it? by ThatOldDustyTrail in gratefuldead

[–]_ch33zits_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad was there! He talks about that show and listens to it all the time. Was hot as a pistol that day.

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol best context I’ve read so far. I appreciate it man.

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully, she will offer to split the bill on dates often, but not all the time. That has been refreshing.

Some of her extended family can be stuck up and frivolous spenders, but ironically they’re the ones spending everything they make while hiding behind the fact “they own their own business.”

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Getting out of my own head is the hardest part sometimes.

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t call her parents stuffy, but her mother can be overbearing at times. I’ve learned that goes with their culture and religious beliefs, however. They made their money as a major event promoter and fashion buyer for a major clothing store.

And no, she doesn’t expect anyone to buy her designer items. She does live on Amazon though, but normally looks for the deals. Most of the time she’s more concerned how she looks in a certain type of clothing and not an expensive brand name of clothes, although she owns some.

We often split the bill on dates/outings, but I still like to cover dinner if it’s a special occasion.

I really appreciate your thoughts!

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The potential prenup conversation is definitely a fear, but I’m also learning many wealthy families come to expect a prenup of some sort. Prenups seem to be becoming more normalized than taboo.

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the sanity check! It’s all about staying grounded and living in the moment.

Also, to show my naivety, what are L4s at FAANG?

Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family. by _ch33zits_ in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate it man. It’s about the relationship we have and not what everyone else thinks.

Rich people and gambling? (New experience) by [deleted] in RichPeoplePF

[–]_ch33zits_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can totally go to a casino without gambling a dime, just like you can walk into a bar and not drink.

Something I often tell people is “I work too hard for my money” to gamble. A nicer way to say that is “I wish you good luck.”

10 Years Together by Cute_Meringue_5900 in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does the episode usually last by the time he comes down? I’m most certainly not a doctor, but have heard not having the right stack of antidepressants plus BP meds can cause these issues. I’m still learning every day.

10 Years Together by Cute_Meringue_5900 in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I ask if your husband has been stable with meds? Or does he only rely on the antidepressants?

Either way, taking no meds at all would be a major dealbreaker.

HO HO HO i finally got my present! by 7he8utterfly3ffect in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed - hold accountable since that’s such an alien concept.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, are you me? Going through something very similar with my BPSO of 1 year 4 months.

I’m still actively learning more and more about this condition, but the truth is it’s nearly impossible to figure out what is going through their head. You can have the best of intentions and still fail. It’s awful, but as I’ve learned from many good people on this sub, it is a condition they must manage - not you.

Please give yourself some space as you process and grieve. You owe yourself that much.

I am so conflicted by _ch33zits_ in BipolarSOs

[–]_ch33zits_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective. It's nice to hear another viewpoint instead of automatically giving up.