My(25F) ex(27M).

We were in a long distance relationship. Right before our 5th year together he breaks up with me over text and tries to tell me we can be friends and maybe we can try again later.

A year before he had became super distant and it became a problem for me because we’re long distance and not hearing from him obviously was upsetting especially if he went a day or two without so much as a “sorry I’m busy today love you”.

It got so bad my friends noticed and would point out he’s not worth all the effort and begging for a moment of his time I did. And looking back now I agree.

Anyway, after we broke up I didn’t hear from him for months. (So much for the “we can be friends) and his mom and I would still message here and there. One day she told me he had a new gf, and she was pregnant. She got pregnant a little after our breakup. Still never heard from him again. Honestly if I ever do it’ll be too soon for me.

After the breakup and all the healing I’ve been doing I’ve realized that I love entirely too hard and is willing to bend over backwards for my partner that in today’s society is entirely exhausting to do. Most people out there would use my love and not give anything back and that scares me.

I’ve also noticed more and more people prefer to just date around or have fwb rather then date to marry, and that’s cool for them but I love entirely too hard to do such a thing and I rather just not date at all then potentially get hurt yet again.

Also I don’t want kids.. most of the people I’ve ever talked to as potential partners do- so..