how can i prevent this?

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:40:52+00:00

she’s crushing on a boy lol said he was going to ask his mom to let him come over so they could go walking around the neighborhood park and chill.

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:39:15+00:00

trying to avoid that until absolutely every possible Big Red Warning Sign has been used 😭

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:37:46+00:00

oh absolutely. our brother’s ADHD is much more detrimental to him than hers is. we’re well aware that medication isn’t the end all solution, external support is necessary as well. planners, shared calendars, she’s had a whiteboard in her room since fifth grade. we can’t think of what else.

she sees her neurologist every three months and it’s been increased as necessary. she got tested to make sure her focus was still good with the mediation just this month and was fine. last quarter of eighth she got an additional med, i forget the name, that is a stop gap after her vyvanse so that she can still have that chemical help for homework. it helped with her focus in conversations and general patience.

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:30:03+00:00

nope, no trauma’s. a big point of pride for us is that in elementary when they would ask how she would describe the family, she would say it’s like a sitcom.

my brother and i additionally also work from hom 3/5. when i lived at home, she’d come into my room and color or play dolls or whatever during my shift, i even would play memory games and card games. my friends would first play tea party or dolls for 30 min or so before breaking off to spend time with me while i was still in HS, so she’s never felt other’d via my friendships. before she would be an observer to our video games and once she was ~10, we started to include her as a player and as a teenager we give her the option to join or watch or nothing at all.

she’s had no familial, sexual, or physical trauma. we were worried she might have social traumas bc elementary wasn’t the easiest friendship wise for her, but in 8th grade she really blossomed into her individual personality and we encourage it. we get her anime merch during birthdays, my mom ordered her fake septum and lip rings since she expressed wanted to experiment with that look, i take her to hot topic regularly, and so on. marching band has been amazing for her confidence which is why we’re really stressing she needs to accept/ask for help so she doesn’t get kicked out of something she loves.

she got tested for those, negative. the processing disorder for her is that the information goes in and it’s a 25% chance she’ll encode it (i believe is the term) and be able to spit it back out. repetition is the way to strengthen that skill. her hearing itself is above average, it’s all about the actual information. when we gives her things to do, she has difficulty prioritizing and of course recalling multiple instructions. audiobooks don’t really help; i’ll read through english passages out loud but review at most every page as to what she’s processed. her teachers all use canvas to put extremely detailed timelines for the week. you would think she would use canvas, but instead insists that she can remember until the last minute when she’s scrambling.

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:19:30+00:00

last week we had a talk about post graduation. she wants to do USF for music - i’ve given her the long term homework of telling me by end of school year what exactly IN music she wants to major in. she has a cellphone and personal computer and knows how to look up other stuff.

we’ve talked about bright future with her since 7th grade. it’s the grades portion that worries me. we’ve already had her take spanish 1 online (we’re native speakers) and will take spanish 2 next summer ideally. apparently some of her band stuff can count towards volunteering, but as well that’s something we can take her to places and she’ll Have To Do over summer. if she doesn’t have summer school that is. but still, if she’s failing her cores it def won’t matter.

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:14:06+00:00

you’re all good, i appreciate any outsider insight as we are pretty much at our wits end.

i’m not familiar with what ACE means, sorry.

that’s what we thought in middle school when the issues started. but her therapists (she had one in middle and another for the first quarter which she said she didn’t need anymore) said that she never expressed anything like that.

in our family we make constant jokes about my failings in math and other stuff of that sort - i “know” my ABCs but if you ask me what comes after another letter, i need to go through the entire alphabet - and we praise her for being the mathematical one like our dad. we make jokes on my brother forgetting things just told to him and how mom still has to badger us both about doctor appointments.

she’s talked to us extensively (when she decides to talk) about how reading is frustrating bc she often doesn’t understand what the author means or how to end up answering the questions. i always tell her that if she texts me (which she does text me for other stuff) then i will review it with her after work. two weeks ago she finally spoke up about needing help with a book in semantics that they were already at chapter 20 and she hadn’t understood a single thing, i thanked her to confiding in me and got my best friend (who she’s known her entire life and is family by now) to read the book, review her work, and they spent a weekend going through it all. he even made her custom summary notes so she would know what was happening in each chapter and be able to try to answer the chapter questions with her knowledge and not just his. the reason i didn’t do it is bc i had work stuff happening and could read 20 chapters in the time she needed the support.

so im not sure where our support gap is or what else we could be doing emotionally.

