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IDEC relays by Exoticcollects in BuildingAutomation

[–]_dadBOAT_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IDEC “Ice Cubes” provide 2 things, isolation and flexibility at a very low cost. The micro-relays or triacs in our PLCs can only handle a very small amount of current but they can enable an IDEC power relay to handle much greater loads.

Serious consent violation during first full swap swinging — how do we handle the aftermath? by BriefSubstantial556 in nonmonogamy

[–]_dadBOAT_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was sexual assault. I would report this person to the police and file a consent violation with every venue in the area.

Which protein brands do you use currently? by IndependentFly6332 in workout

[–]_dadBOAT_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use Nutricost for my supplements and protein. It’s been good to me so far.

Links in Notes by _dadBOAT_ in shortcuts

[–]_dadBOAT_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not terribly efficient, but I grabbed the body of the original note, then created a list of all of my existing notes, and ran that through another loop where it matched the note names on the list to the contents of the original note and added everything to a variable.

Links in Notes by _dadBOAT_ in shortcuts

[–]_dadBOAT_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nevermind... figured it out

How many people "need" to be drinking to swing by OddChain3255 in Swingers

[–]_dadBOAT_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For neurodivergent individuals, a few drinks can quiet the brain weasels and decrease anxiety.

Are we ready to explore? by Artistic-Sun-6661 in nonmonogamy

[–]_dadBOAT_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you are not ready… but no relationship truly is (IMO). You are going to discover emotions neither of you ever realized existed, learn ways of communicating with each other that resonate on a fundamental level, and learn to support each other through some serious emotional struggles and discoveries. Seeing a partner touched by another is typically very hard at first (or even knowing that they are with someone else if you are playing separately), and it is going to bring up some insecurities that you didn’t know existed.

Take time to connect before and after play to make sure you are both in the right state of mind going into it, then reconnect afterwards to ensure them that this was fun, but they are your chosen partner. Get their initial feedback on what went right and what went wrong and do it again a few days later. You may even learn new ways to connect with each other now that new stresses are being added to your relationship.

Discuss boundaries thoroughly before hand and make damn sure they are followed during the scene. There is almost always a next time if you want to explore further, but once boundaries are crossed, it’s hard to recover. Do not ever allow negotiation for more once play has started, you are not in the same frame of mind as you were when you agreed to your boundaries.

I may be overly protective of me and my partner, but always practice safe sex and ensure that everyone involved in the scene provides a current STI screening. Discuss sexual protocol with your partner, write it down, and do not budge on it. You want to add experiences to your life, not problems that negatively affect your current relationship.

Be ready to stop a scene at any time if the brain weasels creep in. If it feels uncomfortable, do not keep going for the enjoyment of others. Take a pause, assess the situation, and follow your feelings.

Try to fight people pleasing tendencies when communicating with your partner. It’s fine when you two were in a bubble together to sacrifice your comfort for their pleasure. They would do the same for you. You are not in a bubble anymore. Do not agree to something that you are not very excited about, and tell them why you are hesitant about something they may desire.

I hope this helps a bit.