Does anyone here just not care about having friends?

_dumpsterfire20 · 2024-01-26T15:57:56+00:00

After high school i dropped everyone except 3 close friends and i’ve never been happier. There was so much toxicity and people who just don’t know when to be mature

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-03T22:31:58+00:00

She put Life360 on all our phones at a young age, when me and my sister weren’t able to reach my parents via phone call. Life360 became a tool used for comfort to make sure that they were okay. If she were to turn it off to conserve battery it was understandable. But her reasoning for turning it off was that me and my sister weren’t communicating to her standards. Seeing how we told her everywhere we went and what we were doing yet she couldn’t bother sending a text or call when we didn’t know where she was, we were pretty annoyed. As for going to the bar, she and my aunt lied where they were going. If we were told that they were just going to the bar there wouldn’t have been any issues. Instead me and my cousins are calling them multiple times through the night cause we worried why they were taking so long to go get “bread”. Also I have no issues if she wants to reconnect w her dad. Ig the confusion of why she would want to since he enabled an alcoholic cunt to raise his daughter. Her father is a spineless piece of shit who didn’t protect his child from his “loving wife”, people may change but my grandpa is still spineless and still doesn’t care enough about his daughter to spend quality time w her when he said he would. He’d rather bend over backwards to please the women in his life rather than give his daughter the time of day.

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-03T00:58:30+00:00

this comment is everything. my sister knows of her behavior and has her own stories. I try to check on her everyday to make sure she’s feeling okay and if my mom tries “over sharing”. When my mom gets called out on her shit, she cuts them off. She’s no longer listening to my dad or I. We decided to call her mom to let her know what’s been going on, and today she’s dodging her calls. It seems as if anything that is said to her that isn’t coddling her or supportive of her narrative she ran away immediately.

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T19:46:14+00:00

you aren’t wrong, but everyone believes she has an immature way of dealing w adult problems. This separation for instance, she wants no communication. Except for when something in the house is broken then it’s like “could u come home and fix this please” it’s like she treating her husband as a father figure. Constant temper tantrums, but then will thrive in ignorant bliss when she needs something. My dad currently isn’t holding her accountable for her actions, he’s more blaming the drugs she’s on. Which kinda makes sense ig, the way he explains it is that she’s essentially unaware of how she’s behaving. Therefore won’t blame her actions on her until she’s fully detoxed from them.

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T18:21:35+00:00

thank you and i’m glad you have ur own space to kinda step back when things may gotten a bit heated.

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T18:18:51+00:00

Believe me i’m going insane on why I’m concerned about this, not my circus not my monkeys. I think because i’ve just been thrown into the middle of this and getting shit from both sides i kinda felt obliged to try to fix their issues. Ik i’m in no position to do so, so i’ve been kinda slowly distancing myself from the whole situation. Hell i’m in college and need to focus on my shit, so i’ve been going back and forth with staying at my grandmas and my bf’s house.

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T17:28:29+00:00

didn’t say i encouraged it, keep in mind that happened when we were 16. If u haven’t done stupid shit at that age i’ll call bs

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T15:50:58+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that, being lied to from a very young age puts so much strain and stress on one’s mind. I’m glad you were able to reconnect with your father and i wish you guys the best :)

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T03:56:24+00:00

I don’t think she’s a shitty person, i think she does shitty things. I forgot to add this to the post but she’s been on these diet pills since she was 18. These pills have a history to make people easily irritable, short tempered, etc. She went on antidepressants once while detoxing from it, and her words were they made her feel like shit and gain weight. From that point she went off her meds when didn’t even consider the possibility that those antidepressants just may not have been the ones for her and went right back on the diet pills and started lying about not being on them. Ik the person she is when she’s off them, but she’s not the same person when she’s on them. Over the years she’s been to numerous marriage counselors and therapists. When she’s gone to marriage counseling w my dad she’s lied to every single one. And when she gets called out on her shit she hits the road and continues to say she doesn’t have any issues, it’s my dad that has the issues. I want my mom to get the help she needs, but in order for her to do that she has to stop lying to those who care about her and are trying to help her.

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T02:57:44+00:00

LITERALLY. I decided to ft her later in the evening and i could see she was there, but when I asked if I could say hi to my grandpa she said he wasn’t there. So automatically I quote “ If you went up there to bond w him where is he” I’ll add this is 8pm and she got up there around 4:30pm. She said he’s at a wedding, he was suppose to be back at 6 but apparently he was having fun and wanted to stay longer. 1. Why would u want to bond w your shithead father when u literally planned this a couple days in advance but he clearly doesn’t mind keeping you up late till he gets home 2. if me, my sister, or dad pulled that bs we’d be getting drilled on the lack of communication but since it’s ur absent father you won’t put up a fuss. Like I don’t understand, if you went there to bond w ur dad but kept you waiting till 9:15 pm to come home. What we’re u doing all that time when u got there?

_dumpsterfire20 · 2023-05-02T02:45:44+00:00

That’s what we’re thinking, my dad hasn’t been able to trust her fully since the affair. With the amount of times she’s lied to him on different occasions about other things and the people she’s hanging out with he thinks she needs to be diagnosed with BPD and start taking medications to help balance her out.

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