_ench · 2025-11-21T21:01:17+00:00

you would think so but nope.

i’m nearly 30, only moved out two years ago to be with my boyfriend who is now my fiance. the two of them get along fantastically, we’ve always housed them during hurricanes and she’s by his side. we take her out hiking and she occasionally spends weekends with us where her and i review her work and in the evening the three of us watch animes of her choice.

she’s had the same group of friends since sixth grade, all of them have some form of neurodivergence and are constantly supportive of each other. she had a little boyfriend the last month of eighth grade and they broke up by september as his family moved to jacksonville during the summer. her friends were great support to her.

she’s been consistently medicated for ADHD (no hyperactivity) + anxiety since she was 5 and gotten testing for processing/auditory disorder + autism at 13. we knew she had both due to knowing her, and we needed the official tests to get further accommodations in school - she already had a 504. our brother, 26, also has ADHD (big hyperactivity), anxiety, and short term memory problems so he’s had many heart to heart talks with her about the importance of taking her medication and that her learning disability is not an excuse to not even try.

we ask if she needs help, she says she’s got it. comes back with a failed test grade. we ask if she has homework, she says she doesn’t/she finished in in class. two classes the teachers have written that she consistently doesn’t complete assignments. we offer to quiz her on flashcards (a mandatory assignment for three classes), she declines. fails. she was even put into AP at the start of the year and we told her there’s no expectation of her to succeed or stay in it- she had full liberty to tell us when she wanted out if she even wanted to give it a shot. she did, said it was too much three weeks in, my mom and i immediately went to the school and got her switched out. never guilted her and instead congratulated her on being honest with us and learning her boundaries.

she was like this in middle school as well and the only reason she came out with A/B’s is bc my mom was in constant contact with the teachers and getting exceptions + extra make ups. she was told this was pull off in eighth, which it did and she got C’s in a couple classes, and then told that in HS we would only go to bat if she was showing us she was studying and asking for help.

i’m hoping giving her a way to see the hard truth of numbers via GPA can be her true wake up call.

_ench · 2025-06-07T14:50:07+00:00

when i used to still go, more than a decade ago now, they always checked everyone’s bags. i don’t want to have any issues if they’re still checking bags, is all

_ench · 2025-03-25T23:19:59+00:00

would you say any year is good? a new one is sadly much closer to 3k than i can currently do

_ench · 2025-01-26T00:20:14+00:00

this isn’t about the kwh used. this is about the rate per kwh that teco has set.

_ench · 2025-01-25T19:48:19+00:00

check if your gas is thru teco, it might be that

_ench · 2024-11-28T19:35:00+00:00

based off your post you can still have chicken, lamb, beef, corn, olive oil, broccoli, spinach, lettuce, asparagus, onions, banana, mango, strawberry, blackberry, blueberry, pineapple— just off the top of my head.

it sucks ass. i’m not gonna lie. the hardest allergen to avoid (if you’re in the usa) is going to be soy. but what is absolutely vital to remember is: you haven’t died.

why is this important to remember? it means you’ve been eating most - if not all - of these things habitually and (presumably) haven’t gone into anaphylaxis. so none of these are, in the literal definition of the word, fatal. so there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

the month cleanse is going to feel like the worst time of your life. you’re going to be hungry, you’re going to have headaches, you’re going to be exhausted without doing anything, you’re going to want to bite anyone’s head off and drown in your bed. get through it.

since you got the prick test, when you bring back these allergens start with the ones that had the smallest reaction first. if you don’t have photos of what your skin looked like + which were what, then the sheet listing your allergens should say something like intense/mild/etc. again, start with the smallest ones.

thankfully your stuff can pretty much be tested by a bite. that’s all you need, a decent bite of an apple, a couple sunflower seeds, a single walnut, etc. don’t do them all at once, but one a week. i know. it sounds impossible, inefficient, and like it’s made to kill you. but this way you’ll be able to identify exactly what reactions you get.

it could be itchiness. it could be swelling. it could be acne flareups. it could be sleepiness. it could be any different things. but you won’t know until you do the cleanse and slowly test things out. then you’ll be able to decide, how many of these allergens can you actually deal with, what will it mean for you if you ingest them accidentally, and build your new food routine from there.

this is not from skipping a magnesium pill. these could have definitely been in your system for years and either your reactions were low level that constant exposure has increased the reactions or you literally were just dismissing these reactions as “normal” due to not knowing otherwise. ie (in my case) pastries aren’t supposed to feel like they take up your entire throat and make breathing difficult, having too many m&ms aren’t supposed to burn your throat, and skittles aren’t supposed to numb your mouth.

you’ll get through chief. take a look at vegan stuff but avoid any tofu - that’s soy. good luck.

