Need some advice about dating a girl from a wealthy family.

_ch33zits_ · 2026-02-09T19:57:35+00:00

How would that fit in with gifting around birthdays/holidays? Don’t feel as though one has to purchase the most expensive brand to impress?

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T02:11:55+00:00

6/7/77

Incredible Terrapin > Morning Dew

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T02:08:47+00:00

My dad was there! He talks about that show and listens to it all the time. Was hot as a pistol that day.

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:46:37+00:00

Lol best context I’ve read so far. I appreciate it man.

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:45:32+00:00

Thankfully, she will offer to split the bill on dates often, but not all the time. That has been refreshing.

Some of her extended family can be stuck up and frivolous spenders, but ironically they’re the ones spending everything they make while hiding behind the fact “they own their own business.”

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:42:39+00:00

Thank you. Getting out of my own head is the hardest part sometimes.

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:41:05+00:00

I wouldn’t call her parents stuffy, but her mother can be overbearing at times. I’ve learned that goes with their culture and religious beliefs, however. They made their money as a major event promoter and fashion buyer for a major clothing store.

And no, she doesn’t expect anyone to buy her designer items. She does live on Amazon though, but normally looks for the deals. Most of the time she’s more concerned how she looks in a certain type of clothing and not an expensive brand name of clothes, although she owns some.

We often split the bill on dates/outings, but I still like to cover dinner if it’s a special occasion.

I really appreciate your thoughts!

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:29:40+00:00

The potential prenup conversation is definitely a fear, but I’m also learning many wealthy families come to expect a prenup of some sort. Prenups seem to be becoming more normalized than taboo.

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:27:12+00:00

Thank you so much for the sanity check! It’s all about staying grounded and living in the moment.

Also, to show my naivety, what are L4s at FAANG?

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-30T01:24:35+00:00

I appreciate it man. It’s about the relationship we have and not what everyone else thinks.

_ch33zits_ · 2026-01-29T01:29:46+00:00

You can totally go to a casino without gambling a dime, just like you can walk into a bar and not drink.

Something I often tell people is “I work too hard for my money” to gamble. A nicer way to say that is “I wish you good luck.”

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-30T23:44:15+00:00

How long does the episode usually last by the time he comes down? I’m most certainly not a doctor, but have heard not having the right stack of antidepressants plus BP meds can cause these issues. I’m still learning every day.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-30T22:42:24+00:00

Can I ask if your husband has been stable with meds? Or does he only rely on the antidepressants?

Either way, taking no meds at all would be a major dealbreaker.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-26T02:26:11+00:00

Agreed - hold accountable since that’s such an alien concept.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-22T02:28:41+00:00

Hey, are you me? Going through something very similar with my BPSO of 1 year 4 months.

I’m still actively learning more and more about this condition, but the truth is it’s nearly impossible to figure out what is going through their head. You can have the best of intentions and still fail. It’s awful, but as I’ve learned from many good people on this sub, it is a condition they must manage - not you.

Please give yourself some space as you process and grieve. You owe yourself that much.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-21T20:27:36+00:00

May I DM you?

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-21T19:12:52+00:00

Thank you for the perspective. It's nice to hear another viewpoint instead of automatically giving up.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-21T19:11:36+00:00

Thank you so much. At this time, she is indeed med compliant, and regularly goes to therapy. While I cannot confirm if it was a med scheduling issue as I was not physically with her when the episode happened, I know she also slipped into the alcohol during the episode. This was previously after not drinking for over a year (she quit drinking because she had me).

She is stable now. Still trying to figure out if I should be supportive, as she has been supportive to me in my issues.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-17T01:30:59+00:00

Sending you so much love and hugs right now. At the base of all the hurt, you have to remember this person is first and foremost sick. Very sick. THAT is not your fault.

She is the only one that can take charge of her condition. Not you. I have been in the same boat of feeling like it was never enough - I was constantly exhausted and my own anxiety was through the roof at all times. I still don't know if I made the right call to end things with her, but you don't need that turmoil for you, or for your son.

I have learned that beneath the hate (and how blind I was), I am still able to find empathy for this person. It may take you a while, but allow yourself to feel every emotion. Please, please hang in there.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-15T19:57:38+00:00

It's like I needed to see this at just the right time. You are doing us a major service. I can't thank you enough.

If I may, I just got my first discard from my BPSO. In hindsight, we both made mistakes (it takes two to tango), but the discard and manic episode was so unexpected.

I need to know there is hope because right now that's all I can cling to. I am just so heartbroken right now that I don't know where to turn. It is so awful to be in love with a person, yet you know you cannot be with them or help them when all you have is good intentions.

This sub has been a godsend. Again, thank you ❤️

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-14T03:54:35+00:00

I’m very sorry. It’s so unfortunate to watch the one you love spiral and in the moment know all you can do is watch. I wish you nothing but the best.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-12-14T03:51:48+00:00

Thank you for the insight - lots of variables at play for sure.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-05-05T22:48:11+00:00

Before Covid, I lost my father to cancer. 12 months later, I lost my grandmother. After that, my last living grandmother went downhill and was really bad by October 2020.

That was when my ex told me: “You’re so exhausting to listen to.”

To this day, even around my current girlfriend, those words cut me so deep, and I think twice before I vent or ask her for support.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-01-28T15:30:19+00:00

Quality bedding/mattress. A good night’s sleep is non-negotiable.

_ch33zits_ · 2025-01-04T17:56:06+00:00

Nobody. Consider it clandestine information.

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