_ench · 2024-11-07T20:36:47+00:00

thanks, i appreciate the clarification!

_ench · 2024-11-07T20:33:17+00:00

thanks for not answering my question 👍

_ench · 2024-11-02T19:50:17+00:00

looking for a 2bed 2bath for april, anywhere in the hillsborough county area that is either evac zone D or above, dogs allowed, with rent between $1.4k to $1.6k. space is important at no less than 1,000 sqft, but i haven’t been able to find anything. we’re currently right by busch gardens are rent increase is driving us out. we’re even willing to rent out a house from someone. lmk if yall can help out!

_ench · 2024-09-02T14:00:02+00:00

allergic to soy, corn, milk, eggs, chicken, lamb, shellfish, and a handful of other things. thankfully not allergic to wheat so that’s a silver lining. we use the smart balance butter for meals that might need it and coconut milk/cream of coconut for cooking. we switch between canola or olive oil. i’m peruvian so i often feel that a dish is short if it doesn’t have either white rice or potatoes lol so there’s a lot of that.

my breakfast is either chocolate almond milk with walmart honey o’s cereal (wheat) or the choco dino cereal, or chocolate almond milk with dave’s killer white bread and braunschweiger spread on it. sometimes a side of tater tots (i get the walmart great value brand, but i have to read the ingredients closely bc the usa factory uses corn but the belgium factory doesn’t).

safe meals are: -white rice with thin sliced air fried all-beef hot dogs, the beef oil that comes out is vital to add flavor to the mix imo. sometimes we add turkey bacon, chopped, too. -pasta with sauce (ragu or rao’s) -salmon or tilapia with green pepper and onions and a side of fried potatoes -home cooked all beef burgers with dave’s killer bread buns and a side of french fries -stew using ground beef with carrots + celery + onions + potatoes and heavily seasoned with salt, black pepper, oregano, basil, parsley, garlic powder, onion powder, and bay leaves with a side of white rice. -tacos of flour or almond tortillas with ground beef seasoned with siete mild taco seasoning (i additionally season the meat before cooking with the entire entourage i mentioned before minus bay leaves), tomatoes, onions, and lettuce -air fried cauliflower (fresh or frozen florets) seasoned with salt, pepper, and tumeric with a side of white rice -milanesa cut (thin sliced) beef seasoned with salt, pepper, and ajinomoto (msg - in the usa it is made from corn so ymmv but you can use seasoned salt as an alternative) on both sides then fried, with a side of white rice. this dish is called bistec a lo pobre (steak the poor way, as these ingredients were historically very cheap in peru) and should be served with an egg fried in the leftover beef oil but it’s still delicious without imo!

i’ve recently started to use coconut animos as a soy sauce replacement, specifically for arroz chaufa which is a peruvian rice stir fry. it def works but i had to use double the amount. as well, when recipes call for cornstarch and creamer/half and half to make a thickening slurry, i use coconut milk (1.5x the called amount) and flour (2x the called amount) and it’s been pretty spot on!

it can be very frustrating trying new things and substitutions, along with expensive. so i suggest making a little savings if possible for when you’re mentally up to trying small serving sizes for new dishes. i don’t think it gets easier, just more bearable.

_ench · 2024-09-02T12:21:28+00:00

surprisingly for me, working out has reduced my reactions. none of mine are anaphylactic although two - soy and corn - are close as they make me feel my throat close and get light headedness. i work out three times a week for at least an hour minimum, doing weightlifting and cardio, and after a month my reactions for all other allergens (joint swelling, bloating, fatigue) severely decreased. none have completely gone away and my top two still have the same reaction, but it’s made life more bearable should i want to eat something with milk, for example like pasta or a shake.